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    • StephHsoon2bBodkin
      CommentAuthorStephHsoon2bBodkin
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    Hey Girls and Guys!!

    Sorry for this rant..Buti m about to explode with Rage and Upset

    My OH has been friends with his best man for over 10 years. Before me and my OH got together they used to spend alot of time together. When we got together we used to see each other on weekends due to my work and his work. but they still seen each other during the week...

    When i moved up thats when his ' friend ' started to throw tantrums if we couldnt make going out. I used to work alt weekends.. I would get messgages like RIP and when questioned he would say RIP to their friendship...

    I have always struggled to like him as he is very selfish and its all one way. Ive smiled when i wanted to scream at him.....
    My OH is quiet and always has been and he sits back and takes everything his ' Friend ' dishes at him..

    Less than 4 weeks ago he was excited to be our best man. Last night however he text my other half saying he doesn't see a point to their friendship and said he will not be coming to the wedding as he isn't happy. He also said 'Their friendship is beyond repair' My OH see's his ' Friend' every sunday for football, The week before we went to his for a evening and 2 weeks prior they invited us over for dinner..
    This is not the first time he has done this and because he walks all over people and expects people to beg him and kiss his ****...

    I know i have 15 months and it is a long time but im not in a panic im just angry that ive done little personal touches which have his name on..

    After everything and discussions with OH. If they do get their ' friendship' back on track as his ' friend ' has a track record we have decided not to invite him or his partner ( who also happens to be one of my bridesmaids ) to the wedding. His mood swings give us whiplash and because this happens all the time i don't want to be stressed wether its now or 1 month before my wedding as his moods can ruin the day...

    My OH agrees with not inviting him as a true friend would be supportive and wouldn't throw these stupid tantrums.. You would think with almost being 27 he would learn that the world does not revolve around him...

    Any one else experience these problems ( well i bet there will be alot)! anyone have friends like this.. GAH i'm frustrated

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    • *The NewMrsMalin*
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    Not experiencing this problem (thankfully) but maybe he should act his age...I agree with not inviting him if he doesn't get his act together. You want to have a great day and wedding planning is stressful enough without having to deal with him as well...

    Hope you sort it out hun x

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    • CommentAuthorTrasaD
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    Oh no! That's horrible hunni...our situation isn't quite like that, but it's my h2bs dad instead. (His "dad" is more a friend to him than a father figure). But still. I can see why you'd be angry, I would too. Has he at least said why? I mean, it's not like he's not seeing your h2b at all or anything, and if he's in his own relationship, surely he'd want to be spending time with his partner too? I mean, I often finds jays dad a bit weird with their relationship, it I also think it's his son and the guy doesn't really have anyone else. (Jays mum remarried). Your h2bs "friend" doesn't have that excuse"/ xoxox
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    • StephHsoon2bBodkin
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    Thanks girls :)

    He is engaged. He also cheated on her with a stripper and her parents pub and came to football and boasted about it. Thank god my OH is nothing like him!

    How do you cope with difficult friends and family ?

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    • CommentAuthorTrasaD
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    :0 that's just wrong! Why does his fiance accept it? I mean, I love Jamie beyond compare, but I don't think I'd be able to stay in a relationship like that.he clearly doesn't love her....honestly, I think your better off ignoring it. You have enough stress hunni xoxox
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    • StephHsoon2bBodkin
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    She doesn't know. If Chris (my OH) did that I would leave him. I feel bad for Chris losing his best friend but I'm also feeling relieved. I knew something like this would happen xx

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    • VictoriaB
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    This best man guy sounds like he needs to get a dog or get laid!! Tell him to bananas!
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    • StephHsoon2bBodkin
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    VictoriaB he has a cat does that count? ;) x

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    • Becky1608
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    Wow he sounds horrible!!
    It definitely sounds like you'll have a much better day without him! I feel very sorry for his fiancee! Xxx

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    • StephHsoon2bBodkin
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    I feel sorry for his Financee as well.. My OH reckons he is Jealous.. He makes little digs at our wedding.. The more i talk about the less frustrated i fell xx

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    • VictoriaB
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    Haha cats count yeah,if he has over 3.
    Steph maybe he secretly fancies your h2b? Sounds like it! Lol
    I think if your h2b has seen it too and happy not to invite him then find someone else who's worthy for the job :)xx
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    • StephHsoon2bBodkin
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    Only one lol.. He is a coward he said all this over text. never to your face...

    I think its harder on Chris as they have been friends over over 10 years xx

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    • DonnaH39
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    Some people are unbelievable, but I suppose at least he has given your fiancé time to pick a different best man, imagine if he'd done this the week before the wedding.




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    • StephHsoon2bBodkin
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    I agree.. I should thank him for that!

    I thought teenage girls where bad!! Mid 20's men are worse!

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    • thefuture:Mrs_Hurren
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    I wouldn't say he was best man material from what your saying he seems far from it! I go feel sorry for your oh if he was his 1st choice but I'm sure someone he knows would feel honoured to do the job x
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    • Elinor Claire
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    It sounds like he has some deep-seated insecurities, which mean that he needs to be no. 1 in your H2B's life. He can't cope with the fact that you come first now.

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    • Velcro
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    He sounds like a right bell end. Only child by any chance?

    I'd of told him to eff off at the first RIP comment. How pathetic can you get.

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    • katielea100
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    Does he want to marry your OH by any chance? Lol
    He needs to get a grip tell your OH to find someone else who will appreciate the important role in your wedding xx
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    • Megs84
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    How does your OH feel about this? It's important to make decisions about this sort of stuff as a couple, and then stick to those decisions! He also has to take into consideration your feelings. I fell out with one of my bridesmaids and her husband was BM. My OH withdrew their invite, not because he fell out with BM (he didn't), he knew it would cause tension between us all, and he didn't want to ruin their friendship.
    Hope you get it sorted xxx
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    • StephHsoon2bBodkin
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    He is middle child.. His Younger and Old brother are really nice! HIs younger brother is getting married in may and his older brother is a new dad so. He is the polar opposite..

    I used a but more of a stronger word that the F word when face to face.. My other half isnt fussed at all. We have had just over a year with his Best mate picking at me.

    We have decided that my OH's brother will be best man! which im so happy about...

    If the world doest revolve around his best mate then he makes it all about him and causes trouble.. Me and the OH are solid and each day we grow stronger...

    I think it bothers me as they have been friends for years. Last night by other half said im bored of talking about it him. I was like Ok babe and then talked more about the wedding. And this morning he text me saying he will ask his Brother....

    xx

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    • Megs84
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    That's good news. The last thing you want is to make yourself ill by stressing about it! Best of luck to you both xx
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    • StephHsoon2bBodkin
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    Thanks Hun xx

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