Well i have 2 very good mates, who are also happen to be best mates to. But 1 of them is being a pain at the moment i dunno what to do weve tried giving her advice and all we get is snappy replies and her getting funny with us.
It all started a couple months ago at our engagement party She met one of my h2bs friends and they swapped numbers....NOW after a couple weeks of non stop texting and meeting up while out clubbing he got way to drunk and asked her our only to end it the next day saying was far to quick! She NON stop went on and on about him, texting him all time, faffing because he hadnt replied within a couple of hours! he'd say he'd meet her then always cancle at last min! Now its been 2 months and hes admited that hes not interested in her but she wont get hint and stop texting him, i then messaged her this because as her best mate i dont wana see her get hurt, and our other friend also had words. Well she got really funny with us and basically made out that its both our faults that her and this guy werent talking and all we do is say **** about him!
I obvsiouly got rather annoyed and said that it was bang out of order we were just trying to look out for her! She apologised and said obviously we were right and he was a t***.
Then week later shes posting all over facebook how "hes a beast in bed" and he was putting all about "how shes giving him oral sex" and taking guys home!!! And other comments like this! ive tried to explain that shes going to ger her self a reputation if she continues! ive already had other guys we know be put off because shes getting with a different guy every weekend shes out in town!
She says its because im engaged and all her other mates her bfs and she wants one, but ive tried to explain that rushing and getting with any old guy isnt the way to find a decent bf and she will get hurt.....But no luck there she doesnt wana listen.....plus shes off to uni in few months and its a good 7 hour drive or so from where we live!
Now shes just being blunt, doesnt even seemed bothered about wedding plans, never wants to meet me and my other friend and is constantly out with a new friend now.
And to top it off the other night my h2b was in the local pub and she walked in looked and him and blanked him, i said about it to her and all i got was "lol", i know its a little petty thing but i personally thought this was rather rude! Shes meant to be my MOH!
Argg just dunno what to do, ive tried and she just doesnt wana listen? Should i just let her do what she wants and let her deal with the consequences? Any advice? x x x
CommentAuthorStave
Oooo - how old is she? x
CommentAuthorxbeckix88
ermmm 21 this year x
CommentAuthorljeh92
i would probably leave her a bit and let her come to you when/if shes ready. She sounds very immature for her age, writing that stuff on her facebook wall, constantly texting someone who isnt interested and blaming everybody but herself. Maybe you and your other friend should just get on with stuff just the two of you and hope she grows up a bit soon, i dont want to sound harsh but it sounds a little pathetic thats shes blaming you. Hope it gets sorted! xx
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24th June 2011
CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
awww she sonly 20 lol still rathe rimmature then hun!
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Marrying the man of my dreams 11th August 2012!
Honeymoon To Jamaica 14th October 2012
in all honesty leave her to it - she needs to make her own mistakes & learn from them xxx
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CommentAuthorkateh3
your best just leaving her to it she will know she can come back to you for a shoulder when things go wrong just make sure she knows that shes gonna have to learn from her own mistakes x
CommentAuthorLisa Ramos
You have done your best and tried to help her. I would leave her to it now, but if she shows no interest in the wedding after so long I would either demote or sack her. At the end of the day she sounds very immature and might even be a tad angry at your other half, for what his mate did to her.
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CommentAuthorFlossie
I think so too.....she'll come to her senses soon enuff.....sometimes the less you say the better! X
CommentAuthorxbeckix88
Ive taken the advice and left her to it! As for showing a interested in wedding i guess we will see have booked a appointment with bridal shop monday to get some advice and try styles of diff dresses on....see how she behaves then i guess or if she shows up!
