ok so im having my engagement party in 7 weeks now, my mother in law to be is being far too interfering the party is no kids apart from my daughter and younger brother and sister, yet shes invited loads of her friends we dont know and peoples kids too im so angry if shes like this over a party what will be like over my wedding :/
CommentAuthorkirstyless
I don't think you're wrong at all! You and your H2B need to put your foot down and tell her how it is. You're inviting people that you know to share your special moments with you and its your choice who is there not hers!
CommentAuthorkirstyless
Plus if you do give in for the engagement party, she might think she can get away with it for the actual wedding too x
CommentAuthormadhen
nip this in the bud or your wedding planning will be so much more stressful :(
CommentAuthorkatielea100
she saw my face when she said so n so n there kids n my h2b said but we didnt want kids there n she just replied "awww but there ded good" she doesnt listen what so ever told tom ii wasnt happy n he said i shud let his mum get more involved :/ she drives me bonkers lol xx
Gosh so he doesn't really like putting his foot down with her and just lets her get on with it? I'll come and be security on the door and anyone who's not been invited by you I'll turn them away hahaha even the mil if you like lol x
CommentAuthormadhen
That's just not fair - she won't be the one looking after the kids and it'll just add to your headaches wondering are they being kept in check. Plus it's one thing if she just thought it would be a good idea - it's another thing if she knows you've explicitly said no kids and she's just bulldozing over your wishes. Your H2b should back you up here. An engagement part is one thing but if you guys have decided no kids at the wedding then that's that, she needs to respect it. They may be well-behaved but that's not the issue! The issue is you had decided something and she's gone against that when she had no place doing so. She can be involved without becoming a dictator...
CommentAuthorkatielea100
hahaaha oohh sounds like a plan haha if i knew it was gonna be like this i wouldnt of botherd havin a party at all lol xx
CommentAuthorCupCake
so when you make your wedding guest list I suggest you don't get her involved lol My MIL kept harping on about my husbands cousin and their kids coming to the wedding ..... even though she paid for NOTHING and I mean NOTHING. The thing was my husband hadn't even seen his cousin for over 20 years, and his mother didn't even know his wifes name!!!! and she expected us to pay £15 per head for an extra 6 people ...... yeah right ... I stuck to my guns and didn't invite them, as hubby didn't want them there either lol put your foot down or she'll be a nightmare when you plan your wedding!
Became Mrs Lyons 30th July 2011 x
CommentAuthorkatielea100
i know but its like talking to a brick wall and she doesnt realise me n my h2b have to frok out more for catereing the more people she invites aswell xx
CommentAuthormadhen
Exactly! Think Kirstless's idea is the way to go :D
CommentAuthorkirstyless
She sounds like she wants to be in control of everything and your H2B needs to tell her to back off! I thought my mil could be controlling, but this is ridiculous...forget bridezilla its motherinlawzilla lol
CommentAuthorkirstyless
Haha get a load of ukbride brides on the door, we'd have her running scared haha
CommentAuthorkatielea100
thats exactly what she would do aswell shes defffo not having anythin to do with guestlist were having main family n i mean main as in the ones we see regulary and extremely close friends! lol xx
CommentAuthorCupCake
I feel your pain, my MIL never listens to us either .... so we don't tell her things until the last minute when it's too late to change things lol
Became Mrs Lyons 30th July 2011 x
CommentAuthormadhen
yes none of these random second cousins who you wouldn't recognise if you passed them in the street...
CommentAuthorkatielea100
haha she is a motherinlawzilla lol xx
CommentAuthorkatielea100
i dont even know any of my h2b family apart from his parents brother n gran parents he doesnt bother with anyone else lol xx
CommentAuthorCupCake
well I'm sure 600 relatives will come out of the woodwork when you're planning your wedding and MIL will want to invite them ALL lol
Became Mrs Lyons 30th July 2011 x
CommentAuthorkatielea100
haha most probs and at 35 a head in daytime it wont cost a fortune lool
CommentAuthorkatielea100
and she still going on asking if the kids can come today! aarrgghhh!! lol xx
CommentAuthorkirstyless
Just send her a letter everyday saying 'no children allowed' lol, she doesnt give up does she!
CommentAuthorXbox widow
Oh you need to put her straight now, dont let her hijack your wedding planning. Why is it families are either uninterested or to interferring why is there no happy medium?
CommentAuthorloustew2012
call her bluff say all these folk can come but you have to pay for them and the kids to be catered for, if she agrees then say something like the venue only due to health and safety can hold so many people and a liqour licence doesnt allow kids ha haha id have fun with that instead of stressing if she starts like that with the wedding say fine as long as you pay etc lol xxx
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CommentAuthorkatielea100
she doesnt give up, i would call her bluff but my brother is 10 ad hes comming ans so is my sister but there only comming becuase there my siblings otherwise they wouldnt be invited either lol just cant please her, lol stressed to the max now xx
CommentAuthorkirstyless
Give her an ultimatum, say its the kids or her lol, might be the only way to get through to her
CommentAuthorkatielea100
haha dont think shes speakin to me now she just rang and asked why these kids cant come when shes already invited them and shell look an idiot if she tells 'her' friends they cant bring them i replied tough and she put the phone down ooppsssyyyy xx
CommentAuthorsussie
do what my friend did, let her get on with it...
...and then we the wedding if she tries to get involved, sweetly tell her its traditionally the brides mother's responsibilty to draw up the guest list, and its a tradition you WILL be upholding lol.
then if you want her to make sure you havent forgot anyone you can, though saying that if you forget them, they cant be that important.
CommentAuthorkirstyless
Haha ahh well, why should you have her friends at your party grrr mil's!
CommentAuthorkatielea100
exactly lol she wont come now fingers crossed hehe
CommentAuthorkatielea100
mite try that actually. my h2b doesnt speak to 95% of his family anyway xx
Oh you need to put her straight now, dont let her hijack your wedding planning. Why is it families are either uninterested or to interferring why is there no happy medium?
