Helloooo I had a bit of a rant yesterday bout almost every think. But today I have bridesmaid trouble!!!! Last year when I was making plans I was going to have 2 hen party's. One a weekend away and one the weekend b4 he wedding round town. well due to most of my friends backing out or cant do dates I was think bout dropping the weekend away. Now the best man to our wedding is getting married I June. So to save cost I choose to forget bout my weekend away. Told my bridesmaid today. and she had a go on me. All she thinks bout is her..... no one else! I really regret asking her. the only reason I not drop her out the wedding is coz I got her dress already and she helping with the center pieces.. Just feel I got no one to talk to :( Rant over :)
CommentAuthorShowgirl
Why would she have a go at you? Surely not having a weekend away means she gets to save some money and there's always the local night out to look forward to. If she really wants to go away for a weekend then she can always arrange a little surprise for you on a different date.
CommentAuthorTrasaD
Honestly? You don't sound very happy/comfortable with her as your bridesmaid anymore, Mayne you should try talking to her about it. As show girl said, she can always go on her own weekend away, and its supposed to be YOUR weekend away hunni, it's your call, not hers. You can always make centre pieces/sell the dress for the money if things are too bad? Xoxox
CommentAuthoralmost a year wife!!
ditch her
Ill marry my hero
CommentAuthorMrs.Laura.Rudge 2b :
Thanks. I going to try to talk to her. give it a months , see if things improve if not I have to do some think. don't really want to b unhappy on my wedding day :) x
ive had about enough of bridesmaids lately! everyone seems to be moaning about them, me included! why cant they just be normal and grateful they are even in the wedding! x
Ill marry my hero
CommentAuthorMrs.Laura.Rudge 2b :
I no, I paid for her dress and yet she moan bout getting her own shoes!! omg what the hell I got ur dress lol! least my other bridesmaid is my sister so she not causing to much trouble yet! lol! x
CommentAuthoralmost a year wife!!
ive got three big ones and only one (my cousin who is 16) is like yeeaaah whatever its your day, so totally laid back shes horizontal!
Ill marry my hero
CommentAuthorTrasaD
I have to admit, reading everyone else's posts lately, I'm kind of glad that I have a bloke as my man of honour now. The only b.m I've had problems with is my sister, but that's just because she won't settle down and its not just me with that problem with her lol xoxox
CommentAuthorprincesspixie
wow i don't think bridesmaids are very popular lately xx
Officially married my best friend 2/5/2015 (secretly)
Big wedding 18/06/2016
CommentAuthorElinor Claire
I'm feeling really lucky, my two MOHs are really supportive. The others are younger so I don't really expect them to do anything, and I haven't given them any jobs to do. The problem I have is that I may lose one of them because she has been placed in foster care. It's totally the wrong thing. Basically my friend, who I lodge with and who is one of my MOHs, is a widow due to cancer, and got into a relationship with a man who is a widower due to cancer, as they bonded over the shared experience. He turned out to be abusive and was eventually convicted of assault against my friend and her then 16 year old daughter. His own daughter saw it happen and refused to return to him, especially as he refused to admit that he'd done anything wrong. His son after a while did go back to him, on the understanding that he could have contact with his former step-mum, but that has now fizzled out, as we knew it would. The father used the threat of preventing the children from seeing their step-mum as a way to keep her in the relationship, because he knew how she felt about them. My friend had to go to court to try to win custody of the daughter, as she wanted to stay where she was, but he argued that my friend was manipulating her and that he wanted the child put in care and rehabilitated into his care. The child is 12 and knows her own mind, and was not manipulated in any way, but the father won and she is in foster care and not allowed any contact with the people that she has known and loved since she was six. I'm hoping that by the summer some contact will have been allowed in which case there's no reason for her not to come to the wedding, but at the moment social services are being really stubborn. She will never return to her father now, so my hope is that eventually people will start to listen to her, but at the minute none of the professionals involved are paying any attention to her wishes.
30th August 2014 was the best birthday ever.
It was the day that I became Mrs. Dixon.
CommentAuthorShowgirl
Oh Elinor that's such a pants situation! I really do hope thhat the daughter is going to be allowed contact with your friend and is then eventually released into her custody.
CommentAuthorSJJ
LOL @Miss Weedles first post...to the point lol ;) I agree though there is soooo many posts on here about BM, its awful, when I was asked to be BM, both times anything and everything in my life went on hold until I'd done my duties! My entire year was all about their wedding lol (and I was very happy about that!!) shame others cant be the same xx
CommentAuthorDonnaH39
I feel so lucky to be honest, we talked about getting married over two years ago but fiance only proposed this new years.
When I look back I'm so glad he did as certain friends have shown their true colours over those years and others have really proven to be rocks, my bridal party is completely different now to what it would have been back in 2012 which was when we were planning on originally getting married.
I honestly don't see how she can be mad at you for not going away for the weekend for YOUR hen do
CommentAuthoralmost a year wife!!
SJJ I am in no mood for bridesmaids atm lol I've another thread about one of mine ha! So glad when all this is over x
