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    • DanielleG93
      CommentAuthorDanielleG93
      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Jun 14th 2016
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    hey all,

    we have decided we are going to marry in our local church (3mins down the road walking) as we are christian (i say we and i mean me and the children slightly more than h2b but he does attend church with us sometimes) The parish has just got a new vicar so i met him after the service he held for the queen. He seemed really lovely and we discussed that we wanted to get married next year etc he said it all sounded good. I emailed him details of me and my partner as he requested so now it's just a waiting game until he arranges a proper sit down meet.

    what was your meetings with vicars like? any tips on what i should think of/ask when at the meet?

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    • NicoleW665
      CommentAuthorNicoleW665
      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Jun 14th 2016
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    I am getting married in a church, i honestly was so so worried about going meeting them to book the church as i thought they would be terribly strict and thought they would judge that we live together before marriage but honestly nothing like that at all.

    They just asked our current address, what we do for a living, the same for both of our fathers. Asked if we are christened and if we live within the parish (and if not have we ever. That was pretty much all the formalities then they asked when we wanted the wedding and at what time, whether we wanted an organist and heating and that was all :)

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    • DanielleG93
      CommentAuthorDanielleG93
      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Jun 14th 2016
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    oh good he already has asked about if we had been married before, and me being me replied if we have it was illegal i then had to go on and explain i have been with him since i was in school so 16

    that doesn't sound too bad apart from the dad thing, my dad is deceased so i'm assuming i would just need to tell them that instead of trying to find out his occupation as he passed away when I was 10 so thats nearly 20 years ago.

    I can relax a little now, even though i met him and we do go to church I was a bit anxious about what happens, i suppose its just nerves of the unknown.

    thanks for your reply x

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    • Mrs Jones
      CommentAuthorMrs Jones
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Jun 14th 2016
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    Well my OH is Catholic and I am not even Christened and he wanted a Catholic church wedding. He's probably more religious than me in all honesty. However, I was concerned that the Priest wouldn't marry us because I am not even a Christian, but he has been very relaxed aboutu the whole thing.

    Nearer the time - not sure if this is the same for CofE - but we had to go to marriage classes with the Priest. They were very thought provoking and insightful. It will be at the first meeting that they will run through everything with you. I don't go to the church very frequently, but OH has been going fairly regularly.

    Don't fret - I dont think they are as strict as they used to be in all honesty xx

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    • DanielleG93
      CommentAuthorDanielleG93
      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Jun 14th 2016
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    Thats so reassuring to hear thank you, I wouldn't mind it if we had to attend classes i think i would probably find them quite interesting. Thanks for your replies x

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    • MichelleC961
      CommentAuthorMichelleC961
      Got married 32 months ago
      Posted: Jun 14th 2016
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    We are getting married in a church- I am not religious at all- I am christened but that was only as where I was born, the best school was a CoE church and my parents wanted me to go there.

    Even though I am not religious, I still think a church wedding is the right thing to,do of that makes sense? Lol

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    We are getting married in our village church, but the Vicar is a bit too laid back for my liking and it's stressing me a bit. I had to chase her for weeks until she finally returned my call, and then had to chase her several times for the paperwork that we needed to complete and at that point she still hadn't put the date in her diary. We haven't met her yet or set a time for the wedding, she doesn't want to see us until next year! I dread that she hasn't actually booked it.

    It's really important for me to marry in church as like Michelle it seems like the right thing to do. I've been married before and that was in church so to marry anywhere else would seem like this marriage wasn't as important especially since OH hasn't been married before.

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    • DanielleG93
      CommentAuthorDanielleG93
      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Jun 14th 2016
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    Hi Michelle yeah I understand you, my children go to Coe school and will admit my brother got married recently and I thought it would of been so much nicer in a church haha.

    Hi Donna, that would drive me bonkers and I would have just the same worrys. I believe church weddings are the best sort but then I'm a Christian so I would (a bit biased I am about churches) hope you manage to get your vicar and paperwork sorted. My vicar is my local one so I can annoy him in person every week if I need too haha x

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    • FutureMrsW
      CommentAuthorFutureMrsW
      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Jun 14th 2016
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    We will be getting married at our local Priory, we'll be 3rd generation to be married there on H2B's side and we could see the church from the window of our first flat together, so it's very special for both of us. I always knew I wanted a full church service and OH felt the same really, although we are both scientists we both feel awe regarding the wonders of the universe, and it was important to us to have a spiritual as well as legal aspect to our vows.

    Our meeting with the vicar was lovely and really reassuring, he asked us a bit about us and our lives together, and spoke a bit about the church and it's history. We didn't need to go into details, will confirm all of that in the New Year.

    One of the things I am finding hard to choose is the hymns we will be using.




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    • DanielleG93
      CommentAuthorDanielleG93
      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Jun 15th 2016
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    Oh that sounds so beautiful, it's amazing your will be 3rd generation and so special you can experience that, my family moved around a lot but i would of loved that :D. It's lovely to meet a scientist who finds spiritual aspects important thats truly lovely.

    The hymns are quite difficult, i think we will be having come to a wedding, All things bright and beautiful and give me joy in my heart. they are all quiet upbeat songs compared to some of the others. if you search for your church of england wedding in a search engine there is an ***dot org website which has a list of different hymns and you can hear them on there too, hope this helps you x

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    • SusanM34
      CommentAuthorSusanM34
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Jun 15th 2016
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    Hiya.
    We're having a church wedding. For the hymns we've chosen the ones we remember from school assemblies! Our vicar is laid back too, but he's lovely. x

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    • DanielleG93
      CommentAuthorDanielleG93
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    hi susan,

    that sounds fab sounds like most of our vicars are nice and laid back x

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    • Emily17
      CommentAuthorEmily17
      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Jun 15th 2016
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    We have booked our church. It's my family church, where my parents were married and where I was christened etc. I couldn't imagine getting married anywhere else.

    We haven't met the vicar yet. They have a wedding co-ordinator who arranges it all and then we meet the vicar closer to the time. He's very laid back though so not worried about that at all. Always really bubbly.

    Hymns we are having:
    Come to a wedding
    Will you let me be your servant
    Lead us heavenly father lead us

    Readings:
    Getting the perfect relationship (Colossians Chapter 3, verses 12 - 17)
    As God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience. Bear with one another and, if anyone has a complaint against another, forgive each other; just as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive. Above all, clothe yourselves with love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony. And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in the one body. And be thankful. Let the word of Christ* dwell in you richly; teach and admonish one another in all wisdom; and with gratitude in your hearts sing psalms, hymns, and spiritual songs to God. And whatever you do, in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.

    A love poem between two lovers (Song of Solomon, Chapter 8, verses 6&7) - Just chapter 8, not chapter 2
    Set me as a seal upon your heart,
    as a seal upon your arm;
    for love is strong as death,
    passion fierce as the grave.
    Its flashes are flashes of fire,
    a raging flame.
    Many waters cannot quench love,
    neither can floods drown it.
    If one offered for love
    all the wealth of one’s house,
    it would be utterly scorned.

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    • DanielleG93
      CommentAuthorDanielleG93
      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Jun 15th 2016
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    those are beautiful Emily, i think we having that poem too

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    • FutureMrsW
      CommentAuthorFutureMrsW
      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Jun 15th 2016
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    I think we have settled on Amazing Grace and For The Beauty Of The Earth but we'd quite like a third one and aren't sure which one yet.




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    • DanielleG93
      CommentAuthorDanielleG93
      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Jun 16th 2016
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    Those two are fab choices, good luck picking your third. I picked mine with the help of my children poor h2b has had no choice in hymns 3 children 3 songs seemed fair to me

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