Your mum doesn't need to know everything you do and I'm sure she would understand you wanting to spread the cost to ease the pressure on yourself? My mum knows the big things we've done but she doesn't know some of the detail-y bits.
MOB and MIL are the hardest for us... thinking of getting them a photo with frame that says a thank you for them being part of our day and maybe a big bouquet of flowers each. Also thought about personalised trinket boxes, restaurant vouchers or spa vouchers xx
Happily married
18th June 2016
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CommentAuthorSarah D
I like being organised too is be freaking out if I wasn't! I ordered my favour jars months ago they are jars there not gonna go off there just sat in the spare room in a box, ive got my bouquets stored away, bridesmaids dresses and shoes, my dress, my shoes, got my jars for the sweetie buffet, garter ordered, band booked, hair and make up booked, kilt picked just need to get h2b measured and it made lots more too but that's off the top of my head xx
Became Mrs Duthie 7th October 2016
CommentAuthorBecci93
That's a nice idea :) I know a lot of people just get big bouquets of flowers .. Mil would probably like that but my mum would probably say it's a waste of money lol
Mum would probably prefer a family canvas from the wedding
CommentAuthorFlossie
I think I'm edging towards restaurant vouchers as it's something they can spend with their respective husbands/partners, same as for the dads (both sets of our parents are divorced and re-married/partnered)! Then it counts as a little gift for our step parents also xx
Happily married
18th June 2016
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CommentAuthorBecci93
Not sure if oh is mad on the favour jar idea as mum suggests personalised chocolates on but the bags are 1.5kg and one bag costs £72 the jars I've found are 43ml which should hold about 45g so that only does 33 jars so would probably need at least two bags which is £120 or could get the third bag to have some on the candy Ferris wheel but that would be about £160 but like I told oh jars are only £30 for 100 so worst case scenario favours would only be £2 per person not going to get anything much cheaper!
That's a good idea Flossie! I haven't thought about my mum yet and what I will get her it will probs def be flowers and maybe a voucher for a restaurant too as then her and her hubby can go for a meal xx
Became Mrs Duthie 7th October 2016
CommentAuthorMrsEmmaP
We are hoping to buy my parents a weekend away as they have helped us out so much with the wedding. Obviously it depends on money and if we can get one that's not too expensive but if not we will get them something small for the day then pay for something for them once we are back from honeymoon. Not sure what we are going to get MIL, she hasn't helped us out at all with the wedding so we don't want to spend as much as we are on my parents, might just get her a voucher or some flowers or something xx
Got together on 14th March 2010
Got engaged on 25th December 2013
Became Mrs P on 14th May 2016 - best day ever!
CommentAuthorFlossie
My parents are contributing more than the in-laws too but it feels wrong getting them something better/bigger! FIL and MIL are contributing all they can, but they don't have as much disposable income or savings as my mum and dad do, so it's not that they don't want to contribute more it's more the fact that they can't, which we totally appreciate and are grateful for everything they've done for us to date!! xx
Happily married
18th June 2016
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CommentAuthorBecci93
My in laws have just told us to let them know when we want them to put money towards something but I'm not that type of person. I don't like asking; if they want to pay for something fair enough but I don't want to ask them to pay for anything. Mum already paid for my dress; she didn't give me a choice in the matter
CommentAuthorFlossie
I'd never ask for anything either, would feel so rude! xx
Happily married
18th June 2016
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CommentAuthorMrsEmmaP
MIL doesn't have as much as my parents but she does have money, she just has taken an interest or anything so we although we are going to get her something, we don't feel it should be the same as my parents when they have done so much xx
Got together on 14th March 2010
Got engaged on 25th December 2013
Became Mrs P on 14th May 2016 - best day ever!
CommentAuthorBecci93
That's how i feel. So I'll just pay for everything unless they offer to pay something closer to the time
CommentAuthorMrsEmmaP
No I would never ask either, I didn't even want my parents to help us out but they insisted, I could never ask anybody for money even if they told me to xx
Got together on 14th March 2010
Got engaged on 25th December 2013
Became Mrs P on 14th May 2016 - best day ever!
CommentAuthorFlossie
In reality we wouldn't have been able to afford the wedding we wanted if we didn't have help from parents. So whilst I would never ask I knew they would want to contribute and I certainly wasn't going to argue lol xx
Happily married
18th June 2016
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CommentAuthorBecci93
I almost feel like his parents should at least pay half the wedding venue and for the suits and things becajse my oh won't have that sort of money and I shouldn't really have to pay for all his family to have a meal at my personal expense but I'm not asking. If they offer then I'll accept but no way am I asking .. How cheeky would that sound!
CommentAuthorMrs M Wade
My in laws are paying for a lot of our wedding so will be getting them a special present- liking your idea of a weekend away Emma. Will ask OH and see what he says.
My parents haven't offered to pay for a thing and don't mention the wedding but will still get them something
Became Mrs Wade 06/08/2016
CommentAuthorBecci93
So oh mentioned the other day we should have thinking out loud as our first dance and learn the dance. I've just watched the video. I hope to God he was joking because wtf. There is no way I would be remotely capable of even 10% of that dance LOL
CommentAuthorFlossie
I LOVE that video!!
Happily married
18th June 2016
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CommentAuthorBecci93
It's a good video however oh is extremely optimistic if he was being serious about learning the dance ... Maybe he didn't watch IT properly LOL
CommentAuthorMrs Jones
Becci - I am going with the favour jars as they work out so much cheaper all round and I think they look nice. Again, you ladies are one step ahead, we've not thought about gifts for family yet. Both sets of parents are contributing - I kind of feel bad accepting the amount my parents are offering as said I didn't want to feel as though I was robbing them of their retirement savings. Dad initially wanted to pay 5k, but mum talked him down to 3k. My OH just got an 8k bonus from work before tax, so we're going to use what's left to pay a large chunk off the venue. Trying to keep the cost under 10k, but we've not factored in the honeymoon yet...!!
First Date 26 April 2014
Proposed 27 June 2015
Happily Married 18 June 2016
CommentAuthorBecci93
Wow! Think I'm in the wrong industry what does your oh do!? I'm the bread winner at home. Mum initially wanted to pay half and half with his parents but I won't let her and don't think his parents are that forth coming!
CommentAuthorMrs Jones
So am I Becci. I work for the public sector and get no perks. He's a Business Growth Consultant and basically goes around businesses trouble shooting and increasing their turnover.
First Date 26 April 2014
Proposed 27 June 2015
Happily Married 18 June 2016
CommentAuthorMrs Jones
Omg just stumbled across this and I'm totally in love.
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First Date 26 April 2014
Proposed 27 June 2015
Happily Married 18 June 2016
CommentAuthorMrs M Wade
That's lovely. Where's it from x
Became Mrs Wade 06/08/2016
CommentAuthorBecci93
Ahhhh I always said on my business course I'd love to work up to doing something like that! Long way to go for me at the minute though haha!
CommentAuthorEmmilou82
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Lindsey, that's gorgeous....
Spoke to my stationary woman today about 'pimping' up my favour boxes to match my invites, table numbers, seating plan etc and she says she will
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I've already got the boxes and so she said she will fill then and bling them up for free as I'm having a lot with her already!! How lovely
Marrying 'The One' on 30th July 2016
I am now Mrs Emma Stokoe xx
CommentAuthorMrs M Wade
Aww that's lovely Emma x
Became Mrs Wade 06/08/2016
CommentAuthorBecci93
Stationery is my nightmare! Ohs mum wants to do it all but its a big ask for someone who hasn't done it before worried it won't all be done in time!
CommentAuthorKirstyR386
So majorly late to the convo here ladies, but I opened up all the threads I wanted to read from the forum, started reading this one, then had tl go find that one Nikki wrote to understand what you were all talking about lol. My question to her would be does she want a marriage or a ring and proposal story she can boast to everyone? When she said the ring she wanted was £300 cheaper, it sounded so ungrateful - my ring was a little over that "saving" in total. Ahh well, hope she gets it sorted and appreciates what her OH has done.
Anyway.....
We paid off another chunk of the photographer last night which is great, especially as we have our engagement shoot in a few weeks time. Is anyone else having/had one done? I'm really worried it will end up looking so cheesy as I can't help but smile when I look at a camera. X
CommentAuthorEmmilou82
I found the post really difficult to comment on without it sounding rude and blunt tbh..... I find it very sad that she is more concerned about the ring and proposel more so the meaning behind it!! Oh well, I'm just glad I'm not like that!!
We have paid off the wedding cake and LED Dancefloor tonight. Yipeeeeee!!
Still a long way to go but a big chunk paid now
Marrying 'The One' on 30th July 2016
I am now Mrs Emma Stokoe xx
CommentAuthorEmmilou82
Kirsty, we will have an engagement shoot but not until next year..... I love to see them of others. I'm rubbish in front of a camera though so very apprehensive about it
Marrying 'The One' on 30th July 2016
I am now Mrs Emma Stokoe xx
CommentAuthorDanielleS0709
We had engagements photos done, I love them had them done outside in a lovely area with a waterfall etc
Ok so I went for my appointment with the florist today and he wasn't there!! Apparently he had to fetch family from the airport and their flight was delayed, not his fault but still disappointing. However they offer a fab package. Brides bouquet, 3 bridesmaids, mums corsages, men's buttonholes and either an arrangement for the alter or else 2 mums thank you bouquets for £300. I think that's fab. I told him to ring me during the week to discuss further
So we went for the bridesmaids appointment and I wish I didn't go. We seen a dress we really liked however I still LOVE the m0ns00n one and think I prefer it but they prefer this one BUT it's £250!! Double the price of the others so I don't think so!!!! As I said I still love the m0ns00n one but wish I didn't go as I know they prefer that one and don't want them thinking they aren't getting to wear the dress they want. But with 3 bridesmaids that's £750 b4 alterations. Why can't I just stick to my gut lol
On a better note I found out the date for my hen party today it's all organised and it's on 2nd April!
21st May 2016 xxx
CommentAuthorMrs Jones
It's from an online shop called the br1dal b0x
First Date 26 April 2014
Proposed 27 June 2015
Happily Married 18 June 2016
CommentAuthorMrs Jones
Where are you going for your hen arty Danielle?
First Date 26 April 2014
Proposed 27 June 2015
Happily Married 18 June 2016
CommentAuthorBecci93
I've just read another post from her saying she found a dress a dress she loved for £7200 but got it discounted to £5000 so it was a no brainer and that she has a part time dress so should be able to pay off £4000 of it by the time of the wedding. DOH
CommentAuthorBecci93
That's a fab price Danielle ... I might go to a few local florists tomorrow and then see if any are at the wedding fayre on Sunday! Just need a rough idea so I know what to budget
CommentAuthorDanielleS0709
I have no idea where my hen party is it's a complete surprise! So excited
21st May 2016 xxx
CommentAuthorBecci93
Lmao mmw2b. Michelle said what we were all thinking to that poor girl!
CommentAuthorMrs M Wade
Haha I know. She's said it herself with the title of her thread about being a brat though. I told OH about what the girl had written and even he said she was an ungrateful so and so lol x
Became Mrs Wade 06/08/2016
CommentAuthorBecci93
I told my oh about that and the dress being 5k and said I don't even like it and got told off! Got told that was my opinion and the price doesn't matter if she likes it :/
CommentAuthorDanielleS0709
Her ring is stunning too. Her proposal was a lot more romantic than mines lol. Holding on to it for two years is a bit much like.
21st May 2016 xxx
CommentAuthorBecci93
Tell me about it. I think the ring is lovely .. Not feeling the dress she picked though but each to your own. Id never pay £5000 for a dress but if I did I'd want more for my money than she has
CommentAuthorMrs M Wade
Definitely. How her OH puts up with her I do not know
Became Mrs Wade 06/08/2016
CommentAuthorBecci93
Id have to agree lol! Poor guy. She must cost him a fortune!
CommentAuthorLadyC
Evening ladies!
I actually commented on Nikki's post asking if she was the lady who posted about a £5k wedding dress?! I actually can't even bring myself to talk about her.
We are paying for our wedding totally ourselves. My parents have both passed away and my inheritance from the sale of their house (which goes on the market Monday! Very bittersweet as both me and my 2 brothers were born in that house) will pay for it, so I suppose you could say my parents are paying for it! They won't need gifts though ;-) OH's parents are a nightmare... promise things and don't deliver, so we have decided to have no input from anyone. We're not having speeches and OH isn't even having a best man. The day is purely about me and him.
Today I booked appointments with a florist, cake maker and dressmaker. All for next week, as well as meeting the vicar! I have ordered a scoring board and few other bits from the bay to start making stationary.
xx Lady Charlotte Chamberlain to be! xx
xx Marrying my soul mate on 22nd July 2016 xx
CommentAuthorBecci93
I know LadyC a lot of people are angered by her.. She's unbelievable .. Wants the best in life but isn't working for it. Feel sorry for her in a way she must be so sheltered to behave like that.
It's very hard but your oh is clearly keeping you strong LadyC .. An intimate wedding sounds beautiful for all you've been through
CommentAuthorLadyC
Thank you Becci. Planning a wedding with no 'Mother of the Bride' or 'Father of the Bride' is tough. I know my parents would be proud of me though and would absolutely love the day we are planning. Have kept some of my Dad's ashes to scatter on my wedding day so he is part of it. The cottage on the estate we are having the reception is available for hire as a holiday let, so we will go back there every year on our anniversary and I will lay flowers where we scatter his ashes. Miss that man so much. He was my favourite person in the world. I am a very positive person though and am grateful for the important parts of my life he was able to share. Will be carrying a picture of them both on the day.
xx Lady Charlotte Chamberlain to be! xx
xx Marrying my soul mate on 22nd July 2016 xx
CommentAuthorLadyC
Just uploaded some pictures of me and my darling husband man to be. There's a couple of him proposing and one of us at our engagement party with our cake. Was only at the party for 2 hours because my 2 year old was sick. H2B stayed on and partied for us both!
xx Lady Charlotte Chamberlain to be! xx
xx Marrying my soul mate on 22nd July 2016 xx
CommentAuthorEmmilou82
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Lovely photos LadyC...... An intimate wedding sounds wonderful xx I'm sure it has been difficult for you xx
Marrying 'The One' on 30th July 2016
I am now Mrs Emma Stokoe xx
CommentAuthorKirstyR386
LadyC that is such a lovely way to remember your parents and great that you can go back to your venue each yr to remember them.
Today me and MIL are going to a big charity sale to look for pots for our centrepiece trees. Won't make them up til nearer the time or we'll have a forest in our flat but want all the bits ready x
