I don't really want a "Hen Night" as such I just want a pamper session with my girlies in a hotel the weekend before. When I told them what I wanted they pretty much all jumped down my throat saying I had to have one and that it's mighty selfish of me not to want to wanna go out and get slaughtered drunk with them, I don't mind going out with them all but when we do, I somehow always end up being the "mum" in the group and making sure everyone else gets home safe thats just my role LOL. I don't have a problem with it but do I really wanna be babysitting them all on my "hen night" I think not LOL......this is why I would much more prefer a hotel pamper something nice and relaxing. Is it wrong of me to want this instead of a full on club crawl??

I wish id stuck to my gund and not had one. So my advice is do what you want

Tell them if they feel like that they can go out in your honour, but as its your hen do, you will be doing something you want and if they dont like it, they dont have to come and those that are going for you will do what you want and the others are just looking for an excuse to get drunk.

It's your hen do. You can call the shots.
I don't want a big drunken night out, for one I don't drink so I don't want to be sat there while everyone else starts fallin down around me.

X

Ummm... Pampering and looking radiant versus dehydration & looking/feeling wrecked... I know which one I'd choose!!
Besides, going on a night out can be one at any time - you only get one hen, so do what you want!

I want to know how it makes you selfish its your hen night the day before you make your vows you don't want to be hung over or feeling ill stick to your guns its your night Do what you want to Do not what they want you to do that is so peer pressure theyare forcing on to you don't give in

I wont be having the traditional 'getting drunk' hen do either.
Reason being, i don't really drink and my youngest daughter will only be 11 and as she is a bridesmaid i want her to involved.
At the moment an at home pamper sounds likely, probably will get someone in to do our nails too x

Me & H2B want a "STEN" neither of us are all that sociable, having two kids we tend to stay in. We do both like going out for a drink but cant afford to with the boys. Plus we prefer to go drinking together.

The guys know they can still go all out with a stripper if they feel the need as me & one of my bridesmaids are bi anyway so the only one whos not is "lovely leesa" but we are all up for that sort of fun anyway.

Thinking of doing the STEN weekend before the wedding, then having a pamper sesh/gaming night for him the night before.

It's your night so do what YOU want to do!

Your totally not being selfish hun. I know i'm only in early 30's but my drinking days are long gone give me a spa day or afternoon tea at a nice hotel anytime over spending a pile of money to wake up the next day feeling tired and generally a bit sick no thanks! stick to your guns as the other girls have said its your hen doo so your choice and your rules. Any decent friends should be only to happy to join you.

I'm getting lots of grief cos I want no hen do of any description, no night out, no pamper weekend etc. and people are getting really annoyed about it. I've got enough on trying to plan a wedding that is happening 200 miles away without trying to free up a weekend and extra money!!!!!

Its completely your choice (or atleast it should be!) if you don't want one just tell them straight! You are not being selfish hun x

I don't think it's wrong of you at all to not want a hen night for those reasons. My h2b is worried because he doesn't really want a traditional stag do, he just wants to go to a snow dome with his friends and try skiing. They all want matching jackets and strippers. If you could meet my hubby to be you would lol because that couldn't be further from what he would want! You are not the selfish one, it is your friends who are being selfish because they are trying to pressure you to turn your hen do into what they want and not what you want. x

That sounds very similar to what I'd like for my hen do. I think you should stick to what you want and know you'll enjoy.

Your friends will get their own hen nights to pick what they want to do so should respect your decision. I'd love a girls weekend relaxing and being pampered! Sounds like the perfect pre wedding treat to me!

xx