oh yes i had alot of fun making my list out, i have a very large family and my partner has a split family nearly filled 2 a4 pages and then when the photogropher came she skimmed through it and said yeh there pretty much all the basic ones that i would take anyway! so not much point in me making the list at all :/ x

Hey, I recently was a bridesmaid at a wedding where they had been asked to give the photographer a list of what/who they wanted. It actually worked really well. They didn't have to give a list of every single thing they wanted just a list of things they definitely wanted, eg, a family shot, a bride wth school friends, a groom with just the boys, one with aunty x and uncle y etc. That way the photographer didn't miss anyone. It was great because some of the people you might want to have a pic with don't fall into an obvious catergory, for example, I have a couple of my parents friends who aren't actually related but really have treated me like an neice since I was small - i know they aren't pushy people so if the photograper is just requesting "aunts and uncles" "grandparents" etc on the day they could easily get left out! At the wedding I went to a copy of the main things on the list was given to the best man and he was put in charge of going and collecting people for photos, that meant all the guests could stay in doors or stay at the bar and just go out for photos when needed, this meant they could relax and didn't have to wait around. Also it meant formal photos were finished a lot quicker than some of the weddings i've been to which meant the bride and groom could spend more time with their guests.

I wouldn't feel worried about it. My guess is the photographer has requested a list because he/she wants to make sure they get exactly what you want and so they can organise themselves on the day.

The situation with your dad is a tough one. But don't forget, just because the photographer takes the photo - doesn't mean you have to buy it or even look at it afterwards. If you can stand it just have one with each of the sets of parents/step parents as they might want to have a picture of you on your day. Plus doing it with a list means it can be really organised so you can have the Best Man rattling on to the next set of guests so they'll be in and out and it'll be over quickly. Don't worry, i'm sure you'll barely notice them all on the day they'll be so many other people around. xxx

Thanks Lizzylou that is so helpful and I think your right, i'll be so wrapped up in the day and becoming Mrs Smith that I probably won't even notice my dad lol

I totally forgot we will need to make a list! H2b dads has a few ideas that I DON'T want to do! He says it's tradition for the bride to be in the middle of all the wedding party men smiling and the men lift their kilts when camera goes off! I do NOT want to see that side of my FIL!!!

OWB, that is exactly how I work and is good advice. It means you can all relax more and enjoy the day. Trust your photographer if you have booked a pro.

I am going to keep my list down to a minimum of 5 or 6 photos with me ,H2B and family members in so we can speak to our guests.

Well i've made a list but it looks a bit long but its of all immediate family then special ones with our kids. Thought I'd show it to our photographer and ask his advice how we can make sure these shots can be taken naturally without missing anyone out and not taking too much time. Been really helpful how everyone has given their advice on here x

Photographer has just been and funnily enough SamanthaP he suggested that so we're going to give the list to one of the ushers she he can gather people as we need them for the photos, going to get quite a few of the me and close family ones done at my mum's house before the wedding too to save time then there's more time for the groom and joint ones to be done.