I noticed another thread here about name changing and it gave me thought that you all might be able to give me a hand. I've been with my fiancé for four and a half years now. My son is 9 and I left his dad when he was 4. Unfortunately my wee ones dad passed away a year ago on Thursday. I'm a bit worried about what to do with his last name. My ex and I didn't have the best relationship and he used to make my life hell to be honest, even up till his death he was a difficult man and he hated the fact I was in love with my fiancé so hated him. Now it's come around we are marrying in March and I'd like to have my OH name somewhere in my wee boys. Do I double barrel his name or just change it completely? I've asked him and he wants to be known as double barrelled, my OH though thinks it should just change to his last name but I don't want to upset anyone and I don't want to forget about the wee ones dad either. As much as we didn't get on sometimes, I still cared for him.

I'm with Samantha - couldn't have said it better myself.
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Yeah i would double barrel it too and he is already 9 so in a few years especially when he starts secondary school he will have a better idea of what he wants.... it is also not really up to your h2b as should be yours and your sons choice and he should accept whatever your son choices.

I totally agree with the others Double barrell and let little one decide if and when he wants to and as millz said really for your H2B to say (yes he will be ur family but it ur son u have to think of on this one) his dad made your life hell but ur little one will never forget him and if you take that part of the name away he may resent you for it as thats all he will have of his dad.

If you double barrell it now it give your son his old family and new family combined, it is a hard choice to make and it may be a while beofre ur little ones does anything but u never know he may never change it but at least you are giving him the choice xx