So h2b had a chat with his best man the other night and they're planning on going to Vegas and going to see the NASCAR for his Stag do! And I know I probably shouldn't be but OMG I'm SO SO SO jealous - I've always wanted to do that trip, it's something h2b and I talked about doing together at some point... I'd really love to go with them but of course that's not the point of the exercise lol! And I can hardly steal his thunder by doing the exact same thing with the girls.
I need to find something equally amazing to do for my hen party now to make me feel better! Anyone else have similar experiences / suggestions?!
CommentAuthorx~Hails~x
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Why not?? Go together!!!
Get your girls together and tell them your plans! All fly over together do the nascar together as a STEN but then go your seperate ways! Stay in different hotels and do different things before and after!!
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CommentAuthorLegoWife
It's not really fair of him to go and do something you really want to do as well without you! If I was you I'd be really hurt rather than jealous.
But hails has a great idea, I think you should suggest it!
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CommentAuthorBlackCat13
Ahhh, no I'm not hurt, I want him to have his fun and I'm sure he wouldn't object to doing it again later with me! It's a superb idea Hails, except for the fact none of the girls are remotely interested in motor racing so they wouldn't want to pay that much & go so far :( x
CommentAuthorMrsShaw
how about asking him to have a more low key do over here and then you can both go there together? i bet thats a hell of a lot of money, more money than i'd be willing to spend on a stag or hen do! nice idea, but surely that money would be better spent elsewhere at the moment and just have a good p*** up in a big city?
I agree with mrsshawtobe. That sounds like a lot of money on a stag do. Wouldn't it be better for him have a different stag do and use that money for the two of you to do that trip together? To be honest, if my h2b decided to do something I really wanted to do for his stag, I'd be very upset. Xxx
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CommentAuthorJoanna
I also think hails idea is good. Why can't you have a joint hen and stag? A lot of people do that nowadays xxx
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CommentAuthorx~Hails~x
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Theres a lady on here I think whose h2b went to vegas for his stag and I think it cost 2k just for flights and hotel. It caused ALOT of arguements between them but if you can afford that and dont mind him going then by all means let him and if you do go somewhere like Ibiza, florida or do something else that you have both talked about doing together for your hen, see how he likes that??? Sorry but I've been thinking of this and I think its very selfish of him to do something that he knows you would like to do with him and spending that much on just his stag do (may cost less but will be at least 1k with spending money) would be a big no, if my h2b even suggested it I would go mental!!
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CommentAuthorMrs S
YESS!! lol Because my hen was ment to be on 3rd march and got changed to 10th march, so my OH took the 3rd, the weekend later i went on mine, i ended up ill & completly missed the whole thing!! gutted, the hotel bathroom was really nice tho x
CommentAuthorInDreamland
I do like Hails' idea ...............I'd feel the same as you hun ............I'd be heartbroken if H2B went to an F1GP without me! My H2B is also going abroad somewhere I wanted to go for his stag do so I'm a bit gutted but I'll make sure he makes it up to me. xx
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CommentAuthorTikobear
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I'd be gutted too. My h2b is going to Prague for a long weekend with limo rides activites etc and I'm well Jel! All i know is that we're staying in the UK and going down south somewhere and this is because most of us are mums s o don't want to go to far incase something is up with the kids! The things us mums give up eh??!! LOL!
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CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
mr lala went to Mombasa to go deep sea fishing on his and i went to the local Indian restaurant
my h2b doesnt want a stag do...there are perks to having a moody bum husband 2 be lol :)
CommentAuthorPB
No i am not jeaulous of h2bs plans- he,s having a party at the local social club - i had a week in Crete in an all inclusive 5 star luxury spa hotel paid for by my lovely h2b ;) xxx
CommentAuthorMrs brown - 19/08/12
Im not jealours of h2bs plans are durning the day there painballing and im at a spa :) And inthe evening all our friends and of course me and h2b are doing a cocktail master class, But i would be peeded of it my h2b was going to vegas!!
CommentAuthorFitchMcCombe
big holiday stag/hen do's always have me in awe, doesnt the wedding and honeymoon cost enough?! I think its okay to be a bit jealous, like you said you can do it together in the future, sounds like it will be the lads trip of a lifetime and really when is he going to get the chance for that again? totally agree with you though, you'll have to make it up to yourself by having a fantastic hen do if thats the size of the budget!!! Shopping in Paris/New York/Milan? Spa holiday? Posh meal and stage show? Or just a beach holiday/city break with lots of dancing!
CommentAuthorShirleygirly
My h2b is having a box for the army v navy rugby match next year for his stag do and said technically I shouldn't be there but it's something I look forward to every year. I whined and whined about not being able to go so now he has relented that I can go but I cannot try to gate rash his box or try to find him after. I'm happy with that arrangement, I'll just have to get lots of girls with me and make it a 2nd hen do.
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CommentAuthormrscookiecrew
yea i have to agree im a little jealous. H2B is off to amterstam and even though i dont wanna go there i wanna go to beniland (benidorm) as i used to live there and still have friends over there but my mates wont go cause none of them will go x
also wold have been nan and grandads anniversary
CommentAuthorMrs S
aw thats not fair hun! i'll go with you! i missed my hen weekend, so when im better im gona orginise somthing x
CommentAuthorSammi_with_camera
I would be jealous if my h2b wanted to go to Vegas for his stag do! He wouldn't even suggest it though, we can barely afford a honeymoon as it as at the moment!
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CommentAuthorMrsShaw
im up for a big hen party :p x
CommentAuthorMrs Sheppard2B
ohh i wouldnt be jel of his stag doo xx
you should have sat down togither and gave both yourselfs a sorta budget for ur hen/stags me and my h2b agreed on a price butthen his bm said hes paying for him and going to newcastle witch i dont mind i was telling him to go abroad x
instead im going to tenniref for mine and hes staying in uk but i got a deal and its the same price as we agreed so theres no complaining atall xx
but if he wants to go and u dont mind and yous can offord it then theres no reason why he shouldnt go xx aslong as he takes u later on lol xx
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CommentAuthorJonathanM14
I think you should all bear in mind regarding the budget difference between your dress and his suit which will be a vast difference. I think a more extravagant stag do compared to your hen do actually evens it out. You shouldnt all be so selfish by complaining about the stage do when your dresses cost a fortune compared to a hired suit which no doubt you have only allowed him. Just a point of view of course.
CommentAuthorClareS
No idea what my h2b's plans are as yet so can't be jealous of them. What I am jealous of is that he's got support and someone is planning something for him. I have a sister who is MOH who doesn't really care about anything other than her dogs. She does go out but a good or special night out is just into town and getting trollied! I'm not asking for posh, just something nice maybe a spa day then out for a few drink or a meal and a drink or two. Looks like I'll be arranging it myself. I certainly wouldn't let either of us spend loads of cash on it though, we just can't afford it x
CommentAuthorBlackCat13
JonathanM14 - just to be clear, this isn't about the money spent. My point is that his plans sound amazing and there's a part of me would quite like to join in. That's all. The same would be true if he were doing go-karting, Go Ape, or paintballing over here; the plans HAPPEN to be Vegas but that's basically immaterial. I just wondered if anyone else felt similar and thought this would spark an interesting little discussion.
As for the "hired suit which no doubt you have only allowed him" comment - for your information I have NOT dictated that h2b has to have a hired suit and nor am I going to, the choice of what he and his groomsmen wear on the day and how to acquire it is entirely his own. I really do not appreciate being judged and labelled as selfish based on the inaccurate and unfounded assumptions of a complete stranger.
CommentAuthorLegoWife
Haha, gotta say the dress budget equalling the stag do budget is a pretty good idea for the stereotypical couple where the bride only cares about how she looks and the groom only cares about getting p*ssed.
However, not really the best thread to spout that opinion!
My H2B is my best friend, we have a lot in common, so if he wanted leave me out of something I'd love and wouldn't get to do, I'd be pretty upset and feel like he was being selfish. But since we're such close friends he wouldn't want to do something that we'd both love to do without me.
It be like one of you going to see a film you both really want to see, and one of you goes with a bunch of other people and the other never gets to see it at all. I can't comprehend that lol.
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CommentAuthorBlackCat13
LOL totally know what you mean LegoBride. Bizarrely enough though I genuinely don't feel hurt about this, or like he's being selfish, perhaps it's because this is Best Man's idea and he's got a heart of gold & just wants to do something totally amazing for h2b, and I love the fact he cares about him so much, I dunno... Just wish I could wave a magic wand, turn into a bloke for the week & enjoy it with them lol!
CommentAuthorLegoWife
I think it's awesome that it doesn't bother you that much and lovely that you're just happy he can go and have a great time. You are a more tolerant woman than I! Haha! :)
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CommentAuthorOssie12
I'm jealous of H2B's plans he is going to the beer fest in munic. Whereas i have left it to bridemaids and as of yet nothing has been sorted I would love to go away abroad but dont think that is going to happen!
CommentAuthorBlackCat13
Hehehehe! xx
CommentAuthorBlackCat13
Ooooooh Ossie12 that sounds like an awesome stag do as well!
CommentAuthorOssie12
I know it's not fair I don't think it will go down well if i say i am going with them! I might have to take back control of my hen do i need to go away for a weekend abroad! x
CommentAuthormillz090
I know the feeling honey, H2B's plans were Amsterdam and as much as i was over the moon for him to go i was slightly jealous as somewhere i would like to go and hoped we could have gone together.... so we had a chat and decided he wasnt going to go as wanted to share it with me and they could have as much fun in england with more people going. Dont get me wrong though, if he had wanted amsterdam then i wouldnt have stopped him xx
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CommentAuthormillz090
JonathanM14 - you picking an agreement with everyone today?
why does it have to be traditional? It doesn't look like they cant trust each other at all just that they want to party together and celebrate with all there friends that they are getting married.
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CommentAuthormillz090
He wasnt bothered who he went with.... me or the boys and knew i fancied Amsterdam and somewhere we had talked about together. I didnt stop him going or 'cleverly guilt trip over it' and YES he did have an option. I think you need to be less judgemental as you werent there so can pass a comment on how i made him feel !!!
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CommentAuthormillz090
Im not going on his stag do and he isnt coming on mine, i was merely saying i dont see the problem with it, plenty of other girls have done it on this forum. Its not about what other people think or what will look odd, who says its odd? People dont have to follow traditon but do what they want to do.
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CommentAuthormillz090
You dont know me or my H2B so you dont know why he isnt going (you certaintly dont speak for all men either) so would apprichicate you dont comment on it any further as your judgemental and i certainly didnt guilt trip him or give him no other option as you have said.
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CommentAuthorBlackCat13
JonathanM14 your use of the word 'ALL' means the comment was directed at everyone here, me included. Whether it was specifically directed at me or not, I object to being called selfish (which I was by inclusion in the 'all') when you don't know me, and actually have completely misinterpreted the point I was making.
CommentAuthorRockabilly chick
Just for the record, a LOT of the brides on here order their dresses from China and my dress has worked out about £20 more expensive that H2Bs Kilt hire. Funnily enough it was H2B who came to find me after his stag do. I was quite happy spending it with my girls but he missed me and walked round to see me. Not all men are the same.
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CommentAuthorRockabilly chick
Oh and I believe its a STAG do. If you are going to correcting other peoples grammer.
CommentAuthorJonathanM14
Mind you Kilts are far more expensive to hire than suits. Kilts are all handmade.
CommentAuthorRockabilly chick
To be correcting**
I am at work so I am being distracted. What is your excuse?
CommentAuthorStevie_Dee
JonathanM14 the fact that you have not unlocked your profile suggests you are simply here to wind up the brides on this forum. You are more than entitled to your opinions but those opinions so far tend to be negative and down right rude. This is not what this forum is about. The males and females on this forum are here to HELP. We have many males on this forum who are open, honest and give constructive advice.....so far you are not one of them. Please consider that some of your opinions could offend before pressing the post button.
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CommentAuthormillz090
Well said Stevie_Dee.... thank you !!!
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CommentAuthorBlackCat13
Hear hear!!! :) xx
CommentAuthorRockabilly chick
I think he may be a troll......never posted before. So probably a spotty teenager bored in his bedroom.
CommentAuthorBlackCat13
I think it might be time for a mod to close this thread before it turns into World War 3...!!! :) x
CommentAuthormillz090
LMFAO !!!
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CommentAuthorStevie_Dee
As moderators on this forum we have every right to quosh posts that are rude and upsetting to other members as we have received several complaints from members on this forum, I would say that you fall into this category.
Although new most members unlock their profile fairly quickly and add photos, a wedding date etc... Are you even planning a wedding?
I think so far your sole intention has been to cause upset amongst other members, as we have so far not seen any evidence to the contrary.
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