Major rant! Back ground - one of my bridesmaids is my h2b best mates / best mans wife. I sacked my bridesmaid back at begining of year a had trouble of some of them including the one above. She begged for ages for me to let her be a bridesmaid again so her and my best mate where taken back as bridesmaid and also 2 new ones as I stopped speaking to other 2. The bridesmaid that this rant is about will be know as K. We all hang out a lot and h2b been friends with k for 8 years since his best mate married her. I knew they were all close.
- right well bridesmaid k begged for ages after reinstating her as a BM to plan the hen night. it was nice of her to offer to do that 4 me so i let her. So the planning begin and I was kept out of it and didn't know anything all I did was give her the guest list and mobile numbers. She made it clear from start I would not know anything. 2 weeks ago i get a message saying "hun do u thinky bridesmaid holly would be upset if she moved hen do till end of month as she cant afford it' Well i said yes she would she my best mate and it would upset her to miss the hen and i would hate saying yes to moving it knowing she couldnt cime!
so after talking to h2b and him and k being friends 4 years called her as i was upset as it was a horrid situation to be put in as she said either she wouldnt come on 8th or move it and holly not come. So she said as she has to pay for her holiday (that she couldnt afford) she has ended up not paying her rent for 4 weeks and hadnt told her husband my h2b best mate as he would leave her knowin she has being lying to him saying she paying it and hasnt and knowing they couldnt afford the holiday and pay rent. So we lent her £300 2 weeks ago to pay her rent and askes us not to say anything to my h2b bestmate her husband. Ok fair enough not our place to go causin trouble between them and it would have. We leng her money in past but at this time it was 5 weeks to wedding and that was some of our wedding saving we lent her so she said it would be untill 21st of this month only. We have lent her money loads of times in past and not told her husband as she asked us not to but she always paid in dribs and drabs.
Anyways long story short Saturday comes and it's finally the hen do. My best mates / bridesmaid picks me up at 12 to go get hair, nails etc done after they had been running around all morning getting ready 4 evening while k that was suppose to be organising it sat at her best mates doing nowt and left them to rush around and do it all and take me to get ready. I must say they were so fab my 2 best mates. So we're ready out the door h2b takes us in car I have no idea where and we turn up at put after being sat around the corner for 15 mins as she was late and had to get the table ready with balloons.
I walk in great :) happy waited for the last couple of people to turn up of which 4 were my friends and the other 4 were k's best mates and family that I know and get on with but ain't close to. The meal went well we had a great laugh done shots at bar then waited for taxi's to arrive that had been ordered earlier in night. Then round corner comes the party bus :D wicked, amazing was such a laugh everyone enjoyed it. We done karokie badly haha everyone was happy specially me. We gets to my bests mates dads club and she had arranged the VIP box and free drinks and guest list. Awesome :) My other best mate taught us some moves on poll as she goes poll dancing classes. Then we danced and was joking around having great time. Then 11.30 comes and K's best mate comes up and say by the way u know k leaving right? Well no I didn't so I went out side and sparked up fag and k ask me what's up as seemed bit down. So explained to k that I was just little upset she was leaving so early as had only been at club 45 mins and asked if she was alright and y she was leaving. So then she said she was skint! Right ok so I says I'll pay for her to stay after all she had organised all this and it would be nice for her to stay out and enjoy the night! Well that was it wasn't it!!!
Now remember we had just lent her £300 2 weeks b4 for 'rent' and I knew nothing about what was planned and wasn't even told who was going and who wasnt only a few said to me personally they couldn't come out of 30 people.
She went kicking off big style shouting at me that this had cost her £250 for the hen do and she only got £160 bk off the girls that came and she was £90 quid out pocket and she hasn't been able to pay her rent for 7 weeks and it's all my fault I'm ungrateful proper shouting at me. Now I'm not normally the type of person that stands there and takes that but I was so shocked and taken aback as was so unexpected I burst out crying and just stood there while she carried on blaming me for hen night being so expensive blah blah blah. So my two best mates notice her yelling at me and come over. Asked what was going on to that k said she was going home as she was skint so again my best mates / bridesmaids says to K stay out we will pay 4 u get u home u don't have to pay us back to which she keeps yelling at them saying she wanted to go and we were all out if order. Forgot to mention her other best mate turned up half hour b4 and she sat there in corner on sofa with her and ignored everyone. So we had her gobbling out the van that had come to pick up this other girl and k saying don't bother with them they a waste of space just get in car k!!! So K still shout walked off got in fan, ripped her bridesmaid sash off b4 throwing it out window!!!
CommentAuthorTori-Mrs.Mitchell2b
By this point I was sobbing my heart out absolutely shocked at the out burst and upset with being accused of being ungrateful after I'd sat with her 4 15 mins earlier in night thanking her for everything and how wonderful it was and how much of a good time I was having :/ (if u got this far the best bit yet to come)
Her friend that left with her then puts a fb status on saying she can't believe how ungrateful some people are. Meaning me!!! So I comment saying that bout me is it?!
K had only gone and rang my h2b making out I had been totally ungrateful and how upset she was was with me and other bridesmaids!!!! I mean OMFG does this women have no shame!!! To call my flipping h2b and make me out to be the bad one and ungrateful after she had just started blaming me for the cost of hen night after 1) I had no control over what she organised and 2) we had lent her money out of our wedding saving that we needed to pay to stuff 5 weeks b4 our wedding to pay rent she blatantly had used to pay it!!!
Well her best mate kicked off at me after that and said no matter what even if k in the wrong she won't have a bad word said about her. Fair enough I was in no state to be saying anything I was to busy crying my eyes out ruining my make up! She has been a complete pain right the way through. She wouldn't come dress shopping so we got dress with out her. She wouldn't come shopping for shoes so girls had to put of getting them as she said she didn't have money and wouldn't let us pay for them so then the shoes were gone. She didn't come to final dress fitting or any if them 4 that matter. She didn't come over for the girl evening or afternoons. Didn't help with anything just then hen witch I never pulled on any of other stuff as she was busy planning the hen night.
So hour after she left some of us left as k best mate was being horrid to me (and had earlier in night invited her bf that's like 55 along to my hen night which upset me) so we stopped at spa and got some drink and my other 2 bridesmaid and another friend came home and carried in drinking had laugh but was still upset as she had been so mean!
Next morning h2b comes bk from his dads as he was staying there as my best mates was staying at ours. I was in bits all day. H2b had to leave for work in north Wales as he works away in week and since then K has been texting him saying how ungrateful I am and how bang out of line I am. And no matter what she doesn't want to loose my h2b as a friend as she done nowt wrong. Are u serious B.I.T.C.H !!!!!!!!!!!!
So now I'm really angry I mean serious angry to go to try cause problem between me and h2b 3 weeks b4 our wedding who does that. I have never done anything to her even on the hen I'm ungrateful for offering to pay for her to stay out and have good night!!!!
So she kept txtin him today and he finally rang her to find out what was her side of it!! So I finally went mental and said I ain't done anything wrong and for her to go around saying other wise was bang out of line. How dare she after she ruined the night . After a think about it me and h2b talked on phone and I said that's it for her to go running to Adam trying to cause problems between us regardless of how long she known him is bang out specially as i had done nothing wrong! I said to h2b 3 weeks b4 my wedding I shouldnt be made to feel like I got to worry about me Adam splitting up by some horrid spiteful c u next Tuesday trying to get her claws in and get my h2b to fall out with me making me out 2 be ungrateful and nasty. No way was I! So I said he either on my side we a team and won't let people cause problems between us or I'm not marring him as I'm not spending rest of my life worring every time someone being spiteful he gonna to stand by them and not me. He rang bk and said I never have to worry he in my side he knows I'd never be rude to anyone it's just not me. And the fact she texting him trying to say things bout me is out of line. No matter what she shouldn't be causing problems between us.
We now agreed that we are both going to ignore her and go on holiday next week, if she hasn't at least appoligiesed by time we get bj week before wedding she won't be at wedding full stop. If she does then she can come but won't be bridesmaid. And if she says one thing out of line well my mum will kill her!!! And then h2b will ask his best mate to take her away.
But I swear once the wedding over I will take this B itch down, Who would do that to someone 3 weeks b4 our wedding!!
I'm so fuming I can't sleep! I'm glad I have nothing to worry about regarding me and h2b coz she did make me worry she was gonna try pull rank on him and he a bit of a soft touch tbh. But I'm worried about the wedding now :'( I don't want my wedding ruined by her. I'm uninviting her mates as they started attacking my friends that wasn't even at hen on my status earlier thanking people for coming to hen.
So upset and angry I never thought she could ever be like this, but then she been Wierd for months now everyone noticed!!! I don't know if it's jealousy or just plain spiteful ness! Either way after the wedding she will find out just how angry I am! No 1 tries to get between me and my man and split us up! She is trying to ruin the happiest time of our life and I'll make her pay for it! She will never be our friend again!
Thanks ladies sorry it's long I'm not normally one to rant but I mean omg !!! I wanna rip head off!
CommentAuthorCharlotteB32
Oh my goodness what a pain in the ar@e.
She doesn't sound like she has a truthful bone in her body, lying to her husband about money, lying to your h2b about other things.
I'd go on holiday. Chill out for a bit and try not to stress too much about it. You have more important things to think about. I would still bin her from the bridal party though. You don't want that negativity around.
It sounds like she has some serious debt issues that need addressing though and she is living beyond her means. But that is not an excuse to say and do what she did to you.
You are better off without her.
CommentAuthorJadeE26
omg bless you huni .. think I would have battered her by now lol :-/ xx I am so glad your h2b has stood by you but you shouldnt have to go through stress like this right before your about to get married .. If i would you I would tell her husband about the money you have lent her and the fact they could be homeless before long ;-) PAYBACK is a B***h x
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eeee tori my eyes are stinging after reading all that lol! What a royal pain in the backside!! Unfortunately some ladies dont like it when all the attention is on someone else and will do anything to get it bck to them....pathetic really! Just chill out about it all, your h2b obviously loves you and the fact that she's still going on at him about it just shows what a jealous moo she really is! tbh if it was me id have ripped her head off by now so well done you for being the bigger person!
Dont let her stress you out on your big day! word people up and have them keeping an eye on her incase she starts kicking off so they can remove her without pestering you and ur h2b. good luck with it all chick n enjoy ur hol xxx
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Had our amazing twin boys 16/05/2008
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I dont think i could wait that long to pay her back, she sounds so nasty and deserves a nasty payback i would have to let slip about all the money that she has borrowed from you to her hubby before i went on hols. (might not be a wise thing to do but i wouldn't be able to help it !!! )
CommentAuthorShazk
Oh huni this is not a good read my heart is going out to you and just want to give u HIGE hug!!!
She sounds a horrid piece of work who isnt worth urs or H2B time. Im glad H2B thought about it and did rightt hing and realised her lies but like you say what person does that kind of thing at any point but that close to ur weding on ur hen night is just damn right NASTY.
Getting away sounds like a good idea some time away from it always good If that was me I would be very tempted to tell her she uninvited 3even if she did say sorry therre is no need for that behaviour at all!! x
Away with the flutterbys xxx
CommentAuthorVelcro
she sounds vile! I'd never borrow money behind the boys back... I can't even think of a valid excuse, everythng just screams dishonesty. I think you've put yourself in a compromising position loaning her cash behind her blokes back too, especially if he is your hubbys close friend. I'd be tempted to come clean and completely clear the air if you are planning on having it out with her at some point. I just get the feeling it will come out, and you don't want it to be in the heat of the moment in a rage. You've been nothing but accomodating toward her, and she just sounds like a complete psycho.
Wibbly wobbly, timey wimey
*Kelbel* is my wedding twinny!
CommentAuthorNicholaP44
I think u need 2 tell her husband about the money u keep lending her and te rent she keeps failing 2 pay. I wouldnt invite her 2 the wedding at all if it was me. Wot a nasty horrible s**t. I wouldnt even talk 2 the cow anymore hun, it will get 2 her more if ur not bothered bout the witch! x x
Marrying "the 1" on 4th Oct 2013
CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
I think her hubby needs to know about the money now, and that it is not the first time you have lent her some. She needs a royal kick up the jacksy!
Our wedding day - 6 October 2012
CommentAuthormadison_uk
umm that was an essay and a half lol, now the revenge side of me would let slip about the money you have lent her to pay her rent to her husband, which she clearly hasn't, and wouldn't lend her anymore, then I'd stop all contact with her and tell h2b to ignore all her text's, I'd uninvite her cause you will ruin your own day by being on edge waiting for her to kick of and you don't need that on your day, Lets hope your H2B stands his ground and ignores here
CommentAuthorTori-Mrs.Mitchell2b
Omg ladies thank u so much for all the comments I didn't think anyone would read to the end. I just needed to get it all out and wrote down so it was out of my head and I finally slept :D
U are all right, I'm so surprised at her cheek after everything we do 4 her. She is a vile person and I am surprised I ain't knocked her head off yet!! I think me and h2b decided that if we need to tell her husband about the money we will but we don't want to be the ones causing problems in their relationship (unlike her) but if we must then we will as it is prob the only way her husband can understand actually what she is like and it wasn't my fault.
Can't wait for holiday :) no phones and a week of sun!
Gotta be longest rant ever in the history of ukbride. Thanks to all of u really need a friend and I'm amazed at the response <3 xxx
CommentAuthorLlosa
I'd so tell her Hubby that she borrowed money off you guys...how horrid! Tell H2B to ignore her, she has obviously got a bee in her bonnet about something
That was a mother of all essays Hahaha, didnt want to read and run x
CommentAuthorVelcro
Sometimes a good rant is what you need to get your head clear lol
And, Have a good holiday :)
Wibbly wobbly, timey wimey
*Kelbel* is my wedding twinny!
CommentAuthorTori-Mrs.Mitchell2b
It has cleared my head :) after everything that happened it was spinning around and around and it helped get it down. I woke up feeling so much better and stronger and u know what this girl will not ruin anything else.
Can't wait for holiday we have a fab time. So as I been away for a while how are all u lovely ladies. Heard uk bride was taken down that true? X
CommentAuthorLegoWife
I think you're handling the situation really well, you're really being the bigger person and that takes a lot when you've been hurt and are angry!
Astounded at how she freaked out like that though, after everything you've done for her and have never actually asked anything of her, she wanted to plan the hen and you weren't even ungrateful!? What on earth is going through her head! Still I hope you can forget about her for a while and enjoy your holiday and your wedding!
