Really feeling down about my MOH I have my 2 girls OH sister and my oldest friend from school (MOH) The thing is she is making no effort never shows any interest with anythin I show her or speak to her about the wedding. Is refusing to have anything to do with the planning of my hen night. With no reason given. Has told me if she doesn't like what I get her to wear then she won't wear it but it doesn't really matter as she's getting changed for evening reception ??? :( She's now hit me with that she's planning on getting pregnant for our wedding as previously she was pregnant whilst being a bridesmaid and she enjoyed it. :( I don't understand as OH sister was really just someone from his side to even numbers as we aren't close, but she has been very enthusiastic and helpful with advice etc everything I desperately wanted my MOH to be. Im sorry to rant I may just be feeling sorry for myself but I think if I was a bit braver I might say buck up ure ideas or don't bother but not that brave :(
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CommentAuthorBarbaraU
I think that is the stupidest excuse I have ever heard for getting pregnant,
CommentAuthorMRST2B
I know she wants another baby but they're not sure when to have one as they left an 8 year gap last time and she said that was to long. Her youngest is 2, it just seems a daft thing to come out with. But I think maybe im bein to touchy x
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CommentAuthorBarbaraU
I hope she just worded it wrong, but maybe you should just ask her out right if she wants to be you MOH she might not want to be and thinks she has to because you've been friends for so long
CommentAuthor*KelBel*
Bit weird... And as if she wants to get some attention on herself??
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i think u need 2 say sumet 2 her n that is a funny thing 2 say she wants 2 b pregnant i agree its like shes after attention x
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CommentAuthorAmyP7
Yeah it's a big thing to be just doing it cos she enjoyed being pregnant last time. I agree I would ask he if she really wants to be your bridesmaid at all. Think I would not one someone that's not helped me at all x x
CommentAuthorMRST2B
I am just disheartened as she shows no interest which has been very surprising and I think she thinks it's a just a turn up on the day thing. I may get xmas out of tge way and sit her down and try talk to her. Don't want to cum across like a bridezilla though or to have her fall out with me. :(
Back with my 1st love after 12 years apart.
Not letting go this time :) x
CommentAuthorAmyP7
Yes my bridesmaid was like this, I then realised it would have been a fashion show for her. I'm not saying that's what it will be like with tour friend. I ended up getting rid of mine as she was horrible about my dress etc. but you defo need to talk to her x x
CommentAuthorMrs-Mouse-2-be
I don't understand why you don't just tell her to forget about being a bridesmaid at all. People who do not regard themselves as friends to the bride do act this way. Its called being a frenemy.
Just get rid of her, she's not someone you need around you anyway and she is proving that. If you don't get rid this type of person is the type that will go out of her way to grab all the attention on your big day and quite frankly she's just acting like a bossy jealous cow. I wouldn't even have her at the wedding and I would tell her that and all and she could botch about me to whoever she wants as I wouldn't care. You need to realise that you don't have to hang on to a friend just because you were once close, and you shouldn't feel bad about that either.
CommentAuthorTori
I think it's ridiculous that she is planning on having a baby as she enjoys being pregnant when a bm. Sounds like she is trying to upstage the bride.
You have plenty of time before the wedding I would consider someone else x
CommentAuthorPoppy x
So sorry you have this issue. I agree with the others - you shouldn't have to feel like you're pandering to anyone for YOUR wedding. It is YOUR day, and should be how YOU want it to be. Okay, you can't please everyone, but she could at least be supportive. Try talking to her, and if that doesn't work, I'm sure you have loads of people who would jump at the chance of taking that honour. Don't let it get you down x
