Wedding Forum - And breath lol...

We recently got engaged and when we told h2b family I got, " ok" off his poor excuse of a mum ( long story) his sis said i' ll be out in a min amd never did and when showed her my ring I got " that's nice". His other sis who got engaged last month said congrats but think that was coz she had a text off he mum n other sis ( gossiping about it) his bro said congrats to our face and slagged us off behind our back about it and his half sis is a star and was only one who was genuinly happy for us. So I've cried I've ranted and I've got angry. And now I really don't know how I'm suppose to be happy around them. They were all happy when it was h2b sister who got engaged but us they couldn't even smile. And we live on our own, have a child together and have a string relationship. So I'm worried they won't include themselves in our wedding or even be interested. Why are some people so horrible? Sorry for rant just had enough of them now :,( xx

Everyone got on we'll til h2b dad died and now his mum n sister are lying and treating everyone like rubbish. It's like they have a problem with my OH coz they can't control him. What hurts the most is when he got married before they all took part and helped and his mum made the cake ect.. But this time like they don't even care at all. I know his mum has a problem because we both have our own minds and dont let her walk all over us and believe her rubbish she isn't interested in us or our LG x

You may not like what I am going to say but you still have 4 years until you are getting married, and a lot can change in that time. They won't be very interested at the moment as it is so far away, unfortunately others don't get as excited about our weddings as we do, but as it gets closer to the time you will find people want to know things and will ask about certain aspects more. And I agree with LauraJo, most families are more excited about a daughter getting married than they are a son (not really the right way I know) but it's because normally it is the brides parents who have the most input and are included the most. As for the other brother and sister it is probably just jealousy that you two are engaged and will be getting married. I had this problem with h2b's sister who actually stormed out crying and didn't speak to us for 4 months after purely because we got engaged before her, and she didn't even have a boyfriend and me and h2b had been together 3 years at the time and were living together!
I'm afraid you just need to be patient with them hun and eventually, they will come round and start getting excited, but be prepared for that to be in another 3 years or so. In the mean time, you can post on here and we will all get excited with you instead :) xxx

i know wat ur sayin its not nice that there not realy taking an intrest like other post said might be coz its a while away but at same time i know how u feel me n oh hav been engaged 5 years live 2 together n hav 2 kids n were getting the negative vibe from family members bout r wedding just wish i cud tell em 2 f *** off lol end of day its ur day n u do it how u n ur oh want 2 hav fun plannin n dont let people get u down x

id just ignore em thats wat iv done lol coz i dint talk bout it 4 ages it had em askin if were still doin it n i wa like yeah i just ant said owt coz i dint think use wa intrested lol x

Although its 4 years away you would expect a bit of excitement for the news and a decent congratulations so I can see your point on that. I don't think you should get yourself worked up about centre pieces, suits or bms until the venues have been booked and you've thought more about the details. I wouldn't advise having fish as centre pieces either as that is a disaster waiting to happen.

Don't make a big thing about it just yet, wait and see if they show any interest in the planning.

I think there's three things going they're still mourning the loss of h2b's dad, his sister got engaged only a month ago, and this will be your h2b second trip up to the altar. I wouldn't worry about it too much. As others have said 4 years is a long way away. Don't worry about bridesmaids or bridal parties just yet. Get some ideas together, work on a budget and savings plan, and most importantly enjoy being engaged!
You didn't say when his sister is planning on getting married, but I think that will play a huge role in when they'll get excited about your wedding. Until then we'll get excited for you and be interested in all your plans :) So post on this forum whenever you need a friendly ear or advice.

Sounds like a really good plan :)

I hope so glitter fairy, I know we've only been together for 2 1/2 yrs but we have LG together we live together and we are a string relationship. I think they just don't like other people being happy because makes them look at their own relationships and they realise that they aren't as good as they thought xx

**sorry said hun a million times in that msg**

I went through the same thing, when i told my family they werent even interested that i got engaged, due to the fact that i was engaged before i met my H2B. But when my younger sister got engaged everybody was having a party about it. I was shocked really. They still like that know, even though my and the OH have been together for 5 years, but the only thing i am glad about is having my H2B's family there to support me.