my older sister had been through a really tough time latelt - she has been through 2 major surgeries in the last year and has lost loads of weight. when i first got engaged i asked her to be my maid of honour (with my little sis as head bridesmaid) but since then then ( almost 10 months ago) she has shown no interest in the planning. I even took her to show her my dress and her reaction was ' yeh it fine....are we going for lunch after this?' - i feel guilty about being upset after all she has been through but i have been told that she has told people that ' all i go on about is stupid wedding stuff' - i only see her for like 15 mins every couple of days so i want to catch her up on whats happening. Do i have a right to be upset or am in overeacting?
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CommentAuthorGoff
Nope. Id be livid.
Having been through a lot does not give her the right to be so mean to you and to be gossiping about you to other people.
You need to tell her how you feel and ask her if she really wants to be in your wedding x x
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CommentAuthorCheryl22
ive said to her but she says im just being paranoid and ive got loads of time to plan things so i dont need to be bothering her while she is still trying to heal :(
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CommentAuthorGoff
I know shes been though a lot but it does sound like shes afraid the fuss on her will be taken away by the fuss over your wedding. Maybe a bit of sibling rivalry?
Maybe tell her that you know shes trying to heal and you thought that by involving her in your wedding plans it would take her mind off the unpleasantness of what shes been through and you would like her to be involed x
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CommentAuthorCheryl22
yeh i wish she could just understand how hurtful she can be - she always seems to lash out after surgery so i kno i shouldnt take it personal but its hard x
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that sound really rubbish Cheryl. maybe you should talk to her about when she would like to become involved better for both parties. you could say something along the lines of. I don't wont to take away from you healing But I really want you to be involved in the planning and getting ready So if you tell me when you are ready then there will be lots to do. please remember that I am only going to do this ones and I want it to be really special for me and for everyone I love. also if you are frustrated with the amount I talk about the wedding then talk to me not other people.
because weather it is 20 months away or 2 months away there is still lots that can be done
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CommentAuthorGoff
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CommentAuthor~*~ Becca ~*~
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why dont you try organise a day with you 2 to spend quality time together with NO TALK OF WEDDINGS...it could just be al she feels she's good for at the momemt is wedding stuff and feels you dont want to actually spend time with her as a sister!!! yes she could be taking a bit more interest but i know from experience that if you dont hve just social quality time with someone, have a day off from weddings, it can push them away which is certainly not what you want.
can understand you being upset about her gossiping but sometimes you got to look at it from other point of view..my ex bm told me thats all did was talk weddings and only text her when wanted somethin wedding related.
get meetin up for lunch , chat have a laugh etc xx
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CommentAuthorluvlifejen (mrs berr
i wouldnt be happy at all! my sister hasnt asked anything since we starting planning but then again she isnt involved in my wedding as such so why would she. maybe do what beccababy said?? x
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CommentAuthorbagpuss
is she married? could it be a touch of resentment coming through?
i only have five brothres so i don't really have the sister bond to call on. but if i had sisters i know it'd be the best thing to do wedding stuff with them. it must be really hard not having that with your sister. don't be confrontational, but i think it does need addressing. can you imagine if her mood carried over on to your bigday itself?
