All our planning is going well but bridesmaids are driving me nuts! I have 2 adult BMs and 1 I have known a few years and the other approx 1 year but we ar very close! Her hubby is my h2bs best man. Well my friend I've known longest doesn't like our friends and seems very jealous!!! Doesn't like sharing me even tho she lives an hour away! Doesn't help with anything and gets very diva ish if she doesn't like something for our wedding!!! I've decided now that the night before the wedding I'm gonna stay alone coz don't want to choose 1 bm without the other and they won't stay together!!! Lol. Since I spoke to her I have barely heard from her! I'm lol'ing now coz it's so ridiculous! Sorry for my rant.
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CommentAuthorBobsi
tell them its your day so behave. If they cant be nice for one day they cant sit with the wedding party xx
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CommentAuthorWapsoid
Diva bridesmaid? Remind her its your day. Ask them to stay the night, together. If they refuse have a lovely private evening and some you time.
CommentAuthorJohns girl x
But anything I say to her (the one I've known longest) she says fine I don't have to be a bridesmaid!!! Lol I'm not saying that but saying how me and my h2b want it not doing it just so she is happy!!!
Thank you for your help Xx
CommentAuthorWapsoid
Ah emotional blackmail, not very helpful. Well you have time until your wedding to sort it out. So maybe a good night out with just her, somewhere neutral, and talk it through. If she still decides that she cannot be bridesmaid under the conditions you require, such as being supportive and just getting on with your other friend then she can choose not to be. Make it very clear it is her choice. Explain that it would mean a lot to you if she was your bridesmaid but you understand to if she chooses not to be.
ohh that sounds like a right proper night mer similer to mine but ttly diffrent at the same time BM who needs them lol stressful enough in then they start xx
hope you get it sorted hunni xx
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CommentAuthorRockabilly chick
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That's very selfish of her. My Bms never knew each other apart from through me. They arent similar people at all but theyve pulled together to organise stuff and have been great. You should take them both aside seperately and have a word with them. I would be nice about it and say how its your wedding day and you love them both very much so can they at least pretend to get on? Hopefully your oldest friend will realise she is being selfish and generally a rubbish friend. Fingers crossed for you
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CommentAuthorJohns girl x
Thanks girls! The thing is my friend who I've known a year is awesome but oldest friend doesn't like it that she isn't the only bridesmaid. Wanted another friend who I've known just as long and wanted her but oldest bm kicked off coz they rowed when they lived together!! She said I'm not gonna be a bridesmaid if she is! I really should of told her straight then, it's our day and get over your pettiness for 1 day! Arghhh so frustrating xxx
CommentAuthorRockabilly chick
That is really frustrating. My sister was being a total pain in the a55 a couple of weeks ago too. I think its cos they are jealous that its our turn to get married and they want some of the attention. I dont know, maybe they dont realise they are being so difficult or maybe they need a boot up the bottom!
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CommentAuthorInDreamland
She sounds like a right BMzilla! BM's should not have Diva moments unless in the brides favour i.e. something going wrong for the bride and the BM needs to throw a tantrum to sort it for the bride. It's your wedding not hers and as your BM she should be doing what she can to make things easier and less stressful for you, not the opposite hun. xx
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