Wedding Forum - August 2015 Brides unite ;)...

Thanks ladies,

My dad has made an amazing recovery. The prof at the hospital said he had never know someone with such a bad aneurysm survive. He has made a full recovery after a few set backs and 4 plus months in hospital.

We are only having a few sweets in the bags as we made the donation. Will post a pic once I've made them x

We have our final meeting this weekend any ideas of what they will ask or what we should take with us?

We have our final meeting this Sunday to discuss final numbers,type of tables we're using, timings, wines. I have a folder which is filled with all our supplier info so will be taking our contact sheet with us. After being to two weddings where the DJ/Band didn't turn up we're not taking the risk though and will be contacting all our suppliers from tomorrow confirming times and finer details. I know we will also have an appointment to set up soon with the videographer and we need to make up a list as well of pictures to take with the photographer.

To be honest no one should be asking you things like that on the day. Assign a bridesmaid to keep ahold of it and who is responsible enough to know what questions they may be asked. The Bride and Groom should only ever be asked something if the proverbial sh*t has hit the fan.

For me it's my MOH who is going to be given the contact list for the day.

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Just realised with everything going on we completely forgot to go to the Church to have our bans read. Is this going to be an issue?

Aww mrs robson how awful. big hugs. you h2bs nan wouldnt want you to cancel the wedding she would want it to go ahead as youve bth been planning for a long time, xxx

I'm so sorry for your loss Mrs Robson, no words can make it better but I'm sure she wouldn't want you to cancel. Just because she's not there in person, it doesn't mean she won't be there celebrating alongside you. You'll feel her presence and joy all around you xx

Oh MrsR :( big hugs to you.

Oh my goodness, in the church you are to be married in? That's going to be very tough x

I am feeling all sorts of emotions today, going for our final details meeting and then for lunch at the venue, super excited cant believe its only 5 weeks until the wedding scary how fast it has all come around :)

Donna its fine you don't have to go to bann readings but its a nice experiences and as said can be frowned upon...

Hey MrsRobson, what are the orders of the service like for quality? We're just finishing our drafts now and wondered if the paper is glossy or anything?

MrsK2b they are great quality, for some reason I thought they would be card but they are very thick paper. Ours are shiny & I don't remember getting the option to have matt.

Victoria his beard is very thick & the hairs grow in every direction, the barber did say that he would be able to perfect shaving H2B if he went regularly, but H2B doesn't want to try again.

Hello to all the lovely August brides. Not long now! Seven weeks for me and I am at the end of the month!

Mrsrobinson2b I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I hope your h2b is holding up ok?
Victoria I hope your injuries are getting better!

We met with the vicar on Wednesday and have now chosen all our music, basically we went with what they recommended as we didn't have a clue. The organist gave us a few options for the entrance and exit and we chose the ones we liked the best.

I had my final fitting yesterday, still so in love with my dress, I have decided to get a different tiara though. I was going to borrow my friends one but it is just too chunky for the dress so back to the drawing board!
I also had my hair trial which went really well. I have another one booked for the beginning of August as the lady at the salon that took my original booking only gave me an hour when she should have allocated two! I am paying £60 for my hair on the day and that includes as many trials as I need so not paying extra for it.

I went shopping today and found a beautiful delicate bracelet to wear. I got the matching earrings as well but I don't think I will wear them on the day as they are a bit too dangly. They were having a bogof sale so the earrings were free and I will wear them but just maybe not in the day. I might try them with my next hair trial to see if it is too much.

We got the invoice from the church today and it is due next weekend, also final numbers are due to the venue tomorrow and that bill will also be due next weekend. I think photographer is also due next weekend but haven't had the final bill yet.

Still to sort favours and the table plan but I feel strangely calm -is that odd?

I was faffing with the seating plan last night, I resorted to plates so I could just turn people round easily!

OH suggested it and I laughed at him at first, then realised it was actually genius!

Well done to your OH lol I am totally stealing this idea ;)

I keep having a feeling ive forgotten something??? our suits are on their way in to the bridal shop and my dads should be with him next week to try

Ordered our order of the day leaflets through vista yesterday. OH was in charge of them and I've been badgering him for ages to get them sorted. They are a bit quirky but I love them, the inspiration came from this, but we made them a lot prettier!!

Is it something you need Elizabeth? If not it is just an unnecessary expense.
I only purchased order of services as the church said we had to have them, my friend who also had a CofE wedding at a different church didn't have to have them, I guess each church is different.

I've shown a couple of family members & they were like "we have to sing??" lol, err yes there is singing in a church wedding.

Feeling really rubbish at the moment, still having problems with his parents... they keep texting and ringing demanding money. We're also having problems. When I think we're okay, he'll stop us to have a talk about how he doesn't think I'm happy... he accused me of having an affair with a friend at one point... that has since changed to he thinks said friend ''wants'' me and that I'll decide to run off with him one day. We had these talks 3 out of 4 days this weekend and only didn't have it on Friday because we ended up out with some old work friends of mine until 3 in the morning (we had such a fab night as well, he got on really well with everyone even though he'd never met them before and was sober as he was driving)
The thing is, after all this (it's been going on for a month or so) I don't feel the same for him, I'm tired of it. It sort of started because at Easter when his parents kicked off, (again, this had been going on for years) we didn't talk to them for a few weeks and agreed that we get on so much better when they're not involved and I never asked him not to speak to them, but I did say wele couldn't pretend nothing had happened like we have done in the past (basically they kick off about me all the time, but it starts over things that are completely out of my control, like him being taxed. we found out a few years ago that when we first met his mum was texting his ex (who she hated and he'd only been seeing for 2 months) about me and his ex was lying saying she knew me and my family and we were all horrible) then has the nerve to say I'm the one who's always had a problem with her. She's caused me so much hurt over the years and so has he for just ignoring her when she does it and then talking like nothing has happened when she stops. But this time he agreed it couldn't go on like this, but the very next day started talking to her as if nothing had happened... because she had called and was just acting like nothing happened. This made me really question what I was doing, I never told him, but he picked up from me that I was more distant and realised he was losing me (this is where the friend thing came in because I turned to this friend a lot for support) he then spoke to his parents about it... which made them kick off more, however, I sort of felt and still feel-that it shouldn't have taken him thinking I was going to leave him to do something about it, I hate that he knew I was miserable but did nothing about it because he thought I would just stay and put up with it :(

Now we have less than a month to the wedding and I'm not looking forward to it, I'm not sure if we're doing the right thing, I'm terrified of turning into his parents (bitter, miserable people) and the thought of being Mrs C makes me feel a little sick. Then on top of all this with him, he promised yesterday he wouldn't do it again-but I'm sick of promises, they don't seem to mean anything.

I don't know what to do :(

Am thinking of doing an order of service but with a twist. A more like "Who's who" in the wedding party with a little mini funny bio and also a polite message that the ceremony is "unplugged" so now cameras or mobiles on and no social media sharing until the day after and any pics of us especially are to be run by us first.

Oh Donn :-( I'm so sorry to hear this. Have you mentioned your doubts about getting married to you OH? Have you thought of having couples mediation with your minister/celebrant or a couples mediator?

Was this mentioned in your original agreement MrsK? If so then throw that back at them and say "It says right here"

What kind of weird requirements are you having to deal with?

mrs Robson to be the outfits look great

I didn't want order of services but the vicar has said we will need them so people know what to say and when to say it, he has also included a hymn which I don't like hymns but it keeps the father in law happy.

Elizabeth my wedding date is 14th August :) dropped my ring off today to be re-coated

Donna I hope you find some answers its very hard as its close to the wedding and emotions will be running high but you have to do what you want for yourself x

Well our ceremony is all planned. :)

While waiting for our appointment a couple where just about to get married and the bride and her son were in the room with us. As her music started I suddenly felt very nervous!