Im so angry!! my BM is just not bothered about the wedding and too intrested in her own life and partying, i asked her to buy her own bridesmaid dress as i couldnt afford to ( i was willing to pay for shoes and accerories tho!
wasnt good enough for her, now i dont know what to do.. shes told me shes not coming to the hen party as she cant afford it.. paying in installments at £20 a month - instead of going out partying everyweekend. I dont know whether she will bother on the day she changes her mind all the time - her boyf is not too keen on her coming as he only likes it when she goes out with him everyweekend and his not invited (due to reasons) lol.
shes been my best mate ever since school - and im really upset about this and really dont know if to just forget about it and carry on as usual or tell her to do 1. maybe im being selfish but everyone that meant something to me i wanted them to be apart of it all I wanted everyone to be involved. including parents (grooms and brides) but just no1 seems bothered!! so many people have told they would come and have not bothered Im really fed up.
Helppppppppppppppppp :( xxx
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CommentAuthorIgnition
Your not being selfish, she should be more willing to take an interest and be there for you, especially on one of the most important days of your life. My Sisters couldn't afford to buy there Bridesmaids dresses either, so I have plenty of time until my Wedding, so my sisters and sister in law2b, have chipped in £20 each to buy the material and I am making therYou should stick to your guns and tell her how you feel. xx
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CommentAuthorxMrsRobson2bx
Thank you hun. im just so upset, shes not taken an intrest or willing to pay for things throughout the whole wedding, not even for her own place on the hen night - im not sure if im going to keep her as my bridesmaid - but i really dont want to fall out with her. any suggestions on what i could say to her?? not sure how to put it lol xxx
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CommentAuthorB2B2017
Personally if it was me I would say to her does she even want to be a Bm? She's supposed to be your best friend and yet isnt making any effort, £20 each month would hardly break the bank to be fair!
If she doesnt start making the effort Im sorry but I would tell her where to go! Doesnt sound like she deserves to be the way shes acting, I know my friends would be over the moon and jumping at the chance to help out and be involved! My MOH certainly is!
Sarah xx
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CommentAuthorMrsV2b
Hi £20 doesnt seem a lot but if she is struggling finacially then £20 is a lot, espeically if she needs to buy drinks and things on the night, I have a friend who it seems is always out but when she goes out she just buys squash so literallly spends less then a fiver. It could be that she is wrapped up in her boyfriend and he is controlling.
sit down with her and tell her that she is your friend and you loves her to bits but if she doesnt want to be a bridesmaid then you understand but if she is going to be a bm then you need her help. Or just ignore it let her be a bm and get yourself a MOH who wants to do everything with you. Either way remember this is your day not hers so you go with what you want, tell her you do not have as much money for the wedding as your thought and so can not afford to have her as a bm.
Hope that helps. :)
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Couldn't she just be a guest? I wouldn't bother with her long term freind or new friend jsut sounds like shes not really being a freind to you!! Ive got my best freind from school to be my MOH and she is planning my hen-do helping me find cheaper options for flowers,hair ect and is buying her own shoes and even buying our wedding cake as a present!!
A freind is someone you can turn to in need and if you feel you couldn't do that with her right now why the hell should she be in your bridal party!! Chin-up xx
CommentAuthorclewsy
Ive had a bit of an issue with my moh. Bit the same since she has decided to shack up with my brother its all about her. Ive paid for her dress shoes assories hair to be dun and when I ask her to do something jst little she can't. Now my other friend who her son is page boy has done anything ive needed help and is being brill. I wish I could change my moh. It jst goes to show who your proper friends are when you get married. Hope she steps up to the mark for you.x
CommentAuthorNishaVyas88
I'd say sit her down and tell her how you feel, give her many opportunities to offer to pay her fair share. Explain that your budget won't cover everything and you'll need her help towards her dress and her share of the hen night. Assuming she's not in financial trouble, she'll have no reason to refuse. And if she does, tell her there's no room for her as a BM. While my MoH is my childhood best friend, I will argue that oldest friends aren't always the best- my best mates from senior school were better contenders for BMs than my other childhood best friend.
CommentAuthorDW82
i agree you need to sit her down and tell her how you feel, im having the same problem with my sister she ranted when i didnt make her moh and she keeps depanding things but never can make the time when i need her, so just be honest its your day and if she is going to make it more stressfull and unhappy then maybe she shouldnt be a bm
