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Well invites for the evening reception have gone out and now a lot of people are asking where our gift list is. When we decided to get married people asked what we'd be wanting as presents we said nothing as we weren't getting married to get presents. Now the invites have come out everyone keeps asking where our list is and what we want.

We keep telling everyone that as we are not having a convential wedding that there is no need to buy us gifts, but friends and family are still saying that they want to.

I'm just curious as to what everyone else is doing in respect of presents from their guests

We have lived together for a few years now so we have done a mixture of both things as when we talked with the parents they all thought it rude to ask for cash!
So we have asked for cash donations towards a new sofa which is the only thing we really need and we will also have a small gift list form argos that ppl can use to get little things that we can replace with the stuff we have now, so they have the option of a gift gift or a money gift

We had a 'traditional' list as we didn't live together and owned no household stuff, but weren't bothered whether people bought from the list, got other gifts or gave cash and vouchers. We got all four. We 'sold' the vouchers to my parents as we didn't have time to shop before moving to Germany (very short notice move!!!) and the cash came in useful for furniture.

we are doing a mixture of both .... we are having a gift list but also asking for money towards the homeymoon

we moved 2 houses into one about 18 months ago so more than 2 of everything!!! loads got sold but we need nothing for the house (other than a full time maid!) so we would like family holidays (cheap and cheerful!) and hopefully one abroad soon (if circumstances allow) xx

I'm not a massive fan of giving money, especially if there's nothing to say what it will be spent on.
We're having a gift list from J0hn Lew1s. We've been together for nearly six years so the bits we bought when we first moved in together need replacing. Works out perfectly really!
xx

well we now have a gift list we didnt really want one as we live together and would prefer money as we would love a honeymoon however after a really negative response from my dad and his wife we decided to do a guest list for some bits and pieces but will have a card post box as well just in case lol xxx

you must have generous friends if they will give you enough to buy a camper van lol, i'd love one of those but with my friends would probably end up with a remote control one lol x

We've got a John Lewis gift list - we wanted to ask for money/donations towards our honeymoon really, but h2b was too proud for that.... soo a gift list it is x

thats it, i'd rather my friends have a good night at our reception instead of them worrying about buying us a present, especially with how hard things are for people at the moment. Its very hard to know what to do for the best.

We're having a few different gift lists - regular John Lewis, honeymoon experiences (paying for cookery classes, diving courses, car hire in Singapore etc) and a gift list with the RSA (so we can buy a piece of art). I know when I'm a guest I'm much happier when I can just pick from a list rather than having to worry whether I've chosen the right thing.

we have done a poem asking for money but i know my best friend has got us a present aswell xx

We enclosed a poem with the invite, rsvp and menu. We changed it a little bit (originally got it from ukb lol) because we would like either money or honeymoon vouchers.

Our Wedding

We’ve been together for a few years now
and have a lovely home.
There are not too many items that
we don’t already own.
So please don’t be offended
and please don’t think we’re brash
If you’re thoughts were on a present
we ‘d much prefer Thomas Cook vouchers or cash.
The choice is really up to you
and we would like to say
We hope you come and enjoy yourselves
on this our special day

We've already paid in full for our honeymoon - but Thomas Cook have told us that if we get vouchers for our wedding then we can take them into one of their branches and they can reimburse us - and as we've already paid using our debit card, they can just put the credit back onto the card. We're both off work for another couple of weeks after we get back home though, so if we get quite a bit we've discussed having another short break.

My H2b and I have everything we need in the form of household stuffs as both been married before, so we are putting wedding poems in with the invitations. Personally all we want is to celebrate our day with family and friends, it does say in the poem if you wish to get us something, so leaving it up to the guests to make their own mind up. : )