Well.. the title says it all! I went to my uncles wedding today and it was soo lovely but ohmygod it has made me sooo nervous for mine! I know I've got a while yet but the thought of having everyone watching me and being the centre of attention all day is making me really anxious. I actually considered saying to my OH that we'll just leave it, we don't have to get married. And the first dance... I felt sick at the thought of it! Seriously thinking about eloping now hah! Hope I calm down in the next few years :/ x
CommentAuthorMrsC2bee
I think about this every now n then as not one for the centre of attention but then think I'm having the day to marry my partner and that's most important bit and I LOVE my dress so in the end I know I won't mind it :) if you really don't want to what about eloping or having a little get together rather than a big day? But do what makes u both happy as that's most important thing x
CommentAuthorFlossie
We went to a wedding reception on Saturday night and it does make it hit home that little bit more but it made me so excited! Cannot wait until it's our turn. When they did the first dance it made me really emotional!!! xx
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CommentAuthorElinor Claire
You could always keep the ceremony small if it really worries you, but I think when it's your day you might feel different. There are things that you can do if stagefright or confidence is an issue. I'm a musician and used to get crippling stage fright, despite the fact that I loved performing. Eventually I tried NLP (neurolinguistic programming), which worked a treat. It's all about relaxing and visualising the thing that you're worried about going well. For me I had to visualise myself giving performances that were really good, so I eventually developed the belief that I could do it. For wedding nerves it would be visualising yourself really enjoying every minute regardless of people watching you, and if certain aspects are of concern, say the walk down the aisle or saying the vows, visualising those going smoothly. As for the first dance you could always be creative, and get others to share it with you. My husband and I started the dance on our own, but then brought our parents in to share it.
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CommentAuthorEmmaH444
You don't have to have a first dance. I'm not keen at all so we might just ditch that.
It's your day so you and your partner can do it the way you want to, not how everyone expects you to do it. :)
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Thanks Ladies! Flossie I was exactly the same this weekend! My Uncle had a montage of all their special pictures playing behind them whilst they danced and that was it, I was finished! Tears fell uncontrollably! Elinor I like the idea of visualising it running smoothly. I remembered the old thing that people used to say "Imagine everyone in their underwear"... but don't fancy thinking about my Nan in her big knickers! I'll probably end up cackling my way down the aisle. We are both umming and ahhing about a first dance.. see how brave we feel a bit nearer the time I think! I like the thought of parents joining in though, that's quite sweet :) x
CommentAuthorRachaelB76
take a big deep breath and relax, enjoy the excitement and planning. Just think you may be centre of attention but its by everyone who you love not strangers. im sure u will be fine when it comes to it x
CommentAuthorTashyM
I put up a post like this not long ago so you're definitely not alone. I had lots of helpful suggestions like calming breathing techniques and practising my speech to people and things like that.
CommentAuthorMichelleC961
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We too are not having a first dance- I can't dance, I don't want to be the centre of attention and can think of nothing more embarrassing than standing up and swaying fir 3 minutes in front of everyone as that is what you are meant to do! Lol
It's your day so you have to do what is right for you both
CommentAuthorJordanG99
Ah Michelle I can totally sympathise! I went to another wedding yesterday and they didn't have a first dance either so I don't think we will. It's meant to be a lovely day and I don't want to be stressing about a dance or cringing as we step on eachothers toes! x
