Hey Girls and Guys!!

Sorry for this rant..Buti m about to explode with Rage and Upset

My OH has been friends with his best man for over 10 years. Before me and my OH got together they used to spend alot of time together. When we got together we used to see each other on weekends due to my work and his work. but they still seen each other during the week...

When i moved up thats when his ' friend ' started to throw tantrums if we couldnt make going out. I used to work alt weekends.. I would get messgages like RIP and when questioned he would say RIP to their friendship...

I have always struggled to like him as he is very selfish and its all one way. Ive smiled when i wanted to scream at him.....
My OH is quiet and always has been and he sits back and takes everything his ' Friend ' dishes at him..

Less than 4 weeks ago he was excited to be our best man. Last night however he text my other half saying he doesn't see a point to their friendship and said he will not be coming to the wedding as he isn't happy. He also said 'Their friendship is beyond repair' My OH see's his ' Friend' every sunday for football, The week before we went to his for a evening and 2 weeks prior they invited us over for dinner..
This is not the first time he has done this and because he walks all over people and expects people to beg him and kiss his ****...

I know i have 15 months and it is a long time but im not in a panic im just angry that ive done little personal touches which have his name on..

After everything and discussions with OH. If they do get their ' friendship' back on track as his ' friend ' has a track record we have decided not to invite him or his partner ( who also happens to be one of my bridesmaids ) to the wedding. His mood swings give us whiplash and because this happens all the time i don't want to be stressed wether its now or 1 month before my wedding as his moods can ruin the day...

My OH agrees with not inviting him as a true friend would be supportive and wouldn't throw these stupid tantrums.. You would think with almost being 27 he would learn that the world does not revolve around him...

Any one else experience these problems ( well i bet there will be alot)! anyone have friends like this.. GAH i'm frustrated

Oh no! That's horrible hunni...our situation isn't quite like that, but it's my h2bs dad instead. (His "dad" is more a friend to him than a father figure). But still. I can see why you'd be angry, I would too. Has he at least said why? I mean, it's not like he's not seeing your h2b at all or anything, and if he's in his own relationship, surely he'd want to be spending time with his partner too? I mean, I often finds jays dad a bit weird with their relationship, it I also think it's his son and the guy doesn't really have anyone else. (Jays mum remarried). Your h2bs "friend" doesn't have that excuse"/ xoxox

:0 that's just wrong! Why does his fiance accept it? I mean, I love Jamie beyond compare, but I don't think I'd be able to stay in a relationship like that.he clearly doesn't love her....honestly, I think your better off ignoring it. You have enough stress hunni xoxox

This best man guy sounds like he needs to get a dog or get laid!! Tell him to bananas!

Wow he sounds horrible!!
It definitely sounds like you'll have a much better day without him! I feel very sorry for his fiancee! Xxx

Haha cats count yeah,if he has over 3.
Steph maybe he secretly fancies your h2b? Sounds like it! Lol
I think if your h2b has seen it too and happy not to invite him then find someone else who's worthy for the job :)xx

Some people are unbelievable, but I suppose at least he has given your fiancé time to pick a different best man, imagine if he'd done this the week before the wedding.

I wouldn't say he was best man material from what your saying he seems far from it! I go feel sorry for your oh if he was his 1st choice but I'm sure someone he knows would feel honoured to do the job x

He sounds like a right bell end. Only child by any chance?

I'd of told him to eff off at the first RIP comment. How pathetic can you get.

How does your OH feel about this? It's important to make decisions about this sort of stuff as a couple, and then stick to those decisions! He also has to take into consideration your feelings. I fell out with one of my bridesmaids and her husband was BM. My OH withdrew their invite, not because he fell out with BM (he didn't), he knew it would cause tension between us all, and he didn't want to ruin their friendship.
Hope you get it sorted xxx

That's good news. The last thing you want is to make yourself ill by stressing about it! Best of luck to you both xx