I am slightly worried about H2Bs stag do. I trust him entirely but not so sure I trust the best men....H2B does not drink at all so I dont know whats going to happen on his stag do. I am worried that the guys will provide an alternative to alcohol if you know what I mean....
I may be over estimating their abilities to organise anything as they are both pretty useless lol. At first he wanted to go camping with the boys and it didnt worry me at all. But now they are going out and H2B hates going out on the town - its not his cup of tea at all. Now I am worried that because we are having our hen/stag on the same night I am not going to be able to enjoy my hen night properly for worrying about what they're up to. I am having a sleepover at my bms house, so we wont be out on the town at all. Anyone else worried about stag dos?
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CommentAuthormillz090
I am worried about mine but very little i can do....
The boys wouldnt listen to me anyway if i had a word so no point. He is a big boy so having to hope they keep him safe and he stands up for himself if he isnt happy about something.
However the boys wanted to go to Prague for H2B's stag do and H2B wasnt bothered however we weighed up the pro's and con's and decided to stay in this country and do a racing day... H2B told the boys this was what he wanted. They werent happy but understood that it was his choice and respected him to go with what he wants.
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CommentAuthorMrsKisywisy
i am a little worried about the state he's going to get into and if he get bloody lifted!! i just hope his friends don't take the p!ss!!
i'm more worried about my hen night!! lol
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CommentAuthorRockabilly chick
I dont mind what they do, I just dont want any ladies involved. The best men are both into all sorts of stuff. They are both single as well. One of them is bit of a dog, in the fact that he loves women, he isnt a bad bloke. He is a lovely guy but by gum he likes the ladies. Luckily H2B isnt like that, he is really chilled out but I am worried that he might be given something and not know what he is doing....that freaks me out a bit.
Its true, there isnt much I can do either but I really want to enjoy my hen do and not be sitting there worrying about him. I am such a worrier. I was thinkin of havin a word with one of the guys to make sure they look after him but I dont know if that would have the reverse effect on these guys if you know what I mean......It would be fine if the guys involved were less into debauchery but wow I have no idea what they'll get up to.
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CommentAuthormillz090
If i had a quiet word in one of the men on my H2B stag do they would do worse or wind me up so maybe say nothing and pray?! Try not to stress and just hope they remember he is their best friend and look after him xxx
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My H2B want to have 2 best men. And the one really does worry me. He's out every weekend and drinks far to much and thinks every one should be doing the same as he is. When H2B is with him I think he get's carried away with how is mate gets to live his life and then becomes a complete selfish p***k!!!! I think he forgets thats he got's a hose and bills to pay for and kids at home too. So I am worried. His other mate is the complete opposite. He's married with 3 kids and hardly goes out all. Works to pay to do stuff with his family but he is sooo quiet and a bit shy so I know he wont end up having a say in his stag it will all be the other.
CommentAuthorRockabilly chick
Arrrggh what is with these blokes. There is always one guy in the group who you just know will have something horrible planned. This could open a bag of worms but I dont want them to go to a strip club. I really really dont. Ive had this discussion on here before and lots of ladies dont mind. But I do mind. Ive spoke to H2B and he reckons that the only stripper that might be involved would be a novelty one - like someone reallly fat or a tranny possible. Now to be honest, that doesnt bother me but its the going into a strip club thing that does bother me. I know if it were his choice he wouldnt go near one but if he is out his face, he wont have a say in whats going on. Arrggh. I suppose Id best just concentrate on enjoying my night lol
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CommentAuthorOWB
I have a story from last weekend that may make other b2b's feel a bit better. My h2b's friend had his stag do, dressed in a rocky horror style outfit and was 'up for anything', anyway after a few drinks they head to a strip club when dancers get the men up on stage, then proceed to wax there genital area and basically humiliate them. H2Bs friend said he wasn't prepared to get up there even though his stag party had paid for it - when it was his turn he got up and walked out. The bouncer stopped him and said that he was due on stage, to which he replied "I might be drunk but I'm not stupid, I don't want to go up on stage, so I'm not". The bouncer then said that he wouldn't either as it's humiliating, but men do it week after week. Now, at the point the stag was very, very drunk, but still stood up for himself, and I'm sure if your h2b doesn't want to do something then he won't!
If you tell your h2b that you really don't want him at as strip club then hopefully he'll respect your wishes.
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CommentAuthorJoanna
Good story owb! Alcohol is no excuse, if you don't want to do something you won't do it. I'd say tell h2b how you feel. He needs to know if it'll actually upset you, or he may think you're just saying it and don't really mean it xxx
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CommentAuthorRockabilly chick
Yeah, I think he will. He is a really amazing bloke and I know he loves me very much. He knows how I get and is always really supportive about stuff like that. Now I think about it you're probably right. H2B wouldnt be bullied into things. I am just worried they might go as far to tie him up somewhere. He would hate that so much!!
I might have another word with him tonight and ask him to be careful. A couple of his pals are totally mental
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CommentAuthorBlushingbride2b
Hi, I can fully understand where you are coming from with this. For me the fear comes from the whole male bravado surrounding stag dos, law of the stag, last night of freedom, etc. and it worries me that he might get caught up in all of it. If it were up to me we wouldn't be having hen and stag dos, I'd like to have a joint thing where we all go for a nice meal/night out etc. This isn't because I don't trust him, but because I think it's a very outdated. I said to h2b that if he wanted to do things in the traditional way then after we are married he wouldn't need to go out again! Needless to say he wasn't convinced and I've just had to accept that it will be happening. I'm trying to put it to the back of my mind as its so far off at the moment but I'll be a nervous wreck when the time comes. I'm a born worrier too.
I know it's easy for me to say but try not to worry about it and enjoy your hen night. Worrying won't change anything anyway except to spoil your night. Like someone already said, he will know his own mind and if they are proper friends then they'll respect his wishes. I probably haven't helped there but I think sometimes it's nice to know you're not the only one who feels that way. I wouldn't say anything to the best man as like you say he might use it to wind you up more. Could you speak to h2b and explain your worries so that he can give you some reassurance? Xx
CommentAuthorBlackCat13
OWB that's great! Good to hear there are still some sensible guys out there. I'm slightly concerned about my h2b as he does tend to be a bit of a liability when he's drinking and doesn't always stop to think things through (even when sober!), but fortunately his BM is absolutely superb so I'm confident he'll be well looked after.
BM actually had the courtesy to run some of his ideas by me already to check I was ok with them which I thought was really sweet, so I said as far as I'm concerned he can do what he likes as long as he sticks to these 3 simple rules: 1 - don't get him arrested 2 - don't get him hospitalised 3 - don't bring him anywhere near me!
I'm not worried about the strip club thing - last time h2b went to one he ran into one of my best mates (who's a stripper and happened to be working there); she sat in her underwear talking to him all evening and his colleagues teased him mercilessly about it for weeks - the embarrassment seems to have put him off the whole experience lol!
CommentAuthorRockabilly chick
Yeah, I'm gunna speak to him tonight. Its funny because it was me who encouraged him to have a stag do but that was when he wanted to go camping. He kept sayin he wasnt going to have a stag do but I said well you'll regret it if you dont. He really wanted to go away to this cave on a wee island that we know of and set up and couple of tents and have a lads night there. I know he wouldve loved that. They all would but all the guys are far too lazy to sort it out. I reckon it be a case of they end up doing what the guys in the group want to do rather than what H2B wants to do.....
I am defo gunna speak to him. I think the stag thing with strippers is stupid. Its outdated, I mean what is the point in marrying someone that you love and going to see some other birds t1ts wiggled in front of you before you do it? It makes no sense to me. But then strippers dont really make sense to me. Male or female, Ive never understood it. I dont understand how you can get enjoyment from looking at someone naked in front of you. I think nakedness and s3xiness is about being involved - not just watching lol.
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CommentAuthorEMC
I know how you feel!!! Luckily for me my H2Bs best man is gay, so I have a feeling there may be strippers... But not the kind Tony'll enjoy!!!! I told the Best Man that I am totally ok with male strippers, :). I thought that was pretty big of me actually... (innocent face)
CommentAuthormelvis
yeah i agree with many of the points ladies have made on here... im concerned about money -h2b wanted to go to a festival... as they are all around late july/aug he was gonna go THIS YEAR this really annoyed me as I love going festivals, have gone to atleast 1 everyyear since i was 17 and sacrificed this year and last cos of wedding costs so i was not impressed....everntually though he agreed the cost was too much at this time...
-secondly h2b is an easy pushover... if his mates say 'do it' he does it... he gets drunk and his judgement goes... but he knows my limits and i always find out... so on his head be it!!! xx
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CommentAuthorMrsSaraParry!
my h2b went off the dublin for the weekend with 5 friends and I was slightly concerned about what they might get up to! However I worried for absolutely no reason, yes they got drunk but Adam was in bed for 1.30am each night and there were no strippers involved at all! They did an adventure day on Friday followed by a night out, guinness factory on Sat followed by night out, and cinema on Sunday - how very civilised! haha. So don't worry ladies, they're not all bad ;o) xxxxx
oh, forgot to mention - h2bs brother (best man) is big in to strip clubs, but he knows adam isn't so they didn't go
CommentAuthorLiza247
My other half is going to benidorm in the morning until monday, i am slightly nervous only because craig sometimes gets wrecked n needs looking after lol! So am hoping they just put him to bed n carry on partying without him!!
CommentAuthorclare0481
My h2b had his last weekend, they went to hamburg thurs-sun. Me and the girls went away at the same time, we went to Milan. I was a little apprehensive as there were a few dodgy characters going but he got home safe and sound, despite the antics they got up to! Boys will be boys... C x
CommentAuthorXbox widow
H2b is not having a stag do as such but he is going to an army reunion with his mates next month, they dont know he's getting married yet but when he tell's them I'm a bit worried they might get him plastered and put him on a train to somewhere miles away or chain him to something naked lol
CommentAuthorMrs brown - 19/08/12
Im not worried at all, Were having a joint hen/stag due as we share the same friends and all like doing thing together, But the lads are having a day activity before the joint night.xx
CommentAuthorKirstenB
I totally know how u feel my h2b is wanting to go to Amsterdam for his stag doo!! Although I trust him 1000% it's just one person I'm worried about!! I'm sure everything will be fine and I don't want my h2b to think I wanna be in control or that in telling him what he can and can't do but there's always that slight worry!! I can't wait for his doo to be over haha x
CommentAuthorInDreamland
I was really worried but have calmed down a little since I think I got agreement they won't do it until 3 weeks before wedding rather than 8 months before. Plus, H2B told me tonight roughly what they are planning and sounds ok, he is sensible generally and the majority of his friends are too (it was one of the ushers I was most concerned about and actually I think on reflection he'll be ok), most are married and they've all been ok at those stag do's so I have to trust him otherwise I have to question why I'm marrying him and why I love him ..............and vice versa. They're going to Krakow. xxx
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CommentAuthorJennyTembo
im worried ...i know his brother ..best man will look after him cause his mam would kill him if he never lol but his friends go to far with jokes and getting at him allready ...and when my h2b gets drunk drunk he always needs looking after even thou he thinks that he doesnt and he gets very stuben, just hope he gets back in one piece... :/
