Because me and my partner are on a very tight budget we asked our two maids if they were ok with buying their own dresses, which they were. My MOH scoured the internet for brilliant but cost effective dresses and found a greta buy, lovely 50s style dresses. The only catch they are from China, so we know what quality to expect, but for one day we agreed it wouldn't matter. When i went to order my other bridesmaids dress for her because she repeatedly refused to do it, various excuses given, i found they didn't go down to a size 6 like she is but an XS they classed as an 8.
Now everyone knows Chinese sizes are tending to be on the small side anyway so i assured her it would be ok and if it wasn't my MOH is a seamstress and could just take it in for her. She agreed it was fine. The next day she rang me to say she'd been discussing it with her mother, my future mother in law, and they had decided that she can't wear it as it will be far too big and could she have a pic of the dress so she could look on for the same dress but smaller or a similar one. I pretty much nearly exploded, but i said again, the sizing shouldn't be an issue cos it'd prob be small anyway and i'd get my MOH to sort it. Still not good enough! so i contacted my MOH who repeated what i said, she'd looked at the measurements they were about a size too big and she'd alter it if it wasn't right. Other bridesmaid then starts saying she doesn't want to waste money if it comes and doesn't fit as she can't afford to replace it even though she just splashed out over £700 on bikes she doesn't use. Groom is being a pain because its his little sister and saying he doesn't want her in a dress that doesn't fit. seems like no-one is listening to me even though i keep saying it will be fine and i'll sort it if it needs to! Surely everyone should be looking at the bride anyway?! Or am i just being a bridezilla and expecting people to do what their told and just wear the dress lol? my MOH is being great about it.

I don't think your being unreasonable. Has the dress even arrived yet to try on? She should at least wait until it arrives and its altered if needed to decide its not right. If after that it doesn't fit then I think it reasonable for her to say something. I've heard different things about china dresses so it might arrive at fit perfectly.

I dont see why she's having a fit about it when like you say China is small for sizing aswell add the fact it won't cost anything if it needs to be altered add you moh is seamstress. While is nice for them to pay it is nice your trying to think about there pockets, but your still the Bride and should have to look you desire, if they did not want to spend out to be a bm then they could of turned you down

I guess it all depends on how much they are paying for the dresses?

you have said it will be resized so i dont see the problem xx

if it can be resized and there's no cost to them, then i dont see what the issue is here at all

I can see it from both sides :) From your side you just want a simple order of dress and if it doesn't fit right just to alter it to sort it out and of course this is a tick off the to do list for you :) However as she is paying for it she sees it as wasting time and money as she feels sure it will be wrong size. I would let it go for a few days and then maybe readdress it to her directly when there is no one else around so at least then there are no middle men in the way of family or other wedding party members :)

I can see it from both sides too, but as you are the bride, I think your bridesmaid should be the one willing to make the compromise. Because she is paying for it herself of course she wants it to be perfect and fit her just right, but then you have told her that if it is too big then you will get it sorted, so she should trust you and your MOH with this. Do you think maybe it's the fact she secretly doesn't like the dress and just doesn't want to say to hurt your feelings? As the sizing isn't an issue at all when you've said you will get it sorted out. x

I don't see why she has an issue to be honest, im paying for my girls dresses and like it or not they're wearing it or not taking part (luckily they love them) but they knew from the start its down to me and MOH (my sister)
maybe as lenny said shes worried theyre from china? I would be pretty sceptical tbh. I refuse to order mine from china. weve made other cuts to save the budget for bm dresses although I know not everyone can do that, I don't think your being unreasonable.

I see what everyone's saying about them buying their own dresses, but it is literally no extra cost to her at all!

If your MOH wasnt a seamstress, I would offer to pay for the alterations, but she IS, so whats her problem?!

To be fair as well me and my MOh have thoroughly researched the company and the dresses they are selling to make sure they are up to scratch and not some cheap knock off so we know the product we are buying is not going to be terrible quality. I'm afraid i have other issues with her too not just the dress including wanting to wear the same flat shoes she wore as bridesmaid to her sisters wedding, which don't fit the scheme; not wanting to wear any make-up, although i noticed agin she was wearing some at her sisters wedding; and wanting to have her hair curled half-half down on the day, even though thats my own wedding hairstyle and doesn't fit with the style of the dress! Sometimes family just make things harder as much as they bring joy to the day. Some people are very quick to criticise and throw around the term Bridezilla, but when your trying to pan and entire wedding with no support/limited support network of friends and family, it makes things very difficult and stressful when your trying to arrange things. So i say here's to the hard working brides out there and all the crap they have to put up with XD!

It sounds like she is being a pain in the a*** :/ it really annoys me when people act up like that. It's YOUR day, not hers. She might not be 100% happy with your plans for the bridesmaids, but at the end of the day it's what you want! She should at least be willing to compromise on SOMETHING? Is there such thing as a bridesmaidzilla??! x