I really need your advise ladies! Has anyone ever asked their bridesmaids to help for the bill for their dress shoe hair and makeup ect? Thanks xxx
CommentAuthorKirsty
I have told them the budget for each of them and explained any more they would have to pay, but all of them have said they will contribute to it, it just gives me more money to spend on gifts for them?
CommentAuthorRennie1989
I asked my bridesmaids to pay for their shoes and will be asking them to pay for their hair. The shoes were under £30 each and the hair is going to be £25 each (less for the children) so I'm not asking for much, considering when I was bridesmaid I had to pay for my shoes and hair. My MOH was a little reluctant to pay for her hair but I explained that we are on a budget and can't afford to pay for everything, tbh even £30 for bridesmaid hair in this area is good, £25 is brilliant!
CommentAuthorCarolineW10
I have been a bridesmaid three times and i must admit its expensive for everyone! I have bought my own shoes for one of them but the rest have been bought for me. My Bridesmaid have offered to buy their own shoes but im going to try and pay for them. TBH they have enough to pay for! with the hen do and staying at the hotel the night before and after my wedding. Although i see it as an honour to be asked to be a bridesmaid its is a finacial burden on alot of people and at the end of the day i think it is the brides responsibility to pay for makeup and hair. Solves and avoids arguments too.
CommentAuthorHappyBunny
When my daughter was a flower girl I bought her dress and the bride brought her a shrug and some sandals. Xx
I bought my bridesmaids dress but she bought her own shoes and paid for her own hair and make up. Personally, I wouldn't ever ask a bridesmaid to buy her own dress as that's usually the most expensive part.
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CommentAuthor*The NewMrsMalin*
I think it is up to you and them; Try and come to an agreement with them. I have paid for the dresses for mine but I think they may do their own hair and make up but will have to ask them.
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CommentAuthorElizabethS77
I've been a bridesmaid a couple of times and had to buy the shoes both times and pay for my hair to be styled once. I will be buying the dresses for my bridesmaids (I wouldn't feel right letting them even think of contributing to these) but budget has meant I have only asked 2 of the 3 girls I wanted. I'm planning on choosing a long dress so they can either wear shoes they already have or buy their own and I don't have to worry about them matching as they'll be hidden mostly from view! I wouldn't want to make demands on the style if I'm not paying. Jury is still out on their hair I guess if I decide I want them to have a certain matching style then I will pay otherwise I'll leave them to sort their own.
CommentAuthorOfficially Mrs M
i had a budget in mind for the BM's dresses
Budge was £90, actual dresses cost £45, shoes were £10, Hair and Make up £25 and there accessories were £20 so they were £10 over budget. there room the night before was paid for by the refund from the hotel
actually thinking about it they got an easy ride to be fair lol
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CommentAuthorJoanna
I want to add that my bm paid her own hair and make up because she wanted her hair and make up done and she chose her own styles
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CommentAuthorNataliesoon2bMitchel
I am the same as ElizabethS77, I have bought my bridesmaids long dresses as one wants flats and the other wants heals so this way their feet will be covered and because of this I am not paying for their shoes. I am still indecisive as to whether to pay for Hair & Make up of not, because we are getting married in Cyprus they have already spent loads on the hotel etc but at the same time its not something I deem as being important though it would be nice for them. Hair & Make up there will cost £55 per BM so will have to have a think. x
CommentAuthorHappyBunny
Ill be buying my bridesmaids dresses and paying for hair/make up xx
CommentAuthorCheekyTerri
My Chief BM is already saying that she wants to contribute, so it might be worth having an evening with them to chat about wedding stuff and then approach the subject with budgets and wait for one of them to say they don't mind contributing. They'll usually all feel similarly at that point.
Maybe approach the one you think would be most amenable to the idea first and chat with them about it; hopefully they'll say it first for you then.
If they funny about it, maybe talk to a local beauty or hairdressing college? To pass the higher levels they often have to do things like wedding hair and makeup. They might do it as an assessment or practise piece at a serious discount or maybe even free!
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CommentAuthorGemmaP11
I was a bridesmaid 3 times last year and each time I bought my own dress. I have 6 bridesmaids, the three i was bridesmaid for I asked them if they would pay like i did for them and they had no problem about it. the other 3, i told them they need to act like theyre paying for their own around the others, but told them i would buy them, and all 3 of them said not to worry and they would pay themselves! I've just had a baby so they all said to save my money for her.
It can be quite awkward asking them to pay for something themselves, but the day does get expensive for yourself and h2b, and if theyre good friends they will appriciate this.
You could always slip into conversation that you want (something) on your wedding day but its too far out of budget. mention that h2b is thinking of asking groomsmen to buy their own suits so you can afford something extra special, and hope they offer to pay too?
When I was asked last year, they just came out with it, asking if I would mind paying for the dress as everything was getting expensive. Just be honest with them and ask if they would mind. you could even offer to go halfs if they want to?
Sorry for the ramble! xx
CommentAuthorBryonyEminson2Be
Im asking my older 2 to pay half for their entire outfit- which honestly will come to about £40 each (same amount as we are asking groomsmen to put towards their suit hire) i think its pretty normal to ask for help with at least some part of it, the way i see it is that with older bridesmaids they will be getting a dress from you they can wear again and again, same goes for the shoes and accessories, least they could do is help pay- especially since you are also paying for their meals- i know that might sound a bit harsh and bridezilla-ish, but my older bridesmaids completely understood and since the younger 2 are my sister and SIL2B my MIL2B offered to pay some towards them as she originally wanted to pay for all the flowers but i said we would prefer this. Dont be worried about asking for help, most of us have to do it at some point x
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CommentAuthorTatty
We are buying their dresses but they are paying for their shoes and accessories. Hair wise I'm lucky enough to have a SIL2b that can do beautiful updo's so she's doing them for free. x
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CommentAuthorKirstenD30
I'm not asking my bm's to pay for anything. Simply because I'm getting it pretty cheap anyway. I got their sandals for Pr*mark for £4 each. My mum bought their hair pieces and jewellery. They're wearing evening maxi dresses rather than proper bm dresses and I have friends that are going to give me discounted hair and make-up. I would suggest bringing it up in a casual way in conversation rather than just asking outright, just incase they think you're being rude.. Good luck x
