H2b had just nearly made me cry ....was talking about dresses for my daughters to wear as BM`s when he said you dont need BM`s they are only for a wedding and we are getting married abroad, when we got engaged i said i`d like to get married in a countyr house etc H2b didnt so as a compremise i agreed to wedding away if i could have a renewal of vows/blessing here as i wanted to involve my 4 children ......he has just said i dont know how you are going to pay for all of this , when i challanged him he said ok i dont know ehere you think all this money is coming from i wont have any if we move ...... i just told him if he is that bothered we can go to the ********registry office and then to the local pub and ask everyone to buy thier own meals ...... I am currently not talking to him !!
Men :: shakes head :: hope you're alright hun, it's natural that you want to include you girls and as you're not having the wedding you've always wanted you should be able to have this. You've made your sacrifice. They needn't cost the earth, if need be could you have say 4 matching primark dresses? They do do some nice ones, and okay the quality isn't always outstanding but they'll only be needed once, or matalan, or ebay, or george?
CommentAuthorMrs Daltry
borrow one of kellys pimp sticks and whack him lol
I'm sorry but seriously what does he want from you? You're making sacrifices and he's not even prepared to comprimise? I don't like to speak ill of people but he sounds like he is being (being not always is) an asre. You're not allowed a few quid for your own childrens outfits for the day yet you're expected to pay a small fortune (Judging by what some of the girls meals are costing per head) to feed people I'm guessing you rarely see from one year to the next, plus having surplus little ones there can cause some major changes to planning and increase costs
CommentAuthorMrs (Dove) Pidgeon
Who needs a pimp stick? A knee to groin gets the point across!
Now a extremely happy German housewife and now a Mother!!!!
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CommentAuthorxxsophieMxx
hi hun, i hope your ok? im having a renewal of vows and blessing after we get married and we too are having flower girls and a bridesmaid. tell your h2b that a renewal of vows is exactly like a wedding so why not have them be your bridesmaids, especially as they are your daughters. xx
CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
thats what i told him sophie ....... just been asked " what are you in mood for" ...........still not speaking to him
does he not realise that you have alredy sacrificed things to get married abroad? does he get on with your daughters? it must be a big thing for them to see you geting married, and surely they will feel very left out if they aent your bridesmaids, especially as your new husband says they cant. even though they arent exactly kids, im sure they stil feel as though they are your ''little girls'' just tell him straight!! xx
CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
yeah he gets on really well with them and my son ........ have worked out that i will have saved £3600 in the next 2 years anyway .....now this is red rag to a bull time ....will be putting everypenny away just to prove him wrong
I managed to get my BM dresses from Monsoon in the sale for £40 each, they are gorgeous so you can definetly get your girls some beautiful dresses without spending a fortune. I hope you manage to work things out soon :-) xxx
