Monday:
18 days before the wedding (yes 18 days!!!):

Back in february my uncle peter said he was due to buy a new car (a posh one) and offered for him to take me, bm to church and them me and matt to the venue. Ive been happy with this all along as its my godfather and its really special that hes taking me. As mum and dad have split up....and i wanted to get ready with mum the plan was:
12.00 leave mums in worksop (in nans car)
12.30 Arrive at grandmas (where dad lives)
12.45 Leave Grandmas in uncle peters car to go to church
13.00 Wedding Ceremony

This has been set since FEB. Nan rung me up yesterday to let me know shed booked a Limo (as a wedding present) to go from grandmas, to church and then to venue (rendering unc peter useless) I explained AGAIN (shes know all along) to her that uncle peter has spent money making car seats and orgainisig flowers, ribbon and other bits (apparantly over £100 so dad says). Anyway she said it tough and i now have a limo so got to use that!! Its not what i want though!! Uncle peter is doing his car as a wedding present.

Very annoyed cos shes left it this late to book it, what sane person would think ive not organised transport 18...B loody dys before the wedding!!! Especially since i told her cos she was taking me to grandmas. Im grateful for the gesture though. Dont know whether mums talking to me either. She either put the phone down when i rang her yesterday or it cut off. The last i heard was.....'im fcuk'd off with this' and then the phone went. Stepdad did say mums having problems with her phone. Im at risk of loosing people off the guest list.....whether its my unc peter and aunty jane, nan, grandad and mum....or just nan and grandad. If mum doesnt go i take it ive lost the page boys too.

Tuesday:
Well i got a phone call from nic (MOH) to tell me that nan and grandad arnt coing to the weeding and dont want anything to do with me ever again. Im just thankful that my MOH has the decency to let me know. Bit drastic if you ask me. She had told mum i shouted at her over the phone, when i didt.....i just explained that it was a nice gesture but couldnt accept it cos uncle peter is doing transport, which to be honest is what i really want. He my godfather and was really touched whhen he asked me if he could take me back in february.

Im really hurt at te way things have panned out, all along nan has said its your day so do what you want to do. Me and mum are talking but i didnt mention the wedding at all, cos i dont wanna goe into an argument to be honest. Nic said nans booked it two weeks ago and mums known all along. She either didnt say anything or nan wouldnt listen (like she did with me)

Sooooo hurt right now.

Thankyou. I think it really is over between me and my grandparents though. They have ditched many of the family beofre (their own kids) for years at a time. As long as i dont loose my mum, stepdad and pageboys over this i should be ok.

well look at it another way hun. its less ppl to feed at the wedding :0). if they can cause such a fuss like they hav maybe its better if they dont go, at least u can relax with the family who matter. weddings are stressful for evry one. i really hope you sort things wif ur mam and stepdad xxx

*HUGE HUGS*

I think nan was trying to be nice in that strange way that nan's try to be nice - that could account for her getting the huff and giving your mum grief over it.
It is a pain in the rump though, especially if she's known all along that your Unc was doing your car for you.

I'd speak to your mum and explain the situation to her, or if she won't talk to you then get your stepdad to talk to her and have another go at trying to explain things to nan.
Would it be worth, just to keep the peace, using the limo to transport BMs or mum & stepdad or another member of your immediate family - I know it's not what you had in mind BUT it might just calm the situation down and nan might not feel so put out of joint.

Families - who'd have 'em!!
xxx

Couldnt you use the limo for your bridesmaids and page boys or maybe mums and dads. Why not drop her a card and say thank-you and you are sorry to have upset her it was not your intention and you would love to use the limo for your bridal party as you have already made arrangements for yourselves. Then you have done all you can and the rest is up to her. I wouldnt cross them off your list just incase they do turn up when it comes to the day especially if they themselves havent told you they are not coming - that would make for a scene on the big day that you could do without. Now take a deep breath and enjoy x

I suppose we could. I think matts gonna ring her tonight and we might be able to arrange going over at some point (though we hadnt planned going over now untill the wedding) I just wish she would have spoken to me about it first, it wouldnt have come to this. Looks like its the only way.

Nan is so stubborn and initialy told me it was tough....i had to go with her plans. Shes usually boss of the family and everyone follows suit. Grandad generally follows aswell but nic said grandad is furious also. I suppose though ill get a better idea when matts spoke to them.

I hope you get it sorted out Lindsey my love - I hear what you're saying about nan being head of the family, my gran (God rest) was exactly the same, no-one dared breathe unless she gave it the ok, except grandad who was a little rebel in his time lol

I think it's so sad that all this has happened over a car, some people really do beggar belief at times. I'm sure she was only trying to be thoughtful but she really should have spoken to you 2 first, especially as it was her telling you to do it your way the whole time. I bet as long as you butter her up and tell her how lovely the thought was then she'll bend a bit, and if not, well, it's really not your problem

Let us know how Matt gets on with her
xxx

AAAAARRRRRRGGGGGHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Well i was on the phone to the MIL whe she asked who owned a silver people carrier.....nan and grandad!!....anyway they have pushed a letter through MIL door (the rsvp place) saying:

'It is with deep regret that we shall not be attending the wedding of
Wendy Ann Gleadhall (EEERRRRRRRMMMMM thats my mums first married name!!!!) and
Mathew (SPELLING!!!! - TWO T'S!!!) Evans

Yours Faithfully
Lindsey's Nan and Grandad'

They didnt send an aceptance but happy to travel 14 miles out of their way to post a ch uffing letter!

I think the mistake is history repeatig itself as they didnt have the decency to attend their own daughters (my mums) first wedding.

They have RSVP'D a wedding that doesnt exist!!!

for goodness sake!!!!!!

that is just evil!!!

try and shake it off hon!! stick to your plans with your uncle's car and have a great wedding!! it's NOT about them and it's horrible that they'd try and ruin your day!!

my family is kinda like that (fall out and not speak for years over something stupid) i'm not even inviting my brother. i'd be too worried about trouble he could cause at the wedding, and i get angry every time i think about him. he would ruin my day.

don't let them ruin your day. screw them!!!!!

That's what we're here for chick, it'll be alright on the night ;) xx