Sorry this may sound awful but,,,,,,,,,,,,,, Babies babies babies every one seems to be with child which is fabulous but i really did not have BABIEs in my wedding guest list i've kept children to a minimum! so now i have 2 babies due in June which means the babies will only be around 12weeks old, also 2 babaies are due more or less around my wedding date wich leaves guest numbers in limbo this is making me really anxiuos but whats annoying is i can do buggar all about it! i relly think its the lack of control and not knowing that is the problem more so the actual babies! PS just had to get it off mt chest! phewww!
CommentAuthorbarbie86
Don't worry, vent away! :-)
We're having a really strict policy on children at our wedding; we're only inviting two in total, my OHs 10 year old cousin, and my 12 year olf cousin, and no others. We do have friends with babies on the way who'll be toddlers by the time of our wedding, and there are other couples who I suspect might have a baby/another baby before then too, but we're not making an exceptions. We don't have the space, and our venue is just not child-friendly, plus we don't mix with children and don't want them there. Obviously this might not work for you; just something to remember, there is nothing you have to do, and no-one you have to invite; or you could do something like permit babies at the wedding breakfast and reception, but not at the ceremony if you're worried they might cry.
As for the guests due around the date; maybe consider having a couple of people 'on reserve' who can be bumped up to the daytime (and who wouldn't mind being bumped up at the last minute)
CommentAuthorHayleyDnowM
Thanks Barbie, thats a great idea about the reserves! one of the June babies will be my own neice/nephew so this baby will deffinately be coming, the other June baby is a cousins baby so will only be a 2nd cousin and i'm only inviting immediate family, so no 2nd cousins aunts etc, which is a good for me as the children from our many cousins sure does add up!, just thnk i'm over thinking situations and forgetting the main important thing me and the mr marrying! :-)
CommentAuthor*~Nicola~*
Phew!! Don't mean to hijack your thread hun but i'm so glad to hear it's not just me with a baby worry. We've got no children coming to the daytime, the youngest will be my nephew at 14. I've got a couple of friends who will have toddlers by the time of the wedding and I said they could bring them if they couldn't arrange child care but they are happy to organise this with their family to give them a day off and because they're both married and didn't want children at their weddings.
Well...here's the bombshell! Mt H2B's brother (best man) and his girlfriend are expecting a baby 3 weeks before the wedding!! As soon as i heard her due date my mind went into overtime. What if she goes over her due date? what if she needs caesarean? whst if this that or the other?!? I hate the fact I can't plan for something when everything else is so organised. If it wasn't H2B's brother/best man I wouldn't be as stressed but what doesn't help is H2B keeps saying "there's nothing we can do about it, so don't worry!" which i know there isn't but it doesn't help how i feel!!
He's asked one of the Ushers will they step in as Best Man if nearer the time it's necessary but current Best Man is adamant he will be there and because nothing can be sorted until end of August or baby arrives it's all up in the air. I've also said to H2B (which he weren't very happy about at first) that I don't think it will be fair on anyone...us, baby or the couple for the baby at such a young age be out all day for the wedding, i.e. to the church, reception and evening do. I don't expect them to leave the child with family at such a young age and I don't think Best Man's girlfriend will, this is why i'm stressing. I feel like the wicked witch and i hope no one thinks i'm a selfish brat but it's OUR DAY. *rant over with*
HayleyD - you know where i am if you need someone to share your vent xxx
CommentAuthorHayleyDnowM
Ha ha Nicola i was so nervous putting this thread up, as some people may have thought i was also a "wicked witch" in reality i love babies and children just nit at my wedding, really glad to know i'm not the only one stressing over something that i have no conrol over, i really do think its the lack of controll on not knowing for sure that is causing the panic! when people say they are pregnant the 1st thing in my hea dis when is it due!!!! thinking (please not near my wedding) and saying ahhhh lovely and smiling like a cheshire cat! when really my mind is working over time thinking Sh@t what about this that and the other! x
I have to say i feel your pain - we have just been informed that one of h2b's best friends is expecting a week before our wedding - if i am honest i had a fair bridezilla moment! I am just quite gutted, and have just resigned to the fact they wont come! Im just hoping no one else is expecting then too
There are so many people out there who will tell you
what you can't do.
What you have to do is turn around and say, "watch me"!!
CommentAuthor*~Nicola~*
I'm definately with you there hun, as soon as i found out their date i was like....seriously!! I know the whole world doesn't revolve around our wedding and people have their own lives to lead (before anyway says anything) but when i found out they'd not been being cautious i was like...this was planned?...don't you realise it takes 9 months and what's in 9 months time...our wedding and you're meant to be there!! Ha! Ha!
I'll admit though i've had quite a few selfish moments where i've thought all H2B's family is going to be fussing over the baby if it's there (first grandchild too!!) but my friend's have reassured me and said they're be bridezillas too as they'd worry it's steal their limelight if it was their wedding.
I hope no one thinks i'm awful even as i type this i feel it which makes me think i am!! :0( I love babies and children like you and i know it could easily have been someone else or myself maybe in the future but it doesn't help when you hope that your wedding day will be your once in a lifetime!!
Hope i've not upset anyone with my comments xx
CommentAuthorHayleyDnowM
it's very confusing as it is such a happy event having a baby but there is a selfish part of us thats thinking could have bloody waited lol! x
CommentAuthorNicsquared
Lol i agree :) Its nice that people feel the same - i am really happy for them as they really want a baby but just wish they didnt have to miss our wedding h2b thinks im totally crazy though!
There are so many people out there who will tell you
what you can't do.
What you have to do is turn around and say, "watch me"!!
CommentAuthorHayleyDnowM
i've had the selfish moment of it will steal my limelight but i think ,most brides would feel the same on the plus side the baby could be something to entertain the guests in the change over from wedding breakfast to evening reception! ha x
CommentAuthorHayleyDnowM
ps i've just been looking at your profiles and noticed we all get married 1 week after another! 1st, 8th and 15th,,, September babies must be popular (my daugher and h2b are Sept B*days) i blame the winter months! ha x
CommentAuthor*~Nicola~*
Hayley - that's a definate half-full glass you've got whereas mine's half-empty. I like how you've just turned it around into a positive thing...free entertainment!! Ha! Ha!
So good to talk to others on the forum who share similar experiences/problems. Isn't there a saying along the lines of..."a problem shared is a problem halved?!" :0)
CommentAuthor*~Nicola~*
The dark and cold nights with nothing much on the tele ;0)
CommentAuthorNicsquared
Yeah - not much else to do in november/december lol
There are so many people out there who will tell you
what you can't do.
What you have to do is turn around and say, "watch me"!!
CommentAuthoralmost a year wife!!
hi! as long as they dont yell in the church im not bothered!
Ill marry my hero
CommentAuthorJilly17
My friend asked one of the parents to be at the back of the church with the baby/young child and they were not invited to the day reception. I do wonder if she would make the same decision now she is a mum herself though! lol You do have to consider mums who are breast feeding as they are unlikely to leave small babies with anyone for a long day and evening like a wedding so saying they cannot bring their baby may result in them not coming at all
CommentAuthorHa_x3
could you hire a babysitter for a few hours to take charge of all the children? I know alot of my friends have babysat at weddings plenty of times (i work in childcare btw)
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:-O no children at your wedding??!! what bliss lol! I am inviting some children...as my boys will be 4 then they'll need someone to keep them company, but i have aranged for a sitter for the evening do (only for my boys) so i dont have to worry about them. If your dead set on no kids, just be prepared for last minute let downs due to babysitter problems/poorly kids/babies too young to leave etc! Good luck with it tho xx
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CommentAuthorSweetchilli
We are only having 4 children at the wedding and they are aged 2, 3, 3, and 8. H2b friends baby will be 4 months old and another friends baby will be 1 and I've given h2b the job of telling them that we are only inviting immediate families children.
CommentAuthorGazza 122
It seems this is a very common thing - we are only inviting the families children (immediate family) our best man will have a newborn and my bridesmaid will have 4 kids by then, her youngest will only be 4 months old. I have told them already that we wont be having the kids there, and they are alright with it. xxx
CommentAuthorKastobe
Lol, I'm the complete opposite, I'm inviting all the children and babies I know! I think marriage is all about family and I just can't imagine getting married without children there. My brother decided on the no children rule and I have to say, the reception without children running around and having fun just wasn't the same.
CommentAuthorPB
I have yet to break it to my cousin that her baby that is due at the end of March will not be invited to the wedding (its children of immediate family only ie siblings kids and our own)Our invitations will be going out when her baby is just weeks old and i know that at that stage the thought of leaving her baby for half an hour would seem horrendous to her! Her baby will be 6 months old by the wedding and i am sure she will have got her head round leaving the baby by then but i can't leave telling her until then i have to be honest from the start.It doesn't help that at her wedding she initially invited cousins children(including mine) and then 2 months beforehand she uninvited them as costs spiralled as did numbers(i was fine about this) i don't want it to look like tit for tat but if i make an exception for her where does it end? xxx
CommentAuthorKastobe
Babies don't cost any extra though? All the venues I've seen have had 'under 3s eat free'. Personally, if I had to choose between going to a wedding and my young baby, my young baby would win every time.
I think its fine if you don't want children and babies at your wedding however, there may be people who may not come if you choose to enfore a no baby and children rule.
CommentAuthorShirleygirly
I've got my niece who is FG and she will be 6, my step son (to be) who will be 9, I have to invite them because they are my little Angels. H2b's brother has 2 girls who will be 8 and 3 and it goes without saying that they are on the list. One of my really close friends has a boy and a girl of 3 and 2, I can just about cope with them because I know she'll walk out if they kick off as she knows from her wedding how screaming babies can annoy. Now 2 of my other friends have just had babies and I have been panicking thinking I can't cope with any more little ones running around my wedding. I love kids and have all the time in the world for babies but I don't need any distractions on THAT day. Thankfully my 2 recently delivered friends have told me how excited they are about my wedding and how they will be delighted to have a day without the babies. It turns out they had already planned to leave the babies with parents so that they can let their hair down at my wedding Phew!. Even better news my close friend with the 2 little ones is having a few trial weekends of leaving them with her mum and dad to see if her and her partner can come childless to my wedding. The probably don't realise how sweet they are being and I love them to bits for it.
I don't think there is anything wrong with not having babies, I've been to a wedding where there are no children invited and the couple had 2 kids of their own. Shockingly they even said on their invites " We love our children to bits but would rather yours don't scream through our nuptuals so to that end we would ask that if you would like to join us please arrange childcare".
Cheeky but it was ever such a quiet service. x
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CommentAuthorKaya
I didn't want babies at ours as we're unlikely to be able to have them and so being around them upsets me, but h2b didn't want to upset anyone else so we had them there. I found people with babies were the rudest guests, it was like being at the wedding was an inconvenience. Playing loudly infront of the only person filming the ceremony (it was soo bad that the person gave up filming!), and snapping at our venue for asking them to clear a room, being shitty with me cos they were holding everything up.... yeh... don't have babies! haha
