When sending out evening invites do I put in an asking for money poem or is that only for the day invites? Thanks girls!
CommentAuthorMrsowen2b
i wondered this myself until i recently got an evening invite to a wedding and there was a poem on it asking for money.
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CommentAuthorkimmy
Thanks Mrsowen2b x
CommentAuthorGembo
Im lost! What is this about lol xx
xx Gembo xx
CommentAuthorClairebear67
Gembo - Instead of gifts alot of couples these days choose to ask their guests for money, but without making it sound rude they put it into a poem and you can either make your own up or buy them very cheaply from places like bay of e, then you usually send them with the invites. : )
Kimmy - Id say add them to both personally - depends if you would like your evening guests to consider giving you money : )
Lol lala picking I didnt think of ' pinching ' one before I got mine. grr!! lol
CommentAuthorkatie1991
I would put them in both hunx
CommentAuthorx~Hails~x
A few ppl i know have received evening invites with gift lists or poem poems and have all thought it was rude! Most have said if they were all day guests they wouldnt have minded so much but because they were only invited to the evening they felt this was rather rude.
Because of this we have decided to only put them in our all day guests invites then if the evening guests ask us what we want we will tell them money or vouchers so we can buy something big with it as you cant put a sofa on a gift list (this is what we are hoping to buy with all the wedding money if we get any)
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CommentAuthorClairebear67
Good idea Hails : )
CommentAuthorOfficially Mrs M
i'm with Hails, we have put them in the day invites with the directions and menu but we won't for the evening as i think its a bit wrong to ask people who are only coming for a few hours for money, if they want to give its up to them :-)
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CommentAuthorHazzy1978
All of our day guests got invited in the evening too, with the invites in the same envelope, so yes, we put our money poem in with those. But we did invite some extra peeps just for the evening, once we got RSVPS back for the day, but didn't have any poem. If those people wish to give us a monetary gift then they can, but they don't have to and we wouldn't be offended if they didn't!
CommentAuthorlollilou
We had about 40 day invites in which we put money poems then about 80 evening ones.Before the evening ones went out we thought about whether to put the poems in or not in the end we put them in, I must admit I'm glad we did we did as our lovely friends were very generous! I did read on another forum that some people think it's rude but I think that if you are invited to a wedding day or evening you would take a gift wouldn't you and as most couples have been together for a while money is a good idea. I also think it's nice to mention in the poem what it will be used for. We are taking our kids on honeymoon in October. xx This was ours;
Your presence at our wedding is present enough but if we're honoured with a gift from you may we respectfully request a gift of money to help the dream of a honeymoon come true!
CommentAuthorkimmy
Thanks for that lollilou that's made my mind up!!!!
CommentAuthorDee37
I did the same as Lollilou, we put them in our day and evening invites, I've been to evening do's and I would never dream of going empty handed as you are grateful to be invited even if they evening costs less than the day time meal its still something the bride and groom have kindly paid for. So didn't mind at all that the invite contained a poem.
