I dont know if mine can make it yet. If not it will be my son

My dad isnt walking me down the aisle, i think it will be my mum and step dad.

I've not spoken to my dad in over 20 years, so hes not even getting an invite.

Melanie xx

I didn't have my Dad at our wedding as I haven't seen him in 25 years but we didn't have an aisle in St Lucia!

But at our Reception I think I'm going to ask one of my brothers to say a few words <3

JODIE - just took a look at ur pics - not long to go now!!- im loving ur bridsemaids dresses- im having a red theme, and want ivory dresses with red sash for my bridesmaids- where did u get the dresses from?

there from a site called lightinthebox.com from china only £34 each

none at all theres always some1 online if u need help with anythin u can either buy them in age 4 kids sizes for adults or even use ur own measurements altho i will say if u order ur dress from there with your own measurements add afew inch 2 ur hight my dress is about an inch 2 small if i wear a petticoat underneath im not tho cos u cant sit down in it without the dress comin up so its fine

think the prices have gone up slightly since i went on the site but only by about a fiver but they have loads 2 choose from n if u order this month u get 55% off the shipping costs (think i should work on commission 4 them) oh n u can also choose from about 50 different colours 2

i think i paid about £140 i got 50% off i think but that was 4 5 bridesmaid dresses 3 r big puffy 1s my wedding dress a 3 ringed puffy petticoat and my veil u have 2 pay vat when it comes over here 2 unless its just kids clothing then its free but vat was only £14 so its not 2 bad

if u go on the site add everythin 2 ur basket n b4 u get 2 the checkout but it should tell u somewhere near the bottom i think the total including delivery

My mum's recent husband is giving me away. I've known him for just over 10yrs now and he's been more like a dad 2 me than my dad (who I don't see).

my mm and dad split when i was four and iv not had much to do with him, so i have got my big brother to give me away, he cried when i asked him , the big softy...

I'm not too sure what's happening with that at the moment. My Dad had a serious motorbike accident a few days before Christmas and at the moment, is unable to walk. They can't operate on his back to mend the brake and have said he is to have complete bed rest and lie flat and still for 6 weeks, then they will review what the progress is but hope it will mend itself.
If he can't, I've asked one of my best friends if he will (or be an usher, depending on what's happening) He welled right up and choakily replied, "of course I will Jax, I'd be honoured!"
J xx

My mum had her elder brother give her away at her wedding, as her dad died when she was 18. Instead she had a trumpeter's salute when she went down the aisle in memory of her dad (he was a bugaler, trumpter and cornet player for the troops during WW2).
Thinking about my own wedding, it's feels kinda strange thinking about going against traditions (though some are easier to break than others :P ). I think my dad's been looking forward to walking me down the aisle, though he's never mentioned anything of the sort to me. I like the idea of walking down the aisle with my h2b unmarried, then walking back up it as a married couple :) I think it would steady any nerves I have before the wedding if I could arrive with Chris. He's my best friend as well as my h2b. I think I would feel slightly awkward if it were my dad I took the journey to the chapel with. When we get on it's great, but when we don't, all hell breaks loose and the least understanding person. I think I'd want someone who would support me the best, at the same time I don't know if I could take that away from dad if he's honestly been looking forward to it :S what d'you think?

im having my brother giving me away. hes 18 yrs younger than me so by the time we get married he will be a grand old age of 8!!!

My mum is walking me down the isle, my dad died when I was 17 and my next choice would have been my Granddad but he died last year so mums doing

My dad is walking me down the aisle even though there will only be about 20 of us at the ceremony. At the reception I wanted to arrive with my dad and have him walk me up the steps to greet my family and friends but of course my mother vetoed that right away saying dads walking her up the steps and my husband is walking me up the steps.

Although I'm kind of annoyed that my plan isn't happening, I can now see that she is right.

Anyway I don't get the whole wedding couple walking each other up the aisle before the ceremony. To me the groom should be waiting for the bride at the altar, or whatever it is. If my dad couldn't walk me down the aisle I'd have my oldest brother do it as I think I'm a bit old fashioned and the honour should go to another male and not a female. Sorry but I like to see certain traditions being followed wherever possible.

So .. I have a bit of confirmation needed.

Who will walk me down the aisle is a BIG topic of conversation in my family and my oh's family

My mum and dad split when I was very Young and my step dad (that I've always called dad and has literally always been there for me) has been around since I was about 3.

I had been seeing my dad every Saturday since I was young up until I was about 13 ( I used to hate going it was so boring and usually he would be at work so I'd be stuck with my step mum, 2 step brothers one of which was a nightmare to say the least, my step sister and my half sister. We never did anything and before he met my step mum he used to pay my mum a reasonable child allowance but then went to family court when he met her where court decided that £40 a month would be paid whilst he was working and £10 if not working .. So he immediately quit his job!? He then started working again on the sly and continued to only pay my mum £10 towards my upbringing but treat my step brothers and sisters to things ALL the time.
We stopped speaking after a very heated discussion whilst I was on a school trip in Switzerland beside myself because I didn't want to go because a girl that made my life hell was going but the school said they'd not refund us but agreed to keep her away from me .. The first night at dinner she sat on the same table as me so I went to my room and rang my mum in tears asking her to come and get me; she thought my dad might have been able to convince me to stay instead he called me a spoilt effing brat so I hung up on him and never spoke to him again.. I received nasty letters off my step mum (recorded delivery) saying I thought you were a caring Sharing girl blah blah blah how could I treat them like that they loved me. I ignored them because he never once admit he said that to me on the phone and never once apologised!

Fast forward 7 years ,.. I was in a fuel station 20 miles from home buying oil because work had run out and we had a dry car .. A man came up to me and said 'you'll get that cheaper on the high street love' I looked up and there he was!! I calmly said yeah I know I would DAD and he looked blankly at me so I said yes that's right DAD. He still stood confused so I said his name and all he could say was omg you've changed .. Like really!? He then proceeded to tell me id been awful to my step mum (I had called her a witch to a few people but any 13 year old so annoyed would) and then proceeded to deny that he'd ever said that on the phone .. I don't remember how exactly the conversation finished but I was shaking and in tears and the cashier even said is everything ok ... I drove the 1/4 mile back to work and everyone wondered what the hell has happened so I explained and they told me to ring my mum and go home.

My grandad had only recently had a severe heart attack and was clinically dead for 45 minutes and my uncle who used to be friends with my dad tried to convince me to speak to him again saying these things can happen at any time and would I be able to live with myself if something happened to him and we never made up

Anyway since then he tried adding me on Facebook which I declined then messaged me on Facebook sort of apologising and asked to meet up .. I agreed to see what he had to say but had to do it so my mum didn't know .. We have been speaking every now and then and we meet up to go for a meal every so often and take the dog round to play on his garden (very rarely) but last time we were out my step mum said to my oh at the bar that my dad would really really like to walk me down the aisle - now this was not said in front of me and my oh only told me a few weeks after the event but he was furious!

When we first announced we were getting married I thought it would be nice for my grandad to walk me down the aisle because he's fought with death about 5 times in the last 5 years so would give him something to look forward to and my grandad means the world to me; I sat by his side every single day whilst he was in intensive care lifeless with the doctors telling us to expect him to die; I knew that if that was the case I was not going to miss his last moments alive and told uni I was not attending for the foreseeable. Weeks past and the nurses eventually realised that he was responding to my voice moving his hand towards me and things and he pulled through. It literally was a miracle. But mum says she thinks he'll be too upset to walk me down the aisle and wouldn't want t do a speech so then I decided it would be my step dad who is my dad in my eyes that walks me down the aisle .. He's the one who's always picked up the pieces.

But now I really don't want to hurt my biological dad either ; mum has already said my step dad would be offended if both my dads walked me down the aisle (my step dad wouldn't but that's my mums way of saying she'd be livid because he doesn't deserve it)

Am I right and fair to not even address this with my biological dad and just have my step dad walk me down the aisle on the day or out of courtesy should I have the conversation with him that might break his heart with regret?