Wedding Forum - As a Guest, Would You Mind If...?...

I was reading comments today by Mark Niemierko (wedding planner extraordinaire) saying that he recommends not doing favours unless you're really going to town on them. I'm not sure I agree with that, but I wondered again whether it's worth having favours.

Grant's offered to make loads and loads and loads of fudge to give as favours and to print paper bags with our wedding logo to match, but if you were a wedding guest, would you mind if there were no favours?


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Wouldn't bother me in the slightest. As we all know being brides to b, the cost just gets out of control so I suppose it is just what you are comfortable with. My h2b has changed his mind after buying favour boxes which were quaint little seats that would double as place setting names (cost about £60 from usa) and then decided he wanted vodka minatures only after buying the bottles being so shocked at how much it would cost to fill them! Thankfully we hadn't gone and bought the dragees to go in the boxes or that would've been more wasted money. To attempt to make up for it he then suggested that we give both.... Honestly, men! haha.

If you do decide to give favours I think the fudge is a brilliant idea, will be cost effective and a truly "from the heart" gift to your guests as it was made especially for them. :-D

we did favors for our guests when we held our party back in the UK and loads were left behind i would say unless they were something very personal and extravagant i wouldn't bother most people don't look for them or even take them home and the ones that want them will take other stuff as a memento ( people took our centre pieces lol with permission ) xx

wouldnt bother me... as in my country it is not usual to have favours... so no I'm not used to it only doing it as h2b whats a typical british white wedding :)

Wouldn't bother me even slightly! Tbh I probably wouldn't even notice lol! xx

I wouldn't mind in the slightest. i've been to several wedding where there weren't any favors.

I was dead set against having any favors for ours - my mum told me that I HAD to have them, when I asked her why she said "they will be expected" What kind of a reason is that? I don't understand why we invite people to have the honor of being part of our day, we feed them, we give them drinks AND then we also have to give them a present! It makes no sense at all to me!!

The last 3 weddings I have been to havent had them but I am having them because I want to. We are having fortune telling fish because we met on plenty of fish a lotto ticket to give people wealth and some just married rock sweets because I thought they were cute lol

We are also having if I get time to make them chocolate lolly pops with peoples names on as their table place setting.

xx

We probably arent doing favours we having been looking at the cost and feel the amount our day is costing why do we have to buy everyone a gift aswell. I went to a wedding last year where they had a silhouette artist doing pictures of everyone. I thought that was amazing she did us a lovely pic of the 2 of us and another one of both children. Everyone thought it was a great idea.

It wouldn't bother me not to have favours at a wedding I went to. we were given little tubes of love hearts at a wedding I went to last week. For our wedding we're having crackers that are doubling up as place names. I've bought some bubbles to go in them only because they were dead cheap due to the box being damaged, then just going to put jokes and facts inside. May just buy some little sweets or a couple of boxes of ferrero rocher type things and pop one in each cracker.

it wudnt bother me being a guest but being the bride and not doin them i would be! i dont want people to think i am tight or havin a cheap weddin!!

I dont think this would bother me, But I am still going to be doning some.
And im not goin to town on mine as we just cant afford this xx

i wouldnt mind not having one but i do lovvvvveeeee the homemade fudge idea

jlr we havin same for h2b auntie x

kaya i said i wud mind but from a brides point of view ( ie my weddin lol)

That's ok then Becky, just the people that have put it as a guests point of view... I think it's cheeky!! lol x

lol thats true!! i got world cancer research pins for £1.50 each for my guests, cums wiv a little card for each table, then on ebay yesterday i got 37 dragon wine charms for £8!!! so gunna give it girls and think of sumting cheao 4 boys! am also havin a sweetie buffet but opening that after meal so gud 4 nite do too

Ohhhh I just googled him and WOW!!! Magic!

stave who u googled? lol lost

whos he?

world cancer research site hun

awww they are ace!! i luv them lol ave wrapped them up and put them ion organza bags

Posted couple of links of your wall Kezza x

yayyyy, sending out some freebies and i have also looked on another site that is close to my 'heart' and they do favours too, this site is amazing coz you find alsorts out thanks guys xxxxxxxxxxx

I wouldn't mind if there were no favours at a wedding but I am doing them. I have chest boxes in purple and gold decorated with ribbon and feathers inside they have 2 purple and gold chocolates.

I voted yes.... But not necessarily because I would be bothered by not having a favour, but on the opinion of a guest.

I attended a wedding last week which before I even bought a drink cos me around £350 to go to, by the time I had bough H2B and myself new outfits, transport to and from there venue ect. Oh and the present. So were as I kno us as couples are payiing loads for our day. Our guests are still paying a fair amount to attend our weddings and a favour to me... is a small thank you for going to such effort to be apart of their/our special days.

I don't think cost should matter either. Jo I'm also having home made tablet and fudge :D that my friends are making for me and I think that most people will be happy to recieve it.

Sorry to have a conflicting view from most but just wanted to put it from another angle.