Sorry but I needed to get this off my chest, with people I hope will understand. I'm getting married on the 3rd august this year so at the moment things are pretty hectic sorting out last minute bits and bobs. One of my bridesmaids is getting married next year and has asked me to be a bridesmaid which I am delighted to be. However since then her wedding seems to be taking over- we have been to several dress fittings for her and now she has gone and bought bridesmaids dresses for me as they were on offer.She expects me to drop everything the week before my wedding to try it on so she can return it if its not right. I wish she would wait a few weeks to get my wedding out of the way but don't know how to tell her!! Help or am i being unreasonable?
CommentAuthorDonda
No I don't think you are being unreasonable at all, I think it's your friend who is being unreasonable, she could have the decency to wait a couple of weeks. I would have a word with her, and explain how you feel, explain how busy you are, ask her how she would feel if it were the other way around. This next week should be all about you and your wedding, not hers, she will have her time next year. If she is a real friend she will understand.
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CommentAuthorInDreamland
You're not being unreasonable at all! Her wedding can wait! She has a year to go and BM dresses don't need sorting until 6 months before at the earliest!
Just ask her gently if she could just hold off on anything non-essential (which is almost everything) until after your wedding and explain calmly that you're super stressed at the moment with your wedding!
I understand how you feel as my sister who is my MOH has just been asked to be a BM for one of her friends who is thinking about setting her date for 1 month after my wedding ..................I'm worried my sister will end up tied up in her friends wedding preps but she assures me that as I'm her sister and she's my MOH that my wedding will take priority over her friends but I am still worried.
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CommentAuthormym72
I can understand how you feel in a way as we got married around the same time as you last year. But on the other hand, if your friend has already bought these dresses and needs to know if they are ok or whether to return them, then I can see her point.
From experience I know we weren't busy every minute of every day for the last week before we got married, so I'm sure you could find a spare hour or so to visit your friend and try the dress. It might be that if the dress isn't right and you try it after your wedding, then it might be too late to take it back then.
You could explain to your friend that you don't have much time but can spare an hour or even half an hour. I'm sure she'd understand if you can't stay to socialise - but the break from your own wedding plans may be good for you to take off the last minute stress.
CommentAuthorLauraJo87
I think your friend is being a bit insensitive, but as I'm sure we all know, it is easy to get carried away when planning a wedding!!
If you really don't have the time ( which is completely understandable) just say to her it is so manic right now, but you'd love to do it after the wedding.
She may not have any idea of the stress she's causing you, so maybe just tell her you wouldn't be able to give her issues the attention they deserve til after the wedding. And that she's got all this to come!!!
I think a week before your own wedding is probably a bit insensitive of her to expect you to drop what you are doing for her wedding..... BUT...it might be quite relaxing for you to zone out of your own wedding prep for a little while and do something NOT related to your wedding...... You have a manic week ahead of you, so tell her that you will do it for one day, but then after that you need to concentrate on your own wedding.
