O.k, this has been brewing and now i'm FUMING!!! O.k, my best friend got married to my H2B'S best friend last may, all very sweet you may think, but at new year it came out that she has been having an affair with my brother in law to be. . . confusing i know, now, my brother in law to be lives opposite me and recently she has been coming to 'see me' but then disappearing for hours at a time (you can guess where to) Her husband (my H2B'S best friend) has been coming round crying saying that she keeps telling him that she doesn't love him and he thinks that she's got someone else, which puts me and H2B in an awful position, Well i said earlier that it came out at new year, well it came out to our immediate family, but not her husband, my H2B's best mate. . . you still with me??? Now my mother in law to be has vented her feelings as, my brother in law to be has just got out of prison and is a recovering heroin addict. . . Yes i know, it should be on Jeremy Kyle!!! Well she feels that this is going to make him go back to how he was, and now because of this she is refusing to come to our wedding as my mother in law will be there (obviously), as will my brother in law. . Her husband is unaware that she won't be coming and will obviously want a reason why. . . What a palava hey, i might add that i haven't spoken to her in nearly 2 weeks as she assured me it was over and then i found out it wasn't. . . (she has 3 children with her husband and they have seen my brother in law to be coming and going, poor children!!!) HELP

Oh crikey hun that sounds like a terrible position that she's put you in. Don't really know what to say, other than I hope you manage to get things sorted out and that it doesn't ruin your day xx

Tell to F off the next time she runs up on your doorstep to "visit you" and disappears to him instead. Your not being her alibi!!! And if it was me i would have told the husband. I know some people wouldn't do that as its their business etc. and shouldn't get involved. But she is involving u by putting u in that position! And the poor guy obviosuly knows shes seeing someone so he needs putting out of his misery :-( x

What a real nightmare, I can understand why you needed a rant hun. You have to ask her to be honest with herself about the whole situation and get her to make the right choice, before the choice is taken out of her hands. I don't mean that as a theat but the truth has an awful way of coming out when you don't want it to.

I know, i really do want to tell him, but i know 1) she will deny it
2) he will probably believe her
3) we will be the ones in the wrong. . .
Arggggggggggghhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!
I think that i will say to her that if she doesn't tell him by the end of the week then i will, hopefully that will scare her into telling him herself, if not then i think i will just say to him that i am 99% sure that there is someone else, but not say who, leave that up to her to tell him???

Yay Laura, not long now, how are your plans going? Xx

Oh dear! The thing to remember is that the truth always comes out in the end and you have to decide where you want to be when it does. How will the husband feel when he finds out he was the last one to know?

I'd tell your friend that she has to sort it out or you will tell the husband what has been going on. You are going to have to stick to your guns and give her a time limit. A couple of days to decide what she wants and who she wants. Otherwise, it's all going to get worse, the husband may feel that you have been ganging against him as you haven't told him whats going on.

It's not a nice situation and I hope you figure out the best thing to do.

I told her that if she didn't tell him then i would, so she told him, and 2 hours later found him hanging in their wardrobe. . . .thankfully not dead but very close, and is now in hospital, where he has attepmted twice more to take his life, feeling very guilty now, maybe this is a case of better off knowing. . .

thats awful. at least he didnt die. i hope he recovers quickly!! she doesnt deserve your friendship or to be married if that is how she treats people xx

Oh dee it's not your fault. He would've found out sooner or later. I hope he is ok and knows that he still has good friends.

Oh yeah i know. The brother in law wants to go visit him in hospital?????? I give up. Thanks for your support guys, I really appreciate it. Xx