As some of you know, my wedding is split between two Saturdays. I wanted to get married in Ireland where I'm from but we decided to have the actual ceremony here in England as his father might not be able to travel so far because of health restrictions and his age at the time. I have a huge family back in Ireland and instead of them all coming over we're going to them the following week for the reception.
Anyway... as a result I've decided that I can't be bothered carting a load if gifts back to England after the reception so we are going to ask guests not to bring a gift, but to give us money instead.

Me personally I prefer to give money at weddings as usually I have no idea what to buy the couple so therefore personally I wouldn't be offended if I was asked for money but I do know that some guests don't really like it. So my question is this, how do I mention it without using poetry (sorry but I find that poems about this however cute can come across slightly embarrassing), and without sounding looking a money grabbing witch lol.

Do I put a note on each invitation or do I just do what my mum says and pass the word around by mouth? Also when is it appropriate to ask for the money to be given, on the day of the reception or before the reception. Normally when I give money I bring it to the wedding with me, but as I've never been to a wedding of a couple that has specifically asked for money I have no idea how to handle this.

Just be completely honest,maybe just put a written note in with the invitation,explaining how ur doing everything, and just say you'd like cash... That's what we're doing but all our friends know me for my upfront honesty lol xx

I agree with you, I personally don't like the poems. I put some thing along the lines of we don't want you to feel you need to give us anything but if you still want to we would prefer money for the honey moon. Can find the exact words if you like. We put it with our invites. We were thinking if people do want to give us money they will bring it to the wedding but someone has actually sent us a cheque already x x

We are all different! :) I can understand why it is hard then, i have no idea how write it as a statement for you... hmm shall have a think! its getting it right, as i know some of my family expressed it was rude to ask for money too! xx

It makes you wonder why ppl still get embarrassed about it,since most weddings consist of giving money these days.... I've never been offended from going to a wedding where money was asked for xx

Vouchers may be the way forward, especially if you have a specific store in mind, although I think if youre not comfortable with a poem/note with the invite, word of mouth might be the way forward for you x

I like Ellie Kittys poem! Id go with that! xxx

we dont really nead any gifts so i have set up an account at a travel agents and going to ask for money to be put into the account for our honeymoon

Joanna lists are a good idea but I remember once my mum being absolutely appalled at a cousin of mine for making a list, I know it sounds silly but the money thing has gone down a lot better than the gift idea with my mum most definitely. I know its my wedding and all that but I just know to stay away from certain things where my mum will "throw a wobbler". She's a little old fashioned when it comes down to it and besides I think I do prefer the money or voucher idea anyway as at least one person won't be stuck with the most expensive item etc. At least with money there is no set amount and people can give what they want or not give at all whatever the case may be.

I would put it in the invites as word of mouth you can't really trust.
If you put it in the invites and even explain why if you wish to, then there can't really be any doubt with it as there can be word of mouth (and at least this way you will know everyone knows).
It's good that your choosing not to use a poem for this as it could be a little confusing (I know many people may just see it as a pretty little poem).

For those who are going to the cermony but not the reception I'm sure they will give it then and visa versa.

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I think that's the best bet x x

We're having a wishing well and we're having a naming ceremony for our daughter on the same day which might not apply to you but we put:

'Instead of asking for gifts, we will have a wishing well on the day of the ceremony with wishing cards for you to make a wish for our marriage and for our daughter's future.

For those of you who would like to donate to our honeymoon fund or towards a savings account for our daughter you can place cheques or money in the wishing envelopes.'

Could change honeymoon fund to dream home fund or whatever applies x

weve got a poem but not sure if half of the families will understand it so they will have to ask via facebook or parents what we want. really hoping they give cash not vouchers as knowing our family they'll all be from different travel agents lol

Well I've just realised I'm a right Victor Meldrew lol

I'm a bit stuck over this issue two, was too thinking of just doing it via word of mouth. x

We are asking for money but we are putting a money poem in our invites, (it@s really cute lol) and also putting it on our gift list and wedding website xx

We asked for vouchers ... we just put a link to the website in the extra info bit of the invitation ... didn't write anything at all. We still got a few gifts ... and on the day someone gave us crystal tea light holders but there was no card so we didn't know who to thank. I still have no idea who gave them to us!

We do not have a wedding list
nor request for certain things.
All we want is your company
and the memories the day brings.
A financial gift would be lovely
and appreciated by us
but please do not feel pressured
as this is really not a must.
The choice is really up to you
and we would like to say
we hope you come enjoy yourselves
and have a lovely day!


When thinking of a gift for us
We ask if you’d please consider
Contributing to our honeymoon
to make it all the sweeter.
Our house is full of all the things
our family could require,
and so a holiday away
is what we most desire.
Don't go overboard
or go robbing any banks
Anything you can afford
will make us smile with thanks.
Then while we're relaxing on the beach
or by the pool so blue
we'll sit back and know
that it is truly thanks to you!


Now we are to be Mr & Mrs
We don’t need a wedding list of dishes
We have two kettles, two toasters, two microwaves
We require a house for which we have to save.
If you would like to give us a gift,
A cheque or vouchers would give us a lift
We like to think of it as our ‘wishing well’
Which will be filled with your love, we can tell.


We’ve been together for a few years now;
We have pots and pans and linen and towels;
We have glasses and toasters, really quite a few;
So instead of more gifts, we suggest this to you;
If it doesn’t offend and it won’t send you running;
What we would really appreciate is quite simply money;
We know choosing gifts can be such a pain;
And this way there is no chance of bringing the same


If you was thinking of giving us a gift, to help us on our way.
A gift of cash towards our house, would really make our day.
However, if you prefer to purchase a gift, feel free to surprise us in your own way.


To save you looking, shopping or buying.
Here is an idea, we hope you like trying.
Come to our wedding, to wish us both well.
And bring this small sack, to throw in our wishing well.
Fill it with paper all colours will do, gold is our favourite but silver will do.
Now that we have saved you, all that fuss.
We hope you will come, and celebrate with us.

(bit similar to one above)

To save you looking, shopping or buying.
Here is an idea, we hope you like trying!
Come to our wedding, to wish us both well.
And make some use of our little wishing well.
Just put some money into a card,
Now make a wish…..see that wasn’t hard!
Now that we have saved you, all that fuss.
We hope you will come, and celebrate with us.
Please don’t be offended at this type of request,
As our day will be complete having you as our guest.


We don’t want to offend but we have it all,
All household goods and so much more.
To save you shopping, sit back and rest,
A gift of currency is our request.
Don’t go overboard or rob any banks,
Any little thing will make us smile with thanks.
We supply the wishing well,
No wrapping, an envelop who can tell.
Now that we have saved you all the fuss,
It would be appreciated if you would come
And celebrate with us


More than just kisses so far we’ve shared,
Our home has been made with love and care,
Most things we need we’ve already got,
And in out home we can’t fit a lot!
A wishing well we thought would be great,
(But only if you wish to participate),
A gift of money is placed in the well,
Then make a wish but shhh don’t tell!
Once we’ve replaced the old with the new,
We can look back and say it was thanks to you!
And in return for your kindness, we’re sure,
That one day soon you will get what you wished for.
Please don’t be offended at this type of request,
As our day is complete having you as our guest.


heres some money poems hope they help x