Hi everyone Ive just bought my dress and added in a little burgandy to it as I really would love to ask all our family members to wear a little bit of burgandy on the day. so that in pictures our families really stands out and I really want to be proud of our famillies on our big day. Do you think that this is too much to ask? Im not sure how I will word it in the invitations as asking friends not to wear burgandy because my family will be wearing it will sound like Im pushing them out? My mum suggested that i maybe ask friends to wear like a blue or something so they have a colour to stand out too. I dont want to sound like a bridezilla but want to have everyone wearing a colour as i want to be proud of everyone as they all mean so much to me. Any advise how to do this? I know some family members think im being too picky and some think its a fab idea, So i do not expect everyone to agree with this decision which i understand just would love some feed back if possible thanks
CommentAuthoralmost a year wife!!
Hi Hun! I personally think it's a bit cheeky to ask people to wear a specific colour as people may not have something in the scheme your asking for... Xxxx
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CommentAuthorMrsH-2B
I think it is a bit to ask really.. I wouldn't appreciate being told what colour to wear, especially if I didn't like the colour or it didn't suit my skin tone.. Maybe buy simple buttonholes for the male guests and corsages for the women that have a burgandy ribbon tied on or around them ? xxx
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CommentAuthorLittleMissWorry
I agree, its too much to ask. They'll already be forking out lots to attend your wedding and give you a gift, they shouldn't have to go and buy something specific to wear as well.
CommentAuthornadia13
We have asked brothers,brother in laws & male children 2 wear sliver ties, 3 r part of the wedding party so b wearing sliver anyhow & asked the others so we know who's family & I think it look good in photos lol they didn't have a problem wiv it :0)
Same as Nadia13 - silver ties for the men and corsages for the ladies. I think its a bit much to ask of guests to wear or not wear a specific colour - what if they're not buying a new outfit specificially for your wedding and are wearing something they already have? I think if you want people to have something specific, then its up to bride & groom to provide it for them
CommentAuthorMel D
We bought ties for the partners of our bridesmaids and also Dan's stepdad so they would match our colors.
I wouldn't ask people to wear/incorporate a specific color as as I wouldn't want people to have to go and buy something specially.
I wouldn't be too happy about being asked to wear a specific color to a wedding as I have four different dresses that I rotate for weddings and as they were each quite expensive I wouldn't want to have to buy something that I might not wear again.
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CommentAuthorsarah
I think you could ask, imho it would be cheeky to Expect them to wear your colors. You may find a lot of the are up for it. I'd just make sure not to pressure anyone into it.
CommentAuthorRachaelC80
If someone asked me to wear a certain colour I would happily oblige!!! The ties and corsage suggestion is a good idea for the ones not willing to go along with your wishes??
My sister is insisting that she wears a plain white dress to my Wedding, which I've asked her not too but she still is.
I think that's a lovely idea that you want your families to stand out!!! :-)
CommentAuthorOfficially Mrs M
my mum wore purple and ivory which was our theme
we all had to not wear pink at my cousins wedding and we have been asked to not wear black at my friends wedding in a few weeks
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CommentAuthorMrsManiatt
I was thinking about asking a similar thing of my family, but then again most of my close family are in the bridal party anyway so it's only really my mother and MIL that would need something purple! And they'll prob be in competition with each other anyway! But something small like the others said they may be okay with, friends might be going a bit far tho. And RachaelC80, you obviously arent the bridzilla type, if my sister wore white i'd kill her! xxx
CommentAuthorGemmaB92
Im not saying I want to make anyone wear something they don't want, just that id like it if family wore the burgundy as we have big families and not everyone can be in the bridal party,and its our way of having them involved, and us being proud of them being our family. I know people are going to be paying to come to the wedding ect but im not asking them to go out and buy a whole new outfit, even acessoriess work im not expecting everyone to come dressed full burgundy either.Its more If they could wear this colour we would feel privileged, I also know that not everyone will respect my wishes or see my heart behind it . So those that suggested corsages and button holes sounds a great idea. Will have a think bout that. I understand that people might think its cheeky as some of you have but how do I do this with people hearing my heart behind it not just me being picky, as i have said its bout wanting my family to feel included. And as i said it was my mums suggestion to as everyone else to wear another colour which to me is a bit far.
CommentAuthorlouise5
our theme is baby pink,white and sparkles, i wrote on the invitation guests are welcome to wear any of our wedding colours if they wish if not thats fine. since then iv had over 100 messages telling me the women have brought pink dresses,adults have brought something white or pink for children, everyone is making a effort :-) it would be better to tell them there welcome to wear your colours and if they do you would appreciate it, x
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CommentAuthorGemmaB92
thanks louiseA15 thats brilliant thats pretty much what i was more going for, Id appreciate family wearing our colour but of course im not going to make them as thats not fare on them and im not mean.
CommentAuthorTotallyLovedUp
I actually think that's a lovely idea :D I think if you asked them to wear a whole outfit in your chosen colour, it may be a bit rude, but ask them if they would like to wear burgundy or accessorise with burgundy, and emphasise to those who you would like to be included in the colour scheme the reason why, they would be thrilled to be included in your wedding in that way!
I think with the remaining wedding guests, if you included on your invites that they would kindly respect your wishes not to wear any burgundy, most, if not all the remaining guests would be fine with it. You may get a few moaners but when don't you at weddings lol
CommentAuthorKristina
I was also thinking about asking the guests to wear something that represents my color scheme, but something small like a bracelet that kind of things.
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CommentAuthorLauraJo87
What about putting something on the invite like 'our colour scheme is burgundy, so please feel free to wear a little something to tie in' (I'm terrible at wording things, I'm sure one of the other ladies will be able to think of a better wording!)
That way, you aren't pressurising your guests to be a whole burgundy outfit (which some may misinterpret it as) but it let's them know that you would like them to wear a little burgundy, if they're happy with it.
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CommentAuthorMrsGothBride
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Think it depends on your guests, I wouldn't wear any thing pink ever, but purples I would and I would feel really uncomfortable if I was being told I had too... My mum and mil2b have both chose black dresses to wear on my day, it might not look great on photos as i am in black too but i couldn't care less to be honest x
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CommentAuthorGemmaB92
thanks everyone your imput has been great! I know not everyone agrees and not everyone that will be invited will agree either as you can not please everyone and not everything i do is to everyones taste.
CommentAuthorOWB
I think if you word in in such as way that tell them that you would appreciate it, but it it not compulsory then more people will be willing. Or as was suggested above, if you want certain people to stand out then buy a buttonhole for them. My mum is getting married next year all all 30 day time guests are wearing a buttonhole/corsage. The extra 100 evening guests can wear what they want.
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CommentAuthormrsP2b
I think the idea of asking people to wear a little of your colour if they can sounds great. That way if they don't want to then they don't have to, but everyone can feel included if they want. I went to a wedding a while back where everyone was asked to wear something blue and lots of people had blue sashes or hair accessories or shoes rather than a whole outfit and it looked great. I do agree though, if I thought I was going to have to buy a whole new outfit I would be a little put out.
Maybe if you wanted to use the corsage idea, you could mention in the invitation that if they couldn't find something then you will have something they could wear and then you could provide button holes/corsages etc.
CommentAuthorlouise5
i also made an events page on fb and kept it private and only invited people i invited to wedding. i update it all the time so people can keep up with information times ect. our guests love it xx
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CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
we asked all our guests to wear black and white ... which everyone did
