We are struggling with the guest list, as there isa certain member of my family who neither of us want to be at the wedding. The problem is she's married to someone who has been in my life since the day i was born who I do want to come to the wedding. And I know he won't come if we don't let her. what to do....help! :(
CommentAuthorGoff
Difficult one honey.
Depends on what your reasons are for not wanting her there.
You can either not invite her and have him not come too, or grit your teeth and invite her x
UKB Mad Scientist
Ride it like ya stole it.....
I'm a flippin ORTHOTIST
CommentAuthorHellsfire02
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In my eyes she is a lying sociopath and she hit my mentally ill mother a couple of weeks ago square in the face. And that's not even the half of it. Needless to say I don't wnat her anywhere near me on my big day. I'mw illing to go as far as letting her come to the reception but that's it. The problem is everyone in my family is stubborn as hell lol (including me!)
CommentAuthorskitty666
i agree with goff its either put up with her or dont have him!! just think about it and talk between the 2 of you good luck xx
CommentAuthorGoff
Oh jesus!!!!
I would strike her name off now if it were me honey.
That is totally unforgiveable.
Could you not have a word with the person she's married to and explain your reasons? MAybe go for a coffee on your own together and just tell them whats happened if they dont know already?
I know if it were me, i wouldnt want her anywhere near either. There is NO excuse for what she did whatsoever
HUGS x
UKB Mad Scientist
Ride it like ya stole it.....
I'm a flippin ORTHOTIST
I already didn't want her coming before this happened. The problem is the person is my godfather, and we have always been really close until last year, ironically just after he married her, but there were other things happening that caused the drift. He was there when it happened and got my mum out of the situation. I just don't know how to go about telling him I don't want her there, because I know how stubborn he is, as I've been in a similar situation before when my mum hurt my granddad because of one of her episodes and he didn't back me up then either, so I doubt he will this time, and it really sucks because he's been like a dad to me along with my granddad. =/
CommentAuthoramie23
i think if he really cared for you, he would put aside his feelings and come alone. afterall, he has known you longer than his wife.
CommentAuthordizzydora4
anyone who hit any of my family let alone a family member who is unwell would most definately not be welcome anywhere near im afraid hun. x x
CommentAuthorJilly Bean
A tough one...wish there was a straighforward solution xx
CommentAuthorVintageChic
Oh how evil of her, I'd ask your godfather but if he says no it's his loss sweetie x
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CommentAuthorangeleyes
its a difficult one hunni, you need to talk to him and at least let him know how you feel, maybe you will be able to strike some kind of bargain where she promises to stay away from you on the day if she comes to the evening bit and he can still be there.
CommentAuthorPuddleduck87
If she can hit a mentally ill person whats to say she won't hit someone else - at the wedding. I wouldn't invite someone that hit my mum - even if she was my own sister. Honest to god. And I WORSHIP my family. xxx
CommentAuthorvintage lass
What a tricky and very difficult situation!!!! Personally I wouldnt invite her myself as not only will you feel uncomfortable etc but your poor mum also! I would send out an invite to your godfather alone and explain your reasons for doing so. At least that way you have made efforts to involve him in your day and if he doesnt attend this was his choice, not yours! Good luck xxxx
