I need to chat about one of my BM's. We have known each other for years and years, always went on hols together, out to the dancing together, your usual girly stuff. The year before I met my OH she met hers. Now I know when you first meet a new man, especially one that turns out to be a keeper, you go into new couple no mans land. She stayed there for a long time which I can kind of understand.
Fast forward to last year. She is living with her OH, has been for 2 years. We were in a coffee shop having coffee and cake and she is telling me how desperate she is to get wed because she wants to start a family but her OH said he isn't ready to do that yet. He is 6 years younger than her, only 26. Her biological clock is ticking loudly, she says she is worried they will leave it too long. She is quite insecure in her relationship, doesn't like him going out without her, checks his phone, at our last party she kept drawing him dirty looks when he got another drink, clearly she had given him a limit before they arrived.
I know our wedding is ages away being in 2014 but I feel like I can't even discuss it with her. One of her friends is getting married this year, I'm getting married 2014, and the only thing she wants is for her OH to propose, which he has told my OH that he won't consider until he is 30, which is in 2015. Originally I had planned on her being my CBM, but decided it would be best to just have the 3 girls as BM's. Now I'm not sure if she would or I even want her to do that. They visited us last weekend and it was the first time since our Hallowe'en party in October. When I broke my ankle in December she didn't call or visit, I got a text saying get well soon hope operation goes ok. When they left my OH commented on the visit saying 'well that was weird', referring to the chat etc. She just seems so far away now, not geographically but emotionally. The chat was all small talk about the family etc. What they had done since October to Feb she dismissed as nothing really. I've been stuck in the house since 16 Dec with this bust ankle I was hungry for any chat!
Anyway sorry for ranting I needed to get that off my chest xxx
CommentAuthorFuture Mrs Doublé
You need to have a friendly chat with her, I was feeling exactly like her and OH at first only proposed as I put a deadline to our relationship if he would not propose by Christmas 2010, so he just did it for this reason. I realise that any other man would have ran away and I am now making up for having been that way, but I am sure all she needs is reassurance, even if it doesn't come from her OH.
Soon to be Mrs Gary Doublé
Everything is now booked
Getting really stressed and excited now
CommentAuthorkirstymc
I've had that chat lysblanc, a couple of times. I've even had my OH chat to hers, and he told him that once he was 30 he wanted to settle down. It doesn't seem to make much of a difference to her even knowing this.
