h2b has told me off again for talking about the wedding too much again lol i am a woman on a mission atm and although the wedding is a way away, we are paying as we go and are on a budget so need to start getting things! he doesnt seem to get this or he does but he says it is stressing him out! all i have asked from him is his guests list and help deciding on invites! if he did as i asked i wouldnt keep nagging. i asked him for his list 2 weeks ago and he still hasnt done it!! i dont think i am asking for much...or am i?! i said to him that if he just wanted me to get n with it then i will i dont mind, but i thought he wanted to be involved. he said he does but asking him the same questions over and over is taking the excitement out of it (by the way im not asking him questions over and over or talking about it all day!) grrrrr
CommentAuthorEmsy5000
awww honey I am sure you are not talking to much. he need to understand that that is what all woman do put him on here for five mins and we will sort him out!
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CommentAuthorKimi
I had that but made a pact that I wouldn't talk wedding stuff unless it was vital until January and I managed to do quite well.
In retaliation to this though he now has to spend about 9 hours a week doing bits and pieces with me plus anything important that crops up to sort out immediately.
Maybe making some form of agreement that you will only discuss what needs sorting until 12 months before the wedding or another arranged date and in return he will then be pro-active about wedding planning and helping you with decisions. ???
The days are flying by, can't wait :)
CommentAuthorxox-Zoeee
some men dont understand how exciting weddings are for us women. i made h2b and m sit down for a whole night we did the guest list together took 2 hours listened to stupid amounts of wedding songs an drank alot of wine.. so i think am just gona keep droppin them nights in now and then when i need his imput. try it.. alcohol is the key xx
CommentAuthorTrish Goddard
Awww... yup i kinda know what you are talikng about....
When we first started talking weddings.. umm some 2 years ago, the other half said "is that all im gonna hear now till we get married"? so i said "Yup"
We now have 15 weeks to go.. and hes chatting about it more than me.. LOL
So take the rough with the smooth darling - most men dont like to talk about it till alot nearer the time, and as you said you do have just over 2 years to go... but trust me.,,. it will FLY by!!
It's hard isnt it hun. Mine didnt want to discuss it until recently either - he felt it was too early (?) and it didnt feel real to him. It annoyed me massively but he's come round now and for general chat I log on here lol
I think he's just interested in the day - runs smoothly, good food and that I turn up... in that order lol x
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CommentAuthorRhiannonollie
I feel quite lucky because my mum is more or less organising our wedding and I think she is getting stressed out with my dad because he's not as interested as her in it all. but it means i dont really do much!
So so far the only thing H2B has complained about is me asking if we can practice our first dance in the kitchen whilst making dinner - he wasnt very impressed!!
is soooo happy and lucky
CommentAuthorMel D
Yeah don't worry, he'll soon get into it and then you'll be the one telling him to shut about it already!
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CommentAuthorKimi
Me and MIL2B just went ahead with everything until he was ready to be included more.
The days are flying by, can't wait :)
CommentAuthorTotallyLovedUp
aww thanks! i was starting to think i was turning into a wedding bore :( the thing is if i went and did stuf withou him he would then get cheesed off because didnt include him!!! i cant win lol i know it is because he wants to feel excited instead of stressed but if we dont ge the ball rolling we wont be able to pay for everything in time!!
pmsl @ rhiannon wit her asking to practise the first dance whilst making dinner! that sounds like something i would do lmao
CommentAuthorFreyFreyMrs.Carney2B
We women need to talk! There is nothing boring you could possibly say about a wedding. Tell him that he either joins in now or he doesn't get a say in who's invited, what he wears or how the whole day goes! If he wants a say - he has to say! :)
CommentAuthorRhiannonollie
I have nagged on him to sort out his suits - because he keeps saying he'll do it - and i just say be it on your head if it goes wrong! and leave it at that! at least i will look perfect on the day!! hehe!!
And he was supposed to organise the band, but I ended up doing that too - but as I said everything else my mum is sorting - so right now its really not stressful at all. oh gosh shouldnt have said that! i bet it will all go crazy now!! hehe!!
is soooo happy and lucky
CommentAuthorK8tie90
My h2b used to hate me talking about the wedding, we argued so much cause 'i was talking to much' I just left him to it.. Now he is more than up for talking about it. He even spotted a wedding cake and we ordered it there and then. Hes so much better now although it tood him time to come round x
CommentAuthorxxhan87xx
my htb is the same he thinks its ages away and not important enough yet men ay. i hate it when people say that brides talk about weddings to much, i mean to most of girls its the most exciting day of our live. my nan said something the other day about all that ever comes out of my mouth is about my wedding this was only just after we found our venue we thought would be way over budget of course im going to be excited i have a dream wedding to plan. thank god for this site we can talk wedding til our little hearts are content lol x
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CommentAuthorTotallyLovedUp
lol rhiannon im sure it will be fine!!!!! does or did anyones elses H2B's roll their eyes too?? gosh i sound like im hubby to be bashing lol but it is doing my nut in lol...may as well vent it all and get it out today lol
CommentAuthorbutter
TLup, im the same, although im only asking him the same few questions, we have 5 months to go, and so far he has said he wants blue- so i have bought his outfit with blue in it, booked the wedding, reserved the reception venue, given him a choise of 5 blue invites, and he was supposed to pick the music which as i say 5 month to go and he hasnt even listened to a track - at this rate itl be arctic monkeys cd, lol. - hel leave it to me to sort it all out, hes said hel only get excited a few weeks before, some men are just like that.
CommentAuthorJoey
haha theyre so funny! Ken was like that too up until just after the new year when he knew we had 8 months to go. Now we have 6 months to go he listens (well i think he listens.....) to me go on and on and on about every part without moaning so we have made progress. Ive done the same Rhiannon... i give him times to do stuff but have end up doing whatever it is myself. I agree with Freyfrey. These men need to speak up otherwise it goes your way and only your way. xxxx
CommentAuthorbutter
mrs b2b, im 5 months to go!! and him and my family say its too soon and im talking about it too much - i only see my family once afortnight -ish and talk to fella about it once a week-ish. i think they think itl just magically sort itself.
CommentAuthorsuzky123
ur allowed to talk about it. its exciting tho I am worried about what im going to do after the big day as its all I go on about. Im scared of not having anything to say afterwards haha
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CommentAuthormcquire81
Most men think very differently to us women and tend think that unless something is imminent then there is no need to think about it! It drives me mad sometimes as my H2B is the same but im sure he will start to get more involved nearer the time. x
CommentAuthornini
I know how you feel, when my OH first asked it was all I could talk about for about 2 months and he got a little cross! We weren't in a position to start planning or saving so he felt it was a bit silly to try and organise. At the time I was upset that he didn't seem bothered but as time has gone on I realise he was talking sense! We now only have about 16 months to go so we talk about it about 1 a week, and we're both happy with that.
CommentAuthorTotallyLovedUp
i think my nagging has broken through....slightly lol he was looking at some invites today with me on the bay of e!! score 1 for moi lol
