Well 1 of my bridesmaids text me a couple of days ago asking how I was and how the wedding plans are going, so I replied saying we will be going for thier dresses soon. she ten text back saying that she's bin thinking about it and doesnt think she will have much time for dress fittings (even though Im getting the from the high street) and she feels like shes imposing as a bridesmaid because it should be for family, and that it would be less hassle for everyone if she wasnt one! Im so shocked Ive still not replied cos I have no idea what to say to her :( sorry for the rant xxx
CommentAuthorBeskiboo
Would talk to her not text, just explain why you want her to be a bridesmaid. There might be something else going on with her
CommentAuthorJoey
oh no. Is she a very close friend? Ive got a best friend that doesnt want to be a bridesmaid. shes told me loads of times coz i keep asking haha. Shes planning my hen night though and thats all she wanted to do. She didnt want to stand out at my wedding but wanted to take a back seat and enjoy it. Strange but it will save me money :) Maybe your friend is worried about standing up in front of everyone? x
CommentAuthorChrissy
Oh dear, poor you. She's left it a bit late to tell you! Is she close to you? I just wondered why now she would decide this? Maybe you need to ask her to her face? Might make you understand a bit. Good luck hun, big huggles xxx
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CommentAuthornic_87
I know its so unlike her and if she feels like your joey then thats fine. Im no bridezilla lol my sis has chosen to take a backseat cos she will be 7 months pregnant and I completley understand that. Im just confused cos she was made up when I asked her and has never done of said anything the suggest otherwise since. Also kinda annoyed that she chose to broach the subject through text :s she is quite close to me but latley shes been a bit more distant, we dont seem to be as close anymore xxxx
oh dear you need to talk to her face to face about this and why she feels like this.
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CommentAuthorRags
There could be loads of reasons why she doesn't want to be a BM and maybe she's embarrassed to tell you the real reason, at least she's not backing out after the dresses have been bought. When I asked my BM's I told them that I'd love for them to be BM but up until we buy the dresses if they want to back out there will be no hard feelings, I am planning on being a nightmare bridezilla ;).
I'd arrange to meet up with her and have a coffee and a chat and see if you can work out something that your both happy with :) Good luck.xx
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CommentAuthorJoey
yes i agree with the others hun. Just give her a ring and ask her why. She owes you an explanation really. xx
CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
I agree that you need to talk to her. It sounds like she is lacking confidence for some reason. Do you think it could be the way she views herself? Will she feel comfortable in a dress? Has someone said something to her to upset her. Maybe she is just lacking confidence and is in need of you to give her some reassurance?
CommentAuthornic_87
Your all right Ill speak to her, tell her thats fine if its what she wants but ask if theres any other reason. I cant think why she's be uncomfortable shes gorgeous! lol but I know we never see ourselves that way. thanks girls I was pullin my hair out thinking of what to say! xxx
CommentAuthorRachie :D
If she's 7 months pregnant she may be feeling rather low - hormones are a funny thing hunni.
Talk to her face to face, and I hope it works out for you xxxx
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CommentAuthornic_87
nooo thats my sister thats pregnant lol, I completley understand her not wanting to be one hehe xx
CommentAuthorMrs Hinch2B
I'd give her a call hun and have a chat about it! keep us posted on how you get on xx
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CommentAuthormelliecake
I can understand how she feels about imposing on family, but tell her you'd like her to be bridesmaid as much as anyone else (if it's true). You definitely need a good chat, I hope you get it sorted x
CommentAuthornic_87
Thanks girls Ill try and have a chat with her, Ill keep you posted! xxx
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CommentAuthorekielty(now Trow)
I would talk to her, meet up for a coffee or a drink and a chat... there could be something more to it than what she is saying - she might be shy or nervous or lacking in confidence. If you really want her as a bridesmaid, then I would strongly suggest speaking to her hun.
You might be feeling a little deflated about it all right now but she porbably has her reasons which may be easily solved! xxxx
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CommentAuthorlovelylainee
Hope talking to her goes well - perhaps she has some personal things going on and is trying not to worry you with them cuz she knows you have lots going on with wedding planning. Best of luck and hope she pulls herself back into the role of bridesmaid :) x
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CommentAuthorkrisw86
I would definately talk to her and find out. sounds like there is a serious reason behind it. either way u need to get to bottom of it. but also remember to remind her how much she means to u and how much u want her as a bridesmaid xx
CommentAuthorlouise
I agree with everyone talk it over with her. Text can sometime come out wrong or be taken the wronf way. Its not always best :) x
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CommentAuthorfuture-mrs-watson
How strange. Sounds like there's definately something wrong and you need to get the the bottom of it regardless of what the outcome is as she's your friend. Hope everything works out ok hon. *hugs* xxx
CommentAuthornic_87
Hi! well Ive spoken to her and everythings sorted out :) she's still not going to be a bridesmaid but thats fine she's still comming to the wedding and our friendship is on track. Turns out she was worried that she wouldnt be reliable enought with transport etc (she doesnt drive and venue is quite a bit away from where she lives) she said she didnt want to risk getting into a situation where she let me down. She had been thinking about it for a while but put off saying anything cos she didnt want to upset and was scared Id never speak to her again. So I understand where shes comming from just wish she'd of tole me earlier lol. Anyway problem solved! Thanks for all the help and advice! : ) xxxxx
CommentAuthorLiz3yy
I'm pleased you've sorted things out, must be a weight off your mind :)
