Lol Emmi! I'm sure you don't need to worry about them things .. I would hope yours and oh parents were a bit more respectful .. And if your Mua doesn't get everything done in time you'll just have to keep oh waiting and be fashionably late!
CommentAuthorMrs Jones
Sorry to hear that Becci.
Was thinking about the whole tan thing - complete virgin when it comes to spray tans etc and whilst I know I am going to have to get something done for a bit of colour, worried the dress will get smeared with the tanning stuff? Was thinking sun bed might be better option or are they old hat now?
Yes, I'll be going for waxing - usually go anyway, but never bother with the arm pits as had them done once and it was so painful, but shall have to even endure that!
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CommentAuthorSarah D
Emma how's things going with the court situ? Ours just gets worse H2B was to see stepson on Saturday and she's got him so turned against us and drilled so much nonsense into his head, he told them at the contact centre where the pick up point is (all because she doesn't want us knowing her address) that he doesn't want to see his dad this time, shes brain washing the poor child! So h2B never got to see him at all so he's now had 3 hours in 10 months and 2 cancelled contacts its redic she gets away with it xx
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CommentAuthorEmmilou82
Ill be doing sunbeds but only a few times up to the wedding day.....I do get an unsightly dark line on my top lip that is apparantly common when using sunbeds. No way am i having a dark task on my wedding photos lol
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CommentAuthorFlossie
Sorry to hear about that Becci but I would definitely speak to your OH about it! He might not be putting two and two together and understanding why you don't seem to want to do it anymore. He may be thinking it's something he's done and start to doubt himself? I know it's a difficult subject to talk about but he is going to be your husband so if you can't talk about it with him then who can you? He's on your side remember xx
Sarah, thats awful.... Im so sorry you are being put through that. Why is there nothing to detect what the 817c4 is doing??
He has had 2 contact sessions that went really really well. LO ran to my OH say 'daddy daddy' and threw himself at him! OH cried xx LO was at a wedding last weekend so couldnt go but that was ok'd through court and OH was reasonable about it. you know these things come up.... He has another 4-6 contact sessions and we are back in court on the 1st December hopefully for the order to be put in place!! Have you spoken to your solicitor about it??? Surely she cannot do this?? How old is your stepson??
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CommentAuthorSarah D
I was just about to say the same sorta thing Flossie, I defo agree with Flossie Becci you would be better to talk to him xx
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CommentAuthorEmmilou82
I do agree with Flossie..... Speak to your OH as to why. He may not realise, men don't xx
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CommentAuthorFlossie
Sorry you're still having problems Sarah xx
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CommentAuthorBecci93
I know Flossie it just makes my whole body cringe even thinking of it so i don't even think it's a case of I feel uncomfortable talking to him about it it's just I'm uncomfortable in general. Especially when oh can be overly pushy sometimes which makes me cringe too!
I had a spray tan for prom and I think my perfume must have smudged it because it literally faded away in splatters on my neck and wrists so I looked mucky (plus I think the person who did it was just new at it)
But I've decided that I'd like to go abroad a few weeks before the wedding to get a natural tan but more to let my hair down with my bms and have a good girlie week away to get all excited!
CommentAuthorEmmilou82
oooooh sounds like a plan Becci93. A mini break before the big day
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CommentAuthorFlossie
He should know how you're feeling though, and he might not realise. You will feel better having spoken about it I can guarantee, and so will he as he will fully understand your reasons and know it's nothing he's done. A year is a long time xx
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CommentAuthorSarah D
Emma its awful! this happened on Saturday and our Solicitor is off on a Monday H2B sent an email on Saturday and we still await a reply. We are hoping he can come up with something else as this cant keep happening, but unfortunately they have said before they cant stop what she's doing they can only hope that seeing him will restore his faith in us as she's got him so poisoned against us. A court order means nothing as she's managed to get out of contact twice but she's the most unreasonable person ever and will do anything to stop him having a relationship with us.
He is 8 Emma
Im so glad to hear its going well for you and OH long may it continue xx
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CommentAuthorBecci93
Exactly emmi!
We're not bothered where just somewhere hot and cheap! The fun we can create ourselves haha!
CommentAuthorMrs Jones
Flossie has a great way with words!!!
Yes, try and speak to him as he may start to feel that it's "him". I was with my ex-boyfriend for 11 years and in the last 6 years of that relationship he wasn't interested in being intimate. He told me he felt self-conscious and had a low s£x drive. It really didn't do my self-confidence any good as I started to believe it was me and I went down the road of feeling extremely unattractive. After 10 years, I walked out as he hadnt been entirely truthful with me and he'd been seeing (and sleeping) with somebody else for 4 years. I also put his mobile number into G00gle and discovered that he was on BDSM websites and had feedback of over 180. I've not seen or heard from him since - that was 5 and 1/2 years ago, but it did me a lot of damage mentally. Thankfully after being on my own for 4 years and a string of dodgy internet dates, Paul came along and made me feel attractive and normal again. I've since found out that he married this other girl, but I've not seen or heard from him since the day I walked away, but took me a long long time to feel okay about myself.
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CommentAuthorMrs Jones
A prom? Now I am showing my age. We didn't have those 22 years ago when I left school in 1993!!!
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Happily Married 18 June 2016
CommentAuthorBecci93
Oh god Lindsey - the fact that I'm going to tell you that was the year I was born won't help matters! Although prom was very overrated in my opinion!
What a sleezeball he was!! Cheeky sod! Thing is oh doesn't like talking about it either and it makes him uncomfortable too because he feels responsible for it all
CommentAuthorMrs Jones
Now I feel old!!!! A girl in my year had a baby in 1993 and I saw them the other week and did the maths to realise that baby is now 22 years old!!!
Incredible sleezeball and a very lucky escape.
Bless him - you've definitely got a keeper, as you know, there! xx
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Proposed 27 June 2015
Happily Married 18 June 2016
CommentAuthorBecci93
You're not at all haha I'm just Young!! That must've been pretty scary though bumping into the baby that's that age now!
At least you found out and have got someone better!
Yes although hes a total PITA and a lazy sod at times he has his uses haha!
CommentAuthorEmmilou82
Sarah..... I would have your solicitor take it back to court. If they see that she is continually breaking the order they won't be very impressed at all. I understand that if Your stepson is saying no, All be it her influence, there isn't much they can do but please just try and get back to court.... I hate these types of women. I understand if a child's safety is at risk, they have to be vigilant but not just because of spiteful women xx
Good luck Hun xxx
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CommentAuthorEmmilou82
Can you contact CAFCASS to do a section 7?? Speak to your stepson away from the mother?
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CommentAuthorSarah D
We are waiting to hear from the solicitor to see what he suggests and we're going to suggest going right back to court if he doesn't! I'm not sure what that is as its not called that in Scotland it's so different between here and where you are, we've had an independent assessor do an investigation but they make the mistake of seeing her first before stepson so she knew what was to be said and he was told what to say to that investigation too so I don't know what more we can do! I hate women like that too as I no so many people who's child's dads don't give a toss and then there's the dads that pay for and want to see there child and spend time with them and do everything possible and have to deal with this sort of nonsense! The whole system is a joke it's so unfair xx
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CommentAuthorEmmilou82
It really shouldn't differ should it? The systems should all be the same. I feel for you I really do xx hopefully your solicitor will come up with something for you guys xxx
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CommentAuthorSarah D
I was meaning I'm not sure what the equivalent is will mention it to the solicitor when he finally gets in touch! Meant to be back in the office today but no reply yet! Thanks Emma really hope something gets sorted out xx
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CommentAuthorLadyC
Evening ladies!
Had our appointment at the church with our vicar today. So exciting! Feels real now. OH was a bit gutted he didn't have to sign anything! Hahaha. Think he wanted me to be legal bound into a contract or something :-P
xx Lady Charlotte Chamberlain to be! xx
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CommentAuthorLadyC
Just caught up on some posts...
Sarah - I'm so so sorry to hear what you are going through. Women like that make me furious. I have 3 children with my ex. For the first 18 months after we split he made my life a living hell. He was so horrible to me, constantly telling people the most awful things about me, and threatening me constantly with social services and to not pay maintenance. Despite that, I dropped my children off to him every weekend and picked them back up when they were due to come home. My children adore their Dad and have no idea what he is really like. They will make up their own minds when they are older, but at this age I refuse to say one bad word about their father in front of them. I couldn't live with myself if I thought I had been responsible for them having to feel torn between their parents. My relationship with him is a completely separate thing to their relationship with him. I hope so much you get it sorted soon.
xx Lady Charlotte Chamberlain to be! xx
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CommentAuthorSarah D
Thanks lady c, it's awful when one parent is a complete waste of space, the stuff she tells him is so bad she talks bad about us all the time and always had done! It's shocking she keeps getting away with it! Your children will make up there own minds and they have nothing to hold against you, that's what keeps us going that one day he will realise what she's done all these years one day and will resent her for it xx
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CommentAuthorLadyC
I really hope your boy does understand when he is older. Never stop fighting. That's the way to show him you never stopped caring.
xx Lady Charlotte Chamberlain to be! xx
xx Marrying my soul mate on 22nd July 2016 xx
CommentAuthorMrs M Wade
OH said I can book the chair covers so I've sent her an email to see what she says
Was thinking of our centre pieces today. I've got fishbowls for the 8 tables for the guests but unsure about what to put on top table hmm
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CommentAuthorLadyC
Yay Mrs Wade! Another tick in the box. I have no idea what to do about centre pieces. We're having long banquet style seating.
xx Lady Charlotte Chamberlain to be! xx
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CommentAuthorNatalieS200
We're having fish bowls too mrs wade, for the top table we're having a long and low flower arrangement xx
CommentAuthorMrs M Wade
Are you. I've been looking on g00gle images at top table decs for a bit of inspiration but nothing jumps out at me.
Might ask florist to do me a quote for flowers on top table and see what she comes back with. We were going to have the top table as a round one like the others but then thought against it
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CommentAuthorBecci93
Ridiculous all of it tbh Sarah - at the end of the day they're making that poor kid feel stuck in the middle. My mum and dad tugged over me for years and all it did was annoy the hell out of me but more because my dad was only pulling out of spite and on step mums say so.
Sometimes the courts make things harder LadyC my mum had a court order against my dad for child maintenance and when he stopped paying no one would do anything because of the court order.
At the end of the day she should see what's best for her child and her behaviour certainly isn't what's best!
CommentAuthorEmmilou82
Nice one Michelle on booking your chair covers. That's another thing sorted xx
I just can't settle on centre pieces. Originally I wanted birdcages, then I changed to vases and martini glasses and now I'm thinking of these sparkly up lighters with a beautiful purple flower...... I don't have to commit til after new year anyway as we are hiring them and I've paid £300 to her already so I'll sort that after Xmas x
Top table, I think we will just have a nice wooden Mr & Mrs sign but I'm not sure yet
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CommentAuthorMrs M Wade
Yeah I looked at those signs but still unsure.
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CommentAuthorEmmilou82
I know what you mean..... I'm at the florist on the 24th so if my budget will stretch I might see if there is a nice arrangement I can have x
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CommentAuthorSarah D
So true Becci! Were now worrying about the little guys mental health in all of this as his behaviour has been affected by all of this, H2B gets 2 calls a week to him and she has told him to be rude, cheeky, aggressive and he continually says rude things to his dad and then hangs up on her say so, she sits whispering in the back ground and sniggering and she has him calling her boyfriend dad! its a joke xx
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CommentAuthorEmmilou82
Poor little man... My heart breaks xx
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CommentAuthorSarah D
I no Emma, such a shame I feel so sorry for him and we have to sit back and let this happen as none of this gets brought into court they say there only concern is his well being and what's best for him, how is this not affecting his well being! its all wrong xx
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CommentAuthorEmmilou82
The whole bloomingg system is wrong!!!! You think they would see straight through it!!!
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CommentAuthorBecci93
That's disgusting! Is there anyway you can record time calls so they can hear her in the background? May prove that she's an inadequate carer for him!
CommentAuthorSarah D
Yeah I know Emma, I couldn't agree more its so hard to sit back and just wait we want something to change asap.
Becci, even if we did the court wouldn't use the calls as the way they see it is that we've not asked her permission to record and they wouldn't even take an interest in it, we asked for it to be mentioned that this time for a call is for him and his dad to chat about school, friends etc but the solicitor said bringing it up in court they cant actually police it so there is no use even mentioning it cause she's there and will control the call regardless xx
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CommentAuthorBecci93
Can they not maybe get the school to allow him to ring him on a lunch or after school supervised by a teacher?
CommentAuthorSarah D
That wouldn't be an option but also wouldn't always be feasible as H2B has to work aswell and when he's in the middle of the north sea he cant always get off the floor to take calls so the calls are scheduled for when he would be off shift xx
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CommentAuthorBecci93
Fair enough .. Definitely need to be done away from her by the sounds of it though
CommentAuthorSarah D
Yeah couldn't agree more Becci xx
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CommentAuthorBecci93
Hoping my bm's hangers come today! Just want something I can touch to say we're getting married!! It might feel more real then!
CommentAuthorFlossie
Wouldn't hold your breath Becci - I think my first bit of wedding post made it feel even more surreal lol! Like what on earth is this and why is it in my house?!?! Haha xx
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CommentAuthorBecci93
Damn haha.. I need something to make it feel real! Even knowing my wedding dress is sat in a shop less than 3 miles away doesn't make it feel real yet .. Must be feeling real for most of you now though! Not long til there's only 6 months to go!!
CommentAuthorFlossie
Even though we have most things sorted it still doesn't feel real for us! It's like we're planning a wedding but for someone else, don't think it's sunk in that it's OUR wedding xx