Right this is a massive rant. Went down to see my bms to check their dresses for alterations. Other bms are fine and have in fact lost a bit of weight so they feel comfy in their dresses on the day. SIL2B chose the size dress she wanted knowing if she chose the smaller size she couldn't put any weight on or it wouldnt fit. she has gone up 2 dress sizes since April! Her dress is bursting at the seams to the point I thought it would split on her!

Her general attitude towards being a bridesmaid has been aweful she wasnt going to travel to get her dress fitted so we had to send family to fetch her. Before we had arranged this she said if its too much hassle to get me fitted I just wont be a bridesmaid.. she is so lazy and rude! Dad says my mum shouldn't break her back trying to alter the dress as sil2b knew the crack with the dress and blatantly hasn't been bothered by the consequences. Mum insists she will do it and then dad said at least make the extra panel out of a different colour and embroid it with "fat patch".

I know it sounds harsh but i'm fed up of her basically making out our wedding is no big deal!

Sorry ladies Rant over xxx

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griff - it does sound like she is not bother .... which is unfair on you. Its her fault tho. She has 4 weeks tho to do something about it!

how the hell did she go up 2 sizes 3 mths without being preg? bugga me i'd be questioning that, as far gettin a dress to small in the fisrt place was the daftess thing to do, it's easier to shrink a dress than up it that daft fool sounds like she's nowt best pleased at you marryin to me

Sorry your struggling with her so much. I hope things work out for you. xx

The fat patch sounds like a fab way to go :P

Tell her your Mum doesn't have time to alter it and if she still wants to be a bridesmaid she will have to pay herself to have it altered professionally.

Fat patch!!!
Love your Dad, I'd definately do it in a contrasting colour if you still have her as a bm!

Have ur H2B have a word, because if she's not interested really your mum will be doing all that work for nothing! (I sew and it's so much easier to take in than let out!) and u'll probably give her a gift to thank her for being a bm, when she's just been an added worry you don't need!

Lol @ the fat patch idea! Like Kaz said can H2B not have a word? Such a shame that she can't pull her finger out of her bottom for you! Lets hope that she doesn't need help and support at her own wedding eh?! :0) xx

*pumps fist in the air* Fat Patch! Fat Patch! Fat Patch!

Fat patch, I love it! seriously though, what a selfish cow. I would sack her NOW!

I wouldn't mind but she doesn't care she is huge and has no intention to even try and fit into the dress :(

I'd just leave it then griff and she'll either have to walk down the aisle with her a*** hanging out or buy herself a dress! xx

To be honest, I would tell your mum to hold off as 4 weeks could easily mean another half a stone if she's putting weight on. If you want to keep her as a bm to keep the peace, get your mum to wait so that she's not having to let it out again - she can do the unpicking and be ready to alter it say 10 days before. It's sad as the girl obviously doesn't realise that she's not going to look good on the day in the photo's and she'll regret it in the future.

Fat patch hahahaha, literally peeing myself at the idea, maybe make it out of cow print material! - On a more serious note though, she is not being very fair on you and your H2B should definitely say something to her!

haha this post made me laugh. FAT PATCH! your Dad sounds ace.......

Lovin' the fat patch, you have got to go with that idea :) Also, is she going to be paying for the alterations? I would seriously be having words hun. One of my BM, happens to also be my SIL2B, hasn't bothered showing up to any fittings. They have one on Aug 26th so the dress that has been ordered was done with the measurements she gave h2b. I had to sign a waiver thingy at the dress shop to basically say that I understand the dress ordered my not fit!!! Now it's a huge possibility that it won't fit right but due to her lack of commitment and selfishness she's been told and my future in laws have been told that if it needs altering then we are not footing the bill. We've paid £245 for the dress, she can pay or they can pay to make it fit right. If they aren't prepared to then she goes as a guest and the dress gets sold. Simple as that. Can't bare people like that!!

PMSL @ the Fat Patch! You're dad sounds hilarious!!! I agree with the other girls. What on Earth does she think she's playing at?! I'd defo tell her that she can't be BM now. What does your H2B say about it all? Would he be OK with not having her as BM? Hx

lol thanks ladies we have the bigger dress which was the last size they had and is still a size too small :( As it is "so difficult" for her to get anywhere on public transport we wont be able to try it on her or alter it before the wedding so her parents and h2b know if it doesn't fit when she gets here she cant be a bridesmaid >:(

From what griff's said I don't think it would matter either way! xx

Griff, your dad is a legend!
Thats gonna make me laugh all day. Fat patch...genius! :D