Just wanting everyones thoughts on the bridesmaid paying for their own dresses! Also should they be charged for their shoes and bags and other bits? Thanks x
CommentAuthorMrs (Dove) Pidgeon
In my opinion... If you say they must have something, like a certain bag or pair of shoes or dress, you, the bride should pay. If you don't mind, leave them to sort their own.
If they offer, its different.
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CommentAuthorVickieb82
My thought was .... they would be buying a new dress anyway ... I don't know what to do really!! They all work and have good jobs and they know my budget is tight .... I don't want to ask them really ....
CommentAuthorHellsfire02
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my bridesmaids are paying for their own outfits, including shoes etc. But I don't generally mind what they wear, the only input i have had is on the corsets, if you want to dictate their whole outfit then i would say bride pays as it's only fair, my only stipulation was that their outfits had to match at least partly. x
CommentAuthorVickieb82
Thanks for the advice ladies... I want them all matching exactly so I guess I'll have to foot the bill, unless they contribute slightly ha ha!! x
you could buy the dresses then let them get their own shoes etc so they have a heel they are comfortable in etc xx
CommentAuthorHalloween_Bride
my bm's are going halves with me on their dresses & i am buying their shoes & bought their fasinators xxx
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CommentAuthorcymrugal
ive bought all 7 of my bridesmaids dresses all because, i want them towear what i have choosen x x
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CommentAuthorEriksfjord
My Bm's have paid for thier dresses. I asked them all up front whether they would be prepared to do this and they all said yes! It has really helped with costs. I have bought thier tiaras and jewellery. They all have dresses in the same claret as my dress from the same designer but they were all pre-loved from bay of e. They are all buying thier own shoes and handbags in silver as I want them to be comfortable and buy shoes they can wear again. I think it is fine if they can afford it or go halves like Halloween Bride! My suggestion would be to have the conversation and see what they say! xx
CommentAuthorWinterrose
I bought my BM's dresses because I only have one adult and the other two are too young to buy their own so it only seemed fair :) x
CommentAuthorVickieb82
Thanks everyone! As mentioned I am on a tight budget and my 2 girls are been bridesmaids, so i already have the cost of two of them!! I think I will ask because obviously they are my good friends and I know they will understand! Even if they pay half for the dress and I buy all the extras I will have saved!! x
CommentAuthorNHR115
I am buying all my BM's dresses but I have told them there is a budget of £150 max for each dress. They have agreed to pay anything above that if there is something they really like. xxx
CommentAuthorvickyG
i said that i would pay for my bridesmaid dress dependin on price... i managed to get one off ebay for really cheap, she bought her own shoes and i said as long as they go with the dress get anyones she wants so she will want to wear them again. i paid for flowergirl and all her accesories cos she is too young to be made to pay lol. I think if you set a price and if they want something more expensive make them pay the rest xx
CommentAuthorMrs Sazra
I've paid for mine but then I wanted specific outfits. My MoH has said I can have the dress back after though, if I want to sell it.
CommentAuthoralimarie05
i am buying mine, but i only have one adult and 1 child to buy for. plus i am choosing the colour and accessories. There are lots of people who do buy them and then sell them afterwards on ebay or local ads. if you are on a tight budget i would have a look on ebay, there are some great ones on there and they do go for next to nothing, just check the sizes with the seller to make sure they fit and go for the dry cleaned ones (it can cost you as much as £50 per dress). i'm sure they'll not mind you asking or even try dropping some hints, good luck with your wedding x
CommentAuthorlinzi
I am buying my girls dresses, flowers, shoes and jewellery. I think its actually a bit cheeky to ask them to be a bridesmaid,then ask them to fork out lots of money for dresses and shoes and stuff. Especially as they will also be buying you a wedding present too. However to save a bit of money, I am going to present them their jewellery in a little keepsake box, and that will double up as their thank you present!!! Only 2 of my 3 bridesmaids have offered to pay anyway......
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CommentAuthorShell
My bridesmaids are paying for there own dresses, there own choice as well - which is fine by me, lol :) Any other extra bits I shall get myself for them xx
CommentAuthordebs x
I bought all of mine (5) and shoes and accessories but we are not buying the bridesmaids gifts as they will all have everything to keep x
CommentAuthorjenniebean
we are buying the dress and flowers and they are paying for thier shoes and shrug
CommentAuthorVickieb82
So many different opinions about this ... I was hoping you had all gone one way or the other!! Ha ha!! I've really just thought all along they would pay towards.... only recently have i considered they wouldnt! My thought was that they would have to buy a new dress anyway! I'm having 3 adult b/maids and my 2 daughters as flower girls. I have looked on ebay but cant seem to see any i like! I'll keep on looking and have a 'meeting' with the b/maids to see what they think! Thank you all for the comments .... really helpful :) :) x
CommentAuthorshellay
mine are paying for their own dresses, but we didnt ask them, they said that they would do so, and its a big help, i will probably pay for the accessories and the hairdressers though x
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CommentAuthorSuzie Bear
We're buying all the dresses so they match. They can buy their own shoes and accessories. For the little girls we're buying the standard little white dresses for £15 from our local market! (bargain!) x
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CommentAuthorlizzyleek
Both my bridesmaids have bought their own dresses and I am doing the same for my MOH wedding in Turkey I have bought their shoes, jewellery and hair accessories etc I think it is totally up to the individual! x
CommentAuthorvintage lass
I personally think that if you ask someone to be bm you should pay for their dress! xxx
CommentAuthorruthie87
my mum bought all the dresses including mine. We had no limit but got a fab deal on the bridesmaid dresses in debenhams only £50 each, got pics up if you wanna c them, lovely material tho.
CommentAuthorloola_hoop
i didnt even think about BMs paying for their own stuff, im getting married in sept 2011 and am only kinda researching my budget atm, and having 5 BMs is so far gonna cost me a fortune, i am (so far) paying for dresses, shoes, accessories, hair, make-up and nails! so is it the norm for BMs to contribute towards their own outfits? i just assumed as they were attending my wedding and doing me the honour of being my BMs that i would foot the whole bill! xXx
CommentAuthorMrsMills2b
It looks like I'll be having 7 bridesmaids - I don't want any of my girls to miss out!! I want them all in the same dress, so I'll be footing the bill, however I'm not buying specific bridesmaid dresses as I want them to be able to wear them again! I've looked on websites and in magazines and there are some gorgeous dresses for like £30!! So this is the road I'm heading down! However, I will ask them to buy their own shoes so they can all stamp their own individuality on the outfit and all be comfortable (or if they're not then it's their own fault!). I probably won't be paying for any hair and make-up either, but I am planning on making them each a bracelet to wear and as a thank-you!
CommentAuthorlulu83x
my MOH has bought her own dress hun, I am buying her shoes and accessories etc xx
CommentAuthornat123
i bought my 3 bridesmaids dressess i got them for about 80 quid in debenhams, but they wanted to get their own shoes etc .. as long as they are all silver i dont mind what style.
CommentAuthorMrs fairytale
i am paying for all my girls dresses, and have bought all their jewellery, but they are paying for their own shoes and bags (if they want one) and they are doing their own hair and make up which they offered to do, when it comes to their shoes all i have said is that they have to be burgundy or white the rest is up to them xx
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CommentAuthorxx Mrs Hamblin xx
my bridesmaids paid for there own dresses and im paying for bags, shoes ect x
CommentAuthorfelicity.h
we will buy ours but my mums putting some money towards them as they will be my sisters.
CommentAuthorLaticschick Holland
mine are buying there own dress but im buying shoes, bag and jewellery
CommentAuthornim
My bM's are my Nieces who will be 16 in a few weeks time. I feel they are too young to pay for their own, So i am going to offer to pay for their shoes and dresses as part of their 16th birthday present, Does this sound cheeky?
CommentAuthorhayleypooh
because i told my bestie she is being my bridemaid i felt it was right to pay for it alll! the flower girls and page boys are my nieces and nephews so mum is happy to pay for those too just so she can see all her grand children looking the same! apart from my niece and nephew on pauls side and mum has agreed to pay for those too! i think if they offer to be bridesmaids then let them pay but if u ask then maybe u should pay etc if you know what i mean x
CommentAuthorJane
Im paying for everything for my two because I thought I ought to seeing as I was the one that asked them! They are both my daughters anyway so dont mind at all!
CommentAuthorKarlie1976
I was paying for all 5 bms but 1 said she would pay for her and her daughter, another offered too... the other offered to go halves so at the mo (depending on how much they will cost) I am paying for 1 and a half, lol! :0) Kx
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CommentAuthorKerrylmac
I think if you ask someone to be bridesmaid you should expect to pay for their dresses. I think it's acceptable for them to buy their own shoes & accessories. If they offer to pay then that's different. I'm bridesmaid to my sister in Sept & I offered to buy my dress as like you I thought well I'd be buying a new dress anyway (although not as expensive) but she declined my offer & is buying them. Having said that I'm having 4 bridesmaid & my 2 daughters as flower girls so wouldn't mind them offering to pay! Lol! X
CommentAuthor~*~ Becca ~*~
my bm alreayd has shoes but we've gone halves on the dress but the dress we found was only £40 which is a bonus so £20 each lol
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CommentAuthorsarahuttley2b-[keera
are bridesmaids offered 2 pay 4 their own dresses as did the best men n ushes,we did say if it was a prob we wud go halves 2 make it fair.but they felt they should pay 4 their own.x
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CommentAuthorMrs Hinch2B
I've got 4 BM and 2 flower girls - luckily the BM's have offered to pay otherwise it could get out of hand! Also my friend is a dress maker so is going to make their dresses to keep the cost down which is always a bonus!
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CommentAuthorWEDDING
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Hiya hope this helps am actually paying for my bridesmaids from dressess,shoes,bags& jewery the reason i did so is you have to give your party gifts after/before the wedding just to say thankyou so i opted for this and told them this was ma gift to them saw i went and choose the outfits then emailed them to each bridesmaid when they were ok with the out fits then i ordered them. Check Debenhams site they have a fantastic range
CommentAuthorsabs
Hi we paid for our bridesmaid dresses and shoes as we asked them so felt it was right to pay for them. x x xx
CommentAuthorVickieb82
One of my bridesmaid has said she will pay for her dress. Once the others know I'll assume they will do the same! I honestly just assumed they would pay for their own dress ... I'll keep you posted ladies! I really need to start choosing a dress for them, everything else is pretty much sorted ... just them lot to deal with :) xx
CommentAuthorKimbo
My bm's are paying for their own dresses but know they need to match colour theme and are shopping together. Don't want them to not like the dresses so they have ultimate choice but need my approval first. I'll just have to try and steer them in right direction xxx
CommentAuthorAtaraxia
I'm buying everything for my BMs as we're getting married abroad so they have to make quite an effort for us and have to pay for flights and everything else... am giving them their jewelry as presents too, know that someone else mentioned this earlier and I think its nice :)
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CommentAuthorhaylsmccrone
i was wondering myself, but have seen some on ebay i love VERY cheap, so if i get these i will pay anything dearer they can pay the difference:) also whats the view on hair? are you paying for hairdressers on the day?
CommentAuthorMrs (Dove) Pidgeon
I paid for the hairdresser and make up Hayls. But I don't think its really necessary I just wanted to have fun with my BMs in themorning. Also I knew one was really unconfident with hair and make up, so if I was paying for one, I felt I should pay for the other two.
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CommentAuthorFuture Mrs Henderson
I am paying for my bridesmaids dresses, shoes and hair however have told them tht if thy wnt handbags, make-up done and any other extras thy will need to buy tht themselves. I think as i am asking thm to wear my choice of outfit its only right i pay. If thy offer to pay thou tht wud b different xx
