we are hoping to pay for most of it ourselves but dad has just sed he wants to contribute 8 grand to the fund so we are very lucky indeed that means our venue is now paid xxx
CommentAuthorJane
As it is both our second time around I dont really expect any help from anyone, I'm paying for the wedding and H2B is sorting out the honeymoon, I had a small inheritance last year and just sat on it because I was hoping H2B would accept my wedding proposal! Luckily though so far everything has been paid for without touching the inheritance so that might go on a newer car after the wedding! FIL2B was fantastic the other day though - paid for my wedding dress which was a very nice gesture! Dont think my mother will contribute, but she might surprise me. Though I doubt it very much!
CommentAuthordoushka
we'll be paying it ourselves even tho fil2b is loaded, and im guessing as i'll be doing all the planning and shopping i'll be paying for it all as well. to stop having to pay for stuff when we go shopping together i have to be slow at finding my purse, even tho he works full time and i just work saturdays. cant wait to sell this flat then i'll have a few grand to go on the wedding.
CommentAuthorlinzi
we are paying the whole lot ourselves. My parents split last year and used all their money setting up new homes for themselves. My H2B parents are still together, and ok off, but not offered to pay for anything. So its just up to me and H2B to do it. But that also means that nobody else gets a say it who gets invited and what we do on the day! which is a bonus.
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CommentAuthorb2bnicola
My parents are paying 70%, us 25% and his mum 5% We wudnt be gettin married for years if we didnt have my parents help! Bless them! xx
We are getting help from family, but most of it we will be paying ourselves. Me & h2b are paying half and half towards it but I recon I will spend more what with getting little extras and finishing touches etc. We would have had alot more money given to us but we got help paying our deposit for our first house so really didn't want to ask for any more off family x x x
CommentAuthorMrsSandiBillany
I'm a very, very, very lucky girl..... My Mum and Dad are paying for most of it. The only thing we are paying for are accessories and of course rings.
I'm an only child and my Mum and Dad saved for many years for my Uni fund BUT i didn't go in the end so they use it for the wedding...
However - although my parents are paying the majority my H2B's family don't know this..... They havn't offered anything, my BIL2B is actually expecting H2B to pay for his own stag do!
CommentAuthorAshlie-Louise
We've been really lucky ... I found out a couple of weeks ago that my parents have always intended to pay venue costs, but with our venue being newly liscenced for weddings, its still not very expensive (comparatively), so Mum and Dad have included the catering costs as well ... they paying nearly £4k!!! My h2b's dad wants to pay flowers, and his partner used to make wedding cakes, so we asking chris to make the cake. Rest of it is coming from us, unless any other members of the family want to chip in ... ... we kind of have a family tradition where as the wedding gift, a contribution will be made to the wedding fund, to help make the day special (my parents usually buy the cake for whichever family member it is gettin wed!). All in all, we very very lucky xx
CommentAuthorleighbee
nope we'll be paying for it all! i'm not expecting anyone to put money in but would be thrilled if they could i have worked out roughly our budget n think we can save enough by October 2012! (but i think i will try and save most of it!) so fingers crossed but do want a second job as well lol! its so expensive around the south east to get married its scary!! x
CommentAuthormoodypryor2
oh i wish we had help lol although my aunty has bought our cake that im grateful for xx
CommentAuthorRoxii
We started out planning out what we could save each month and how long it would take to save for our dream wedding plus I'm saving a little extra in case of little extras or inflation, but that's because I'm choosing to(or will be when my income increases from £0 to something, lol). My parents are skint, and have ended up bringing up my nephew which is skinting them some more.. None of them can work my dad is disabled and my mum has an anurism on her brain, so the slightest knock can kill her, plus she is my dad's carer, she helps care for me when kev can't be here, she's my brother's home tutor and a full time mum. But Kev's parents are giving us a few £thousand towards it when we need it closer to the time! :) I really appreciate their help but no way did we expect it.. And I'm due a fairly large(IMO) back payment, so that will cover a lot of the costs, then regular weekly payments along with what Kev contributes.. Our day is going to be fab, but it'll be no better than if we payed for it ourselves as the end result will still be the same.. A happily married couple! :) x
CommentAuthorShellster90
Well said hun!! :) xx
CommentAuthorgemma19
I am getting some help. We dont see it anymore as the brides family have to pay and we certainly were not going to ask for help as that is not us. When we started to look around at venues and stuff we were trying to work out what we could afford on our budget and then my mum offered to help pay for some, which is great as we can now have a lovely venue rather than just an average one. My mum came to look at venues and she helped us choose. But apart from my mums help my H2B and i are paying for everything equally. Its not just down to the bride and we have always shared money. So it should be any different. :-)
CommentAuthorLedZepLover
Our families would love to help us more but they can't afford it themselves and I really wouldn't expect it. I think, whatever anyones budget their wedding day will be very special and the best day of their lives for them. You can throw all the money in the world at a wedding but it doesn't mean its going to work! At least thats our excuse for not having a big budget;) lol x x x
CommentAuthorrainykins
We are getting quite a fair bit of family help. My mum and dad have paid for quite a large chunk of it all, our wedding cake is a gift from some old family friends of ours, hair is a gift from a friend, makeup and nails is a gift from another friend and my photographer is costing me a flight and a hotel room If we didn't have such wonderful friends and family to help us out as much as they are i think we would be getting married more likely in 2020 xx
CommentAuthorKaya
We are.... but we didn't expect help, so planned the weekend to what we can afford, so the help we're getting just makes it easier :-)
Now Mrs Cobb!!!!!! :-D
CommentAuthorEma
I think we will be paying for ours and I don't expect any help. We have just over 2 years to save so hopefully we will have the funds by then and will just buy things along the way. We don't want to have a big wedding but do want to have it in the Maldives so our main savings will go towards the hotel/water cabin & flights. There will only be 14 people there maximum inc us. H2B's family have a lot of money saved but I doubt we'll get anything as H2B is the eldest and its usually his sister and younger brothers who get bought things and holidays paid etc. That said, I think knowing on the actual day that we worked our bums off to have our perfect wedding day will be a lovely feeling :-) I just cant wait!x
CommentAuthorgemmacummings@uwclub
Nope we are paying for the whole thing ourselves.
That is why we are going for 2 years time, gives us as much time to save up as much as possible as it will be a big do, we have about 100 people coming to the wedding/reception etc & then a exta 60 in the evening
CommentAuthorAttention seeker :)
we are paying for most of it ourselves but any help offered to us is excepted with open arms. My MIL paid for my dress last week and my step MIL is offering to help with cost towards the venue. My mum and dad havent offered any help at all. Even my eldest daughter offered to get a sat job to help pay for stuff :)
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im married
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CommentAuthorloola_hoop
we didnt ask for any help with costs, but H2B monther (to whom i am very colse) is buying us a honeymoon to domincan, or cuba - so VERY pleased with that, and my dad and stepmum are buying my cake, and i did ask my mum to arrange the flowers if i brought them, as she used to be a florist/flower arranger and she said no :( but we are paying for everything else xXx
CommentAuthorShell
Were paying for everything ourselves, hopefully we are anyway, lmao ;)
CommentAuthorjjono
h2b parents have paid our £750 deposit and the rest we have to pay ourselfs.
I am a little diserpointed as my mother paid a lot 2wards my brothers wedding and I am the eldest grand daughter , i have looked after my nan sice i was 13 and always thought she would offer some help.
But never mind, we are managing ok and we like the face that we are managing alone. As long as we manage to get the day we want at out budget we will be happy
CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
Tbh i will be so proud on the day to say that we paid for it all ourselves
we've paid for nearlly everything ourselves but weve had our wedding cars are 2of our close friends they letting us use them 1 is a mercedes convertable and the other is a bmw convertable our wedding cake is free cos my friend makes them and she said she'll do it as a wedding present for us my gran as bought me my wedding dress and my mum as bought me my bouquet but apart from that we've paid for everything ourselves x
