listen to us all moaning lol, we're supposed to be happy planning brides lol xx
CommentAuthorTinsel
I didn't want to start a new thread as this one already existed but I am so happy today. We've been engaged for a long time and my family (especially my Mum) wasn't interested; maybe because it was so long away, maybe because I am getting married in Kent but they all live in Cheshire, not sure. Anyway, whenever we spoke about the wedding she wasn't really interested - she didn't even come with me when I tried my dress on in a shop near her. Well today, she called me and asked if I could ring a hotel and reserve the rooms for my family! Whoop whoop! She wanted me to call as I have been 'doing deals' to get discounts and got one today as well. So pleased!
07.04.12 - the best day of my life!
Living happily ever after as Mrs Nottage x
CommentAuthorsuzky123
glad she is getting involved hun. x
cant wait to be Mrs Evans less than 3 weeks woooo
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CommentAuthorTinsel
Thanks, Suzky! I've done everything pretty much on my own (with a little help from H2B lol!) as she wasn't bothered. I had to involve MIL2B as she's been more interested.
07.04.12 - the best day of my life!
Living happily ever after as Mrs Nottage x
if it makes u feel any better the only ones interested in our weddding are me and dave and his family. My family r only interested in the pretty things and things that affect them. Mum has had a fair bit of involvement tho
cant wait to be Mrs Evans less than 3 weeks woooo
start weight 10st 1.5 lbs
weight now 8st 4.5 lbs
total loss to date: 24.5 lbs now need to maintain!
CommentAuthorx~Hails~x
Even before we postponed the only ppl interested in our wedding was the kids and my bestfriend! Even my sister with 10 months to at the time said come back in 6 months and ill show some interest! Now we have postponed i dont even bother saying anything to anyone and have hidden everything wedding related from family on fb
I have you girls to talk to instead :-)
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CommentAuthormrs-anni-oc
i am havin a different kind of problem with my mum... she is copyin my wedding... she has brought hers forward to the day before mine, i found out from a friend she is lookin at the same reception venue, she has already booked the same ceremony venue. sooo glad she aint seen my dress(kind of put a picture of a black victorian dress on my fb profile and made out this was my dress) lets see her copy that!
CommentAuthorTinsel
WHAT??? The DAY BEFORE??? Is she serious???!
07.04.12 - the best day of my life!
Living happily ever after as Mrs Nottage x
CommentAuthorTaz
I'M NOT ALONE!!!! Thank God.... My friends seem to be the only ones interested. In my mothers case the reason she not interested is because she's "psychic" & claims that its not going to last. It's always nice to be told that not long after you've got engaged!! I'll be lucky if mine actually turns up - she's never visited us in the 7 years we've been together and we only live 45 minutes away. When we told my parents we have provisionally booked the hotel & the date mums reaction was total silence whilst dads was to glare at her & say "okay I'll make sure everyone gets there"... Think I'll just do my planning on my own & with friends.
CommentAuthorTinsel
Oh dear, Taz. Not very helpful... In fact, quite unkind
Hope you can rise above it and focus on the fun side of the planning x
07.04.12 - the best day of my life!
Living happily ever after as Mrs Nottage x
CommentAuthorTaz
Thanks Tinsel - Definitely focusing on the fun side!! Going dress shopping with my step daughter to be in a few weeks (think she's more excited than me at the mo..)
CommentAuthorSilvermist
my mums the same, she keeps saying that we will get my sisters wedding out the way then talk about mine everytime i mention anything wedding related which isnt often, my sister is getting married in april 2012 im getting married in may 2013, when i spoke to my sister about it she said my mum probably thinks i might take the limelight away from my sister as she's getting married before me, which is a bit of a joke really! i decided i was going to go look at dresses booked an appointment then my sister to tell me she has spoken to my mum & she is busy so couldnt make it but she thinks that my mum might think im stealing the limelight by looking at dresses so early! im not sure if its just mum, both of them or my sister that does think this! im now going to go out dress shopping myself as i really cant be bothered with all the "she might think this" & "she says that" glad im not the only one xxx
CommentAuthorpennieb-MrsRiley
I've had to plan the entire wedding without any input from my mum as she got into a relationship with an awful man and because we weren't accepting of the guy she refused to speak to me and my siblings. She has recently fled from this man and is now living in a refuge - and is now feeling a bit upset that everything is already arranged! She is coming to the wedding now, and will take her place at the top table etc, because she's my mum and I wouldn't refuse her that, but she realises that she has missed out on a lot in the last 8 months by choosing to exclude us from her life. I've been very lucky that my MIL and MOH have been so fantastic and have really stepped up to help with the planning :) You don't need your mum's help or input, as nice as it may be to have it, just try and make sure you have the support elsewhere x
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CommentAuthorZoe Kay
My mum hasn't really been involved but through no fault of her own really , we live in manchester and shes in birmingham - I ring her to keep her informed and sometimes I ask her for advice but she's not really approached me without me bringing it up. MIL2B has been involed as she's paying for a big chunck of the wedding, but she's getting a bit annoying now tbh trying to change things that are sorted .. but i just take it with a pinch of salt and don't get involved xx
CommentAuthorMrs Brakes
My mother doesn't even know I'm getting married. I haven't spoken to her (except at a funeral) for 17 years. We never had any kind of relationship that didn't include being shouted at or beaten up so I don't miss that. MIL seems to think that she can be my mother and do all of those mother/ daughter things (whatever they might be) as she only has sons. She cannot understand that I never had what other people would class as a mother and I don't want one either. As no one really had much input in my life, it feels like she's interfering.
If the people that you feel should be helping you aren't, find other people who are willing instead. Too much emphasis is placed on what you SHOULD do and what's EXPECTED of you, especially with weddings. Do what you want and don't feel guilty about the choices you make because they're different to what's 'normal' or what everyone else is doing.
Like in Pennie's case, the people who should be helping may wake up one day and realise you didn't need them, it's all been done and they've missed out.
