apologies if this has been discussed before but did a search and nothing came up :)
My h2b keeps saying he wants me to say "obey" during our vows, i'm sure he is joking but wondered if any other brides is having to suffer the nagging about this too :)
getting married on 29th June 2013
You cant please everyone!!!!!!!!!!!!!
love smillies :)
CommentAuthorNishaVyas88
Nah, my h2b knows I'd never go along with the "obey" thing. Personally, I find that vow insulting and outdated. "Respect" is a much more apt version.
CommentAuthorMrsV2b
Totally agree, and i told him that i would only obey if he got dow on his knees in the church and begged :) and then he had to say obey as well :) lol
getting married on 29th June 2013
You cant please everyone!!!!!!!!!!!!!
love smillies :)
CommentAuthorNishaVyas88
Absolutely- if the bride says "obey", the groom should as well. Gender equality and all that *makes "Girl Power" sign*
hmm ... can i ask you what obey means? sorry to sound silly but never hurt of it and as i'm nt english i might be knowing it but it probably is called different please explain it to me!? thx xx
CommentAuthorFaeth
Obey means to do what someone tells you to.
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CommentAuthorFass
H2b (Stu) tells me i that i should say obey. I know he is only joking tho. I wouldn't want to say that. I think respect is much nicer
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CommentAuthorx~Hails~x
nope we will be saying love, honour and cherish!
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CommentAuthorsam73
We haven't even had this discussion :S
CommentAuthorMel D
I can't remember which vows we chose, but there was never any chance either of us were going so say "obey"!
Got married Sat 28/05/2011
Renewing vows Sat 29/05/2021
We're planning WELL in advance!!
CommentAuthorEnny
okay thanks for the info faeth :)
CommentAuthorMrsowen2b
i will no be sayin "obey" at all my h2b jokes about it but he knows i would never say "obey" i feel like im a little wife being forced to do things if i say "obey" haha!!
CommentAuthorAngelaeris
I dont think that was an option in our vows, maybe its just a church thing? Wouldnt bother me if i had to say it though.
21st September 2011 the day I became Mrs Davis!
CommentAuthorWeeMintyMonkie
There is not chance you will get my to be saying Obey.... I wouldnt expect my H2b to say it to me so why should i say it to him!
we havent looked at vows yet. Im not sure if we have to pick from certain ones or if we can have our own.
xxx
CommentAuthorxox-Zoeee
on bridezilla yesterday they both said obey which i thought was nice. both bride and groom saying it kinda takes the meaning out the world obey i think. xx
CommentAuthorJane
we are writtin our own vows a've put a post on it :) it might give you an idea of writting ya own as well xxx
yay soon 2 be Lady Jane Bradbury
CommentAuthorSheWolf
I hadn't even thought about it until I saw this! But no, I will not be saying "obey". I don't like the phrasing.
CommentAuthorKayteeG
Nope - not getting married in a church so that's not in our vows, and I wouldn't be saying it anyway!
CommentAuthorstressed to max b2b
NO WAY i told david stariaght away i wasnt sayin it, its a disgusting word and i will not say it. id rather not get married I DO NOT obey anyone............. BUT he can say it in his vows to me lol x
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CommentAuthorkimmy
No way hose !!!! it is outdated, id rather say Respect :D
CommentAuthorMrs Brakes
Kiz keeps saying I have to say 'obey' so far I haven't stopped laughing for long enough to tell him that I'll 'obey' him when he 'obeys' me!
Got married 11/11/11.
CommentAuthorKimi
OBEY - the only obeying is my dogs to my commands. :P
The days are flying by, can't wait :)
CommentAuthorSteph-Hughes-2b
it's not come up for us, but i'm pretty sure we will not be doing that in our vows
CommentAuthorjo Santa
No. I escaped a marriage where all I did was OBEY. I have every intention of being equal partners this time round so I won't be starting it off by vowing to obey, lol.
Jo Santa
CommentAuthormummyto2
NOT A CHANCE
im a married women now
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i love my hubby and my kids with all my heart and soul
CommentAuthortweedwedding
No I don't think so, I wouldn't want h2b to say it to me either!!
CommentAuthorjoey86
Definitely not! x
CommentAuthorMrsV2b
I think our oh's use it as a way off winding us up. I really cant imagine having a man who really meant it, mind you if he did i wouldnt be marry him :) trying to explain to oh there is a difference between obey and being kind and doing him a favour, and getting him a beer from the fridge is not the same as promising to obey him!!!!!!!!!!! lol
getting married on 29th June 2013
You cant please everyone!!!!!!!!!!!!!
love smillies :)
CommentAuthorKinkyemo
Id never say obey I'm not his to control in that manor
CommentAuthorEnny
so true i'm happy to do things for h2b when he asks me nicely or i offer but if i'm really ill which happens rarely i ask him to do something for me which happens rarley too that he does something but if i even ask him to make me a tea normally he wouldnt do it but if he knows i'm ill he does but if he would say u must nooooo way no so wont be doing it :)
CommentAuthorloubylou
we keep joking about adding 'obey' but we arent saying it either. our minister said its not actually in the vows at his church now, its only added if someone requests it. :)
21st October 2011 will be the best day of my life!!!
CommentAuthorpennieb-MrsRiley
I've no idea if it's actually in our vows tbh, but if it is then I will say it, I have no qualms about saying it as part of the vows knowing that we have a very equal relationship anyway
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