my sil is my onky adult bridesmaid atm but if i can get 2 dresses in my budget i was considering askimg my friend as shes been a big help so far.
but im really unsure on what to do!!
how have you decided who and how many? ... i have 2 flower girls and waa thinking 2 adult bridesmaids also. but i had hinted to this friend a while back that id love 2 but funds didnt allow.. now if i can get 2 dresses for say £100 (would just take maybe sale hunting and a good shopper!) they r both big busty so luckily the same dress will fit both fine and wont take forever searching for that happy medium!
im so undecided :-(
CommentAuthorVelcro
would you regret it afterwards looking at your pics and your friend wasnt by your side?
If so then go for it
I know money is a major factor but you can easy find a couple of dresses for 100 quid x
Wibbly wobbly, timey wimey
*Kelbel* is my wedding twinny!
CommentAuthorMidgetGem89
oh we r also having a no children wedding as its 3.30 till late.. other thsn bridal party, which means her dsughter could come and then that would mean there would be anywhere up to 6 kids there (my 2 my neice best mans 2 if he brings em and hers) i love her daughter but would feel quite unfair to every1 else who cant bring theirs... it was alwqys known bestman could bring his as one wouls only be 6mnth old and his mam has an invite her parents dont live here so his mam is their only baby sitter.. how do i get round that
CommentAuthorMidgetGem89
i just feel as shes already been so helpful pointed me to the right ppl helped with colours etc and says if i have no1 to go to any fittings with me etc she would glady come along to help.. she was going to come when i tried my dress with belt but mam thought it wasnt right as she wasnt a bridesmaid... we rnt super close but tbh i dnt have alot of ppl i would call good friends anymore.. shes definatly someone i trust tho.
CommentAuthorVelcro
Its not up to any one else to be honest, if you are happy to invite other children then it is no one else's concern. You dont have to invite her kid(s) just because she is part of the bridal party though, if she was happy enough to leave the child at home as a guest then I dont see what difference being a bm would make to that situation? If it were me Id be happy of the night off and let my hair down, my daughter only ever comes to family functions, i wont take her to friends ones even if invited
Wibbly wobbly, timey wimey
*Kelbel* is my wedding twinny!
thx im seein her nxt week so ill see how i feel after that the only main concern i have is her sil is an old friend of mine years ago when i was planning my wedding she was without question a bridesmaid but things have hsppened since as they do! she will be at the wedding tho lol i know its noone elses business what choices i make but got so many things running through my head with it all im so stuck!
CommentAuthorVelcro
i know what you mean! ive had a lot of grief over mine but we have just grit our teeth and got on with it. if you do things for the easy life before you know it its not your wedding, its other peoples idea of one!
Wibbly wobbly, timey wimey
*Kelbel* is my wedding twinny!
CommentAuthorMidgetGem89
thats so true :-)
h2b thinks i should just ask her she has been a big help so far also shes took over role of my hen party even tho i dnt want 1 lol shes vry excited and its nice to know for all we havnt been friends for years she still feels excited for me.. (old friends nose will b right up her arse like lol)
CommentAuthorVelcro
i think your htb is right, go for it ;)
Wibbly wobbly, timey wimey
*Kelbel* is my wedding twinny!
CommentAuthorMidgetGem89
thx for your help :-) i think ill wait to see her and see if it feels right more than likely ill be asking her i think
CommentAuthorAprilS61
I think you already know that you want to ask her to be a bridesmaid :) it certainly sounds like it. I couldnt have my sister and nieces due to a family fallout, so I asked my 2 friend ps which was all fair and well, then me and my cousin got back in touch and I asked her. We've been friends all our lives (21 & 22) but fell out for 9months and have patched things up and were the same as we were before. She was really pleased and even said shed pay for the dress, accessories if she needed to. You never know, if you say to your friend you would have asked earlier but were worried about funds, she may offer to help you out too (providing on her circumstances of course) x
Mr & Mrs Swan 04/04/15
CommentAuthorVictoriaL46
I agree with all the above. You sound like you have already decided you want her as a BM but need reassurance your okay to do this. What matters on the day is your happiness and that you have the right people around you. Your BMs are your support structure around you.
I'm having 3 BMs Who are my FSIL, my best friend and sister n all but blood and the third is a really good friend I met at work who has helped me so much already with this wedding. My FG is my best friends daughter (my niece)
Met in Nov 2005
Engaged 13th June 2013
Becomes Mrs Stewart on 10th Aug 2015 Honeymoon in Florida!
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CommentAuthorMidgetGem89
i want yo asl her bt i want no drama of "well i was meant to be bm u never even got on at first" which is true we went thru school together and never rly spoke she was in with the mean girls group iykwim lol but over the past few yr and mainly having the kids weve grew pretty close and as i say shes been a huge help.
my friend turns everything about her (her sil my old friend) and my wedding is nt about her. just a little worried asking her would make things even worse.
i said to oh i wish he knew his sister then my choices would be simple haha! his is easy, hes picked his best mate as best man and my brother is other groomsman and our son page boy.. i dont have a "besy frind" who lives up here mine lives in bournemouth, we r durham area n theres no garantee she could make it also its her anniversary the day before lol x nightmare it shud be easy shouldnt it lol xx
