I have no idea of the etiquette here. Bestmans girlfriend is a friend of my oh (but not a close one) but I don't know her at all (I've only met her once for 5 mins. What is the etiquette about where she sits? We have a very restricted top table due to space restrictions.
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CommentAuthorMrsC2bee
I would sit her with either people she knows so other friends of your oh or someone on his side as they will have slight more in common. My partners best man will be on top table and his wife will be sat with the other work people so bit easier for us. But I'd just sit her either with people she knows or people who are friendly and you know will chat to her x
CommentAuthorleasa
We sat bridesmaids and best woman on their own tables, only had us and parents on top table.
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CommentAuthorKatieH
We are having Bestman's girlfriend at the top table as she is a friend to us both and she won't know anyone else, only us x
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CommentAuthorFlossie
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I wouldn't have her on the top table. If she knows anyone else then put them on a separate table with them. If the top table is causing you stress another alternative could be to have a sweetheart table. OH's best man is his brother, so his fiancee already knows other members of the family, which makes it easy for us allocating her a seat xx
I definitely wouldn't have her at the top table. Pop her on a table with others she knows or on a table with people you know will speak to her and be friendly.
We didn't have the best man or my bridesmaid at the top table, they hosted their own tables so their partners were sat with them. My MOH was my sister though so she was on the top table with us and with BIL. I didn't really want FILs GF on the top table as she's not family but hubby insisted. We had my parents and SIL with her family on top table too.
At my sister's wedding I was on the top table as MOH and sister but my hubby who at the time was just my BF not even engaged didn't have a spot on the top table, he was sat though on the family table just by me. The best men also didn't sit at the top table.
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CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
If she knows others try and add her to that table, if not, then add her to a table where you think she will chat to the others who may have similar common interests.
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CommentAuthorLindseyW58
We did the same thing as Leasa.
CommentAuthorclair
My husband is going to be a best man in 2017 and I won't know any one there apart from the bide and groom. I am really hoping they sit me on the top table next to my husband. It will be super auqward for me other wise.
I think if she disn't know any one at the wedding then she needs to be sat at the top table, if she knows lots of people there then sit he next to the people she knows as near to the top table as you can. X
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CommentAuthorFayeJ67
unfortunatly due to space constraints we can only have 8 people on the top table. So that is me and my OH, both sets of parents, my MOH and the best man.
I don't think she knows anyone else but think after all your advice I'll sit her as close to the top table as I can and probably on the table with my brother, my OH's sister (and her children if we dont have a children only table), that way she will have someone to talk to!
CommentAuthorMrs Jones
Definitely not top table - on another table with guests.
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CommentAuthorMrsC2bee
We went to a wedding and knew no one except the bride and groom, was abit awkward at the beginning but when we ate we just chatted to the people on the table, we were put on table of those who were on own or with just another person so we're all open to talking. X
CommentAuthorKirstyR386
If her partner is best man, she will be without him for most of the day (certainly the service etc) so it is likely that she will have to talk to other people or stand on her own like a complete lemon. So perhaps you could think of a nice friend, who perhaps also doesn't know too many people, and ask if they would sit with her. You could even encourage an usher to sit said friend next to her for the service so they already start getting to know each other. X
CommentAuthorElinor Claire
We had two best men who sat at the top table, but their wives didn't. Hopefully she will know other people who she can sit with, otherwise put her with someone who is good at putting people at their ease. Maybe you could take the chance to invite her to something with the best man where she can meet a few other people.
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CommentAuthorStephH96
I was 'the girlfriend' where I only knew my OH as best man and the bride and groom, and OH dad (but he was like a2nd best man almost with loads of jobs like driving the minibus etc). Let me the you it was awful. The church ceremony was not too bad as you just sit stand nod sing etc when told to. The time at the church after and the afternoon reception were dire as I was the lemon on my own. Saw OH for about 10 minutes, ended up talking to MOB and was being sort of grilled as to why I didn't have a job at the time. Luckily the evening meal didn't have a top table, so I got to sit with OH but he was still distracted and didn't really settle down until after the meal.
You should really introduce her to some people if you can before the wedding, or have best man organise something where she is invited so she knows people before the day.
