One of my bridesmaid and sometimes close friend has completely ignored my birthday. She used to work with me and we became really close. Even when she had her first baby and went awol i still kept calling her and trying to talk to her because I know how hard it is. Anyway things went back to normal when she returned to work but it was always on her and her husbands terms. She got pregnant again really quickly and had to move back to wales (i live near london) to her hubbys parents because they realised they couldnt cope with two kids. I asked her to be my bridemaid during one of her 'nice' periods but ever since she went back to wales (in oct) I havent really heard from her up until a few weeks ago and she got in touch through facebook asking to visit me. She came her last weekend and it was great, had a lovely time but now shes totally ignored my bday. Shes been on facebook to tell the world she has an Ipad and to comment on my status written yesterday but no 'happy birthday Jo' even though theres clearly messeges on there. Im am sick of doing all the running all the time. My other bridesmaids are really annoyed at her but I hate confrontation. I dont know what to do coz she keeps breaking my heart but when we get together properly its amazing. :(
CommentAuthorLiz3yy
I used to know some one like this, eventually I had enough and simply stopped making all the effort. The friendship ran it's course and I don't hear from them now. It sounds like your friend only wants to know when she can bothered which isn't how a friendship should work. Sounds harsh but I would quietly pull back from her, find another bridesmaid and get on with your life. You shouldn't have to worry all the time whether she is having a nice phase or not, a good friend should be there for you no matter what.
Can't wait until the day I become Mrs. Johnson :)
CommentAuthormrsquinn2b
I'm really sorry this has happened hun, i know how you must feel about it all. I have to agree with lizzy, in that it sounds very much like she only wants to be your friend when it suits her, if she was anything of friend she would of been in touch for your birthday. My best freind was travelling in america for my birthday last year and i thought it would go b un noticed, and i wan't bothered as i knew she was away but i got a massive bunch of flowers and a phone call. It shows that proper friends remember details, no matter were they live or what is going on in there lives.
Hope you manage to sort this soon hun. xxx
CommentAuthorsuzky123
maybe if u stop making the effort she will notice.... we were fed up of organising things with his bro and now since we stopped texting etc, surprise surprise we now get a few texts or phone calls a week and THEY invited US out this weekend.
cant wait to be Mrs Evans less than 3 weeks woooo
start weight 10st 1.5 lbs
weight now 8st 4.5 lbs
total loss to date: 24.5 lbs now need to maintain!
CommentAuthorUnknown
i think first of all you need to phone her up and ask if there is anything wrong that she would like to talk about. she may be feeling down or something. she has moved away from her friends and has 2 small children which must be stressful and you did say she couldnt cope. if she says everything is fine then i think you should stop making the effort and see if she does anything about it.
on the other hand...i have an iphone and i cant see if it is anyones birthday unless i actually go onto the birthday page which i very rarely do so i never know it is someones birthday unless i have seen someone else write on the wall! but if she is that good a friend she should have remembered your birthday anyway. xx
