Im a BIG LOVE BRIDE and proud of it. Seriously....MONEY/BUDGETS???? Who honestly cares? No-one should feel guilty about the money they spend on their wedding, whether £100.000 or £1,000...but seriously is that what its all about? And really does it need a section to itself? Surely we are all the same regardless of how much our weddings are? Does there really need to be segregation on a forum that invites all brides? Do threads for big budgets really need to be started by using the idea that low budget brides are attacking comments made by big budget brides???
I personally think love and repsect for your h2b, and he for you is far more important, than 1 expensive day, but that is my opinion. A lady on here recently left. I spoke to her on many many occasions. She is a lovely lady and a genuinely humble person. She had a limitless budget of 35k+ she spoke about her budget in a way that no one ever accused her of bragging or banging on about money. Unfortunately and very sadly her h2b recently cheated on her and now the wedding is off. There is the old adage......MONEY CAN'T BUY YOU LOVE...(The Beatles knew a thing or two)...........and it is so very true. This is not a dig at anyone before anyone gets on their high horse. This is simply for those ladies with big or small budgets that want to stand up and say foook money.....Ive got love!!!!! Vastly more important!!! xxxx

Great post :) x

The thing is in a world of millionaires/celebrities etc. £27k, £35k or £100k can be seen by those better off as pocket change so really....what is a big budget and where is the fine line that segregates us??? xx

Great post :)

Its the marriage that matters not the wedding day in the end.

ill start my ante is £5.00. mind you someones bound to say "is that all"???

xx

exactly as I always say to h2b...

It OUR day, about us expressing and celebrating our love for each other :D that's what's important

To me my budget is big, as It will be the most amount of money I've spent on one thing in my life... but to others it's probably pocket money :S each of us has a different interpretation of big/small budgets and what's small one way be very large to another! xx

This is the best thing I have read on here all day...

As long as everyone has the day they want it don't matter how much is spent. My first wedding was done it for under a grand and had a fantastic day (the marriage wasn't the same as the wedding day obviously lol). The budget for this wedding is 6 grand, I'm not looking at this one as being better than the last cause there is more money getting spent on it, my view on my 2nd marriage is I can't wait to marry the man I truly love this time and have all the people we love round us while we celebrate our day, the cost of it all does not bother me at all.

Lets all just have fun planning our special days and help each other out along the way, after all is that not what this place is for??

we reduced our budget through financial circumstance, and as much as i could of continued planning at the scale i was doing, it would of meant spending the time prior to wedding not 'living' at all. it has been more fun doing all the sourcing and getting best prices and i dont just mean of ebay - i mean in general. budget to me is not important but the commitment to each other for rest of our lives. i could spend a ridiculous amount of money or i could spend a smaller amount, but at the end of the day h2b and i both know we can stick together as a team and work through any major problems like we have done so far, regardless of how much you spend. a lavish extravagant wedding doesnt always show 'LOVE' and usually goes unappreciated.

i attended 2 weddings last year both in the role of MOH. one bride spent just over £2K the other £19K, yet the first wedding (2k) was better by far.

'that' thread sounds like something from 'four weddings' when they all b1tch about each others.

stevie you are so right, but reading between the lines of some of the threads there has been a bit of 'them & us' for some time now.

xx

I have the utmost respect for all brides on here I consider everyone a friend and someone I can turn to for help, advice and support. I have no qualms with anyone. I understand fully that some women feel they shouldnt talk about their big budgets. Why not? Anyone is free to join in all conversations on here and talk about their budget whether big or small. Do brides really need to feel though that they are either in 1st class or economy? I really thought this was a place anyone could come without feeling as tho there is a class system! We are all brides, planning our weddings, big or small, church or civil, uk or abroad. Stop making it a them and us forum!!!!
For any mods watching .....by all means delete this thread as and when you see fit, but please apply that delete to all threads which divide the forum. xxx

i dont think there is any them and us at the end of the day we are all getting married and no matter how much we spend the putcome will be the same the day after..... as it ....... will all be over and you will be man and wife. now if you have £300 or £30000 to make this happen it shouldnt matter xxxx

obviously people will spend what they are willing to spend and regardless of what that price is, definitely should not feel that its not enough/too much. It is about the love you share and we are going as big as we can AFFORD ONLY and only because we are confident that we will only do this once and have the best day. Yes its a decent budget but compared to some, is still quite modest and I know that it doesnt matter how much we spend, it is about the love we bring and the people we invite and the atmosphere that our friends and family create for us that will mean that we have a brilliant day. As I said a few weeks back, £2000 budgets can and often do have a better atmosphere than those spending 20-30K as it is about the emotion and the people that is important.

I can understand why some people may have taken offence to the other forum. However, some low budget brides have also commented on how they like to view the weddings and have funilly 'gatecrashed' hehe even though they havent gatecrashed as i presume special also meant that everyone is welcome to read and post comments.

In terms of a 'competition' I dont feel this is the case. I dont have the biggest budget on here but have loved contributing and looking at other brides plans etc as it interests me. I find it helpful for those on a slightly bigger budget as there have been areas that brides have wanted to ask about and yes, they have included prices, but what about the MANY MANY MANY other forums that have asked for prices to check they are suitable and not being ripped off, or to get an idea as to how much something has cost.

I dont think its meant to be a divide and a 'class thing' and I did agree with the first post on this forum in large that it was about love etc. However, quotes referring to seperate threads aimed at bbb and the comments associated with them have changed this thread and I know there was a comment about causing offence and how long it will take. Well if no offence is meant then people need to think carefully about what they put as now this thread has led to the other thread being s****** off. I understand why it was created, I understand it has been helpful, however, I also realise why it may have caused offence. However, I dont think ANYONE should be persecuted and this thread is not doing what it set out to do.

Well done stevie for writing this thread. I felt really upset yesterday when the other thread was put on. I have never even thought about comparing myself to other brides on here coz we are all here to have fun and talk about the one thing we are obsessed with - our weddings to our wonderful fiancés.
It almost made me leave as ive felt really at home on here up until now with the bitchiness and spitefulness. I came on here to get away from that....
We need to all remember that weddings are really expensive to all of us no matter what we all earn and what we want to spend and how much we save but its the fact that we CAN get married thats important. I am sorry if anyone that is reading this gets offended by what is on here but YOUVE made me feel uncomfortable with what you have said first so ner ner :p
I feel better now phew
xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Love you all

to add, bbb have also left due to the persecution so its not just lbb that have issues with comments posted.

I LOVE to see other weddings....if I didnt I wouldnt be on here....they fascinate me and I love to see other people odeas and venues.....however cant there be a thread for everyone to show that? Just an idea but before that thread there was no BBB and LBB. And yes I would welcome a deltion of both threads to get back to the forum I once loved. xxx

Good post tinsel. I can feel the love!

Tinsel I agree whole heartedly and although I have never made a comment like that I do apologise that people do. I see no reason why we cant all discuss budgets big or small wthout feeling harassed, guilty or not good enough. I have used this site for over a year and have never come across this BBB and LBB before tho and I find it discriminatory. Surely we can all use one thread ....there are many already in search....to discuss budgets, etc...without feeling the need to class it as a big budget. xx

i agree SS i feel this way sometimes

but the fact someone could start a thread like that is the whole point of this forum.

is there?? ok apologies, must have missed that one. I'm still not liking this feel of separation that is going on just now on this forum. I mean who really gives a sh1t??? we are all aiming for the same thing in the end. To marry our wonderful men.

somebody give me a nudge when everything on here is back to normal.........

like i keep sayign if people make rude comments ignore them but dont think we are all the same!! there was never a big issue with this untill you made the bbb room. we have all had nasty comments at some point but ignore it ! and like i keep saying there aint no higher budget threads because you aint making them !!!

I've made a thread and you're all complaining about it!

There was an issue as long as I've been here, it just wasn't spoken about in public.

Sorry but that is absolute rubbish!