Ok, I've been posting a lot about inlaws and stressing and exes so now I'm focusing on the positives and our future. We are planning on starting to try for a baby after the wedding. We have worked out that we can afford a child and we have space, but is there any advice anyone can give? This is my first, and the first time h2b has been allowed to be involved from the start, baby. (his daughter was 1 and 1/2 when the courts finally gave him access)
Any info on how to increase our chances?
CommentAuthorgeorgie
first thing to think about is what contraception you use now and how long it can take before you can conceive x
CommentAuthorweemindyxx
I agree with georgie and to increase your chances, dont drink or smoke be healthy, and have lot n lots of you know what ;) xxx
future Mrs Cole
Soulmates, 2 halves of the same soul
Joining together in lives journey.
CommentAuthor
my big tip is DONT TRY! just enjoy the making of it and if it happens it happens. the more stressed out you get the less the chance of conceiving. my sister tried for 5 years to get pregnant with her husband and it never happened....it even got so bad they split up. a year later she got a new fella and got pregnant within 6 months. just keep calm, happy and it'll happen when its meant to xxxx
met the man of my dreams 22/09/2006,
Had our amazing twin boys 16/05/2008
Finally becoming Mrs Davies on 31/08/2012 will make me the
happiest lady alive :-)
CommentAuthornatalie2614
Somethng about folic acid rings a bell from one of them midwife programmes lol x
Folic acid is really important, if you don't have enough in your system you can suffer a miscarriage and it can also lead to birth defects. It would be a good idea to start taking folic acid supplement now, so you have enough in your system before you conceive.
CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
Agree with ziggy, don't try. It will end up each month you doing a test and getting down if it is negative. Work out when you will ovulate, some people know as they get ovulating pain. Then try around then, and not too often as the more you do it the weaker the sperm become,
Our wedding day - 6 October 2012
CommentAuthorLegoWife
Also agreeing with georgie, I'm so stuck on whether to stop taking the pill now and give my self plenty of time to start ovulating properly so that by the time the wedding comes around we should be able to conceive fairly soon but then I also worry it won't take as long as I think and don't want to end up pregnant before the wedding. Plus I'm not sure I want to deprive myself of the other benefits of the pill so close to the wedding and suffer with worse cramps and skin break outs.
~Wedding made of Lego~
*Married 30/03/13*
CommentAuthorgeorgie
Lego i would stay put until after the wedding. A few of my friends came off it and caught straight away obviously it depends on pill, length of use etc but if your in no rush i would wait x
CommentAuthorLegoWife
You're probably right there, I just get impatient I think! :) I've been on the pill for 5 years now and regularly miss about 4 pills a month so I'm convinced it's going to take a while to wear off. You never do know though.
~Wedding made of Lego~
*Married 30/03/13*
CommentAuthorgeorgie
it only took 3 months after i had my coil removed thought it would be ages x
CommentAuthorObsidian_Winter
I'm on the copper coil at the moment, I rarely drink and I quit smoking two years ago, so besides not doing much exercise and eating way too many carbohydrates I'm reletivly healthy. I just looked into the folio acid thing; apparently we need it to help with creating and maintaining DNA chains (makes sense when you think about it)
I've got a doctors appointment on Friday to get the coil (affectionately named "Arnie" because its a T380 coil which reminds us of The Terminator franchise) evicted and get an MOT.
We'll keep the not trying in mind :)
CommentAuthorgeorgie
do you really want your coil removed so close to the wedding?x
CommentAuthorObsidian_Winter
It only took 2 weeks to heal when I had it changed 3 years ago, so I should be fine. We might use protection for the run up to the wedding or we may just start trying as soon as the bruising goes away because it's not like being 1 month pregnant is going to stop my dress from fitting or anything.
CommentAuthorgeorgie
i was thinking more of the bleeding - i had really heavy bleeding for thr first 2 weeks after i had mine removed but then i think i have wonky parts lol x
CommentAuthorObsidian_Winter
The last time it induced my period, but I have always been irregular and was only a week away anyway. Either way, I will be fine for the wedding :)
CommentAuthorCharlotteB32
Good luck. I was on the patch and conceived within 3 months of coming off it so it really does depend on the contraception. Since you are not having hormones I would say your body should be ok straight away (but I'm not a medical expert). Folic acid is a must and try not to stress about when it happens which is easier said than done. Good luck
CommentAuthorPrincess2be
Good, luck, how exciting!! i think just don't try too hard and just have fun ;) x
CommentAuthorJo
dont try just have fun without contraception, i think dont tell people either otherwise that is added presure as people will keep asking, good luck xx
CommentAuthorKayleighW36
Folic Acid is soooo IMPORTANT. I've lost two babies to severe spinal defects (spina bifida) due to a lack of folic acid. The doctor will prescribe it to you or you can purchase it over the counter.
CommentAuthorKirstyJ22
I've heard that ovulation tests are really good but I can't comment because I haven't used them x x
CommentAuthorObsidian_Winter
Ok, back from the doctors. We are going to have to use condoms until the wedding (otherwise I might be morning sick on the wedding day) and frolic acid supplements are being delivered with the shopping on Thursday.
Terrified and excited all at the same time!
CommentAuthorClaireS2bMrsSimpson
Obsidian winter just enjoy "baby dancing" and try not to think about it.
Xx
CommentAuthorSam
Yay, looks like you're ready to go. Good luck :)
CommentAuthorLulu1388
Sounds like its baby making time hehehe, so jealous! Obsidian, just enjoy, relax and have fun in the process (no pun intended).. dont focus to hard, good things come to those who wait!
As the others have said, the more you focus on it the chances are slimmer... my OH's best man got married in May, they'd been trying for 1-2yrs and had no luck, next thing we know, last wk, she's due in March! she'd relaxed, got on with planning wedding & voila honeymoon baby!!!
have fun :) xx
Every Once In a While In The Middle of an Ordinary Life
. . . Love Gives Us a Fairytale. . .
