So me n h2b got engaged in June, had colour theme of purple planned from the start, chose the date etc started looking at venues for next June etc..
Then a couple of weeks ago my brother got engaged to his gf and SHE'S having purple, chose an earlier date then us, already booked her venue etc and NOW my mother tells me "oh you're having purple theme too.. why don't you ask them for their table decorations for after their wedding as they're first!!" My blood boiled so fast.. so many things were going through my head.. borrow from another brides wedding, that I'M copying HER?!
Got me so annoyed I'm seriously thinking of changing the colour theme as my family would be like oh she's copying her brothers wedding!
Just had to rant then :( *end of rant*

argh, I'm feeling so frustrated on your behalf. Is there any chance you're using different shades of purple? I agree with Tegan that purple really is a common color at weddings but that fact probably won't alleviate your frustration. How about adding a colour to your theme? Purple + green, pink, fuchsia, blue, white, or ivory; there are a lot of colours that go with purple.

tegan is right, purple is very common. we had purple at our wedding, and one of my mums friends is having a purple wedding next year. i gave her all my 'leftovers' as such and she can sort out and keep what she wants.

and sorry for saying this, but implying that using the table decorations or anything from another brides wedding comes across as very stuck up to me! a lot of the things from my wedding were second hand and no one knew. the place cards were from vistaprint for free for goodness sake!

yes, its a shame shes going with the same theme as you... but why not embrace it? you can share ideas, you can have things she buys and decides she doesnt want (which will happen) and you can have leftovers to do as you please with... and thats all AS WELL AS buying your own stuff! and by left overs i dont mean bits of confetti or anything, i had loads of purple tea lights and ribbon left over and the lady i gave it to was more than appreciative.

if none of this has convinced you to keep your colour, then change it, but its only you who will regret it if you had your heart set on purple. in years time no one will remember what colour it was except you, and then you'll wish you kept it.

xx

MrsShaw!

Hun - my colour scheme and theme is exactly the same as my sister had last year, goodness I'll even probably be using bits from her wedding which she had "borrowed" and not returned yet from family friends - used for two weddings before hers, so if I use them I'll be wedding no. 4 that has used those bits! Noone will take note of the similarities and I'm sure that you don't have the precise same taste in things so there will be some differences. My dress is totally opposite to what my sister had, the BM dresses will be a different style, I'll have a veil, she didn't, I'm having a Church, she had civil ceremony ..................my point being, whilst there will be some similarities you will not look like you are copying her.

xx

I'm having purple, my cousin had purple last year and there are countless threads on here dedicated to purple why? Because its a very popular colour scheme for weddings. There's no shame in having the same. You will no doubt have a different venue, dress, bm dresses, flowers and guaranteed the bride and groom will be different. I think you have probably been really calm about all things wedding up til now and this has been something that has riled you. Don't let it. If she is genuinely copying you then let her. The important part of a wedding is the vows you make with the man you love, everything else is a pretty distraction and a good excuse to partaay!

easier said than done but dont take it as an insult that she's copying you-take it as a compliment?? You can borrow bits of her purple stuff if you would be buying them anyway and also just because your both having purple doesnt mean they are going to be the same?

I doubt you would have your venues decorated the same/same cake/same table centrepeices etc so would still be individual to you?

if it really bothers you add another colour in to your purple (purple and silver, purple and black)

Sarah xx

Purple is a popular colour but I can understand your frustration.
And considering it is your brother and will have a lot of the same guests, I wouldn't want to have the same centrepieces. I'd want to be different. Let her boast about everything and you can see what she is having and do different. If you really don't want the same colour then change but make sure its something you'll like and won't feel like you've compromised too much. But like it was previously mentioned, add another colour to the purple. Our theme is purple and black.

Go for a different shade of purple if you want purple but not the same. I agree it's rubbish that she appears to be copying, but like halebob says, just let her boast and then quietly get on with your own thing.

I'd be more annoyed she booked her wedding before yours than what colours she was having.