due to recent events i know longer get along with the mother in law or sister in law which is coursing problems with wedding plans.. iv spoken to H2B and hes decided hey wont be invited but i think they should be as they are his family and i dont want him thinking i dont want them there so he cant invite them even tho we will both enjoy the day so much more if they were not there. im out of ideas to try and at least seem like i can stand to be in the same room as them lol .. what can i do to getthem to behave long enough so they dont ruin our day ???
CommentAuthorCatherineR
I think you need to sit down with your h2b, mil and sil and have a long talk about whatever has happened and sort it out somehow.. Life is short and needs to be enjoyed. You only get one shot at it! xx
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CommentAuthorbambijulez
things will never be sorted between me and mil n sil but i try my hardest to be extremely nice to them when we have to see them and go out of my way to make sure my H2b contacts them each week to make sure they are ok yet i still get completely ignored when im with them and i am not sure how much more i can take if it wasnt for me H2B wouldnt have anyhing to do with them and they know it. its because of them the relationship between us has gone to pot yet im the one whos made to feel like its all my fault x
CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
can i just say as someone who hasn't spoken to her MIL for 2 years and is more or less ignored by the rest of the family i am with you on this one, my problems steamed from not having mr lalas nieces as Bm`s much to his mother disgust and statement of "if you dont have them i dont know if i will come to the wedding " then a call from her which ended in her saying some disgusting things .. i too was going to invite them still bc of them being his parents,well in the end we didn't invite them .. then on the last time Mr lala saw them she called me names to his face, i felt bad as he refused to talk to them but in the end i had to face up to the fact that he is a grown man and if he chooses not to have contact ( he wont till she apologies .... hell and freezing comes to mind )then that is up to him. i have tried to make contact between me and her but all it has done is cause me upset so although i still send birthday cards etc .. they dont send anything back, we are waiting to see if they send him a card for his 50th !
We're having a problem with H2Bs uncles, the younger one the H2B gets on with like a brother but the older one has never been in his life apart from the annual boxing day get together at H2Bs grandparents house which ended two years ago when his Grandmother sadly was diagnosed with cancer and then passed last year. The older uncle doesn't want anything to do with any of us and this wouldn't be a problem if he didn't work as a trawler with his younger brother. He is very spiteful and doesn't allow the younger of the uncles to do anything he likes (he purposely schedules shipping out dates around dates his younger brother wants to go to certain events) and the younger has never stood his ground. We've been warned there is a good chance the older will prevent the younger from coming to the wedding by saying they're shipping out that time.
It's been suggested we invite his older uncle and his family but my H2B and I are keeping a feet firm in that we are inviting people we want there and who we have a relationship with. I have great (whatever) relatives and other family I am not inviting simply because I don't even know them outside of family gathering once every few years.
We've said to the younger uncle that we want him to come and if he wants to (which he insists he does) then he needs to put the older uncle in his place. They own the trawler together 50/50! Hopefully it will sort itself out
Met in Nov 2005
Engaged 13th June 2013
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I am at the point with my MIL now, that I will be civil and that is it. He keeps trying to force a situation on me where we are both in the same room. which essentially means going round to her house. Told him im not even going to consider that as its not neutral territory and im not being made to feel uncomfortable in her house and spoken to like im some kind of child.
I feel for you, I really do! Im sure our relationship would have been fine, if it wasn't for this wedding.... or maybe it wouldn't, and it would have just taken longer for it to all kick off!
Im not sure id want her uninvited tot eh wedding though, but only for his sake as you have also said. If htb suggested that to me, id tell him hes gunna regret it in years to come if he calms down. it does depend on what has happened though...
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