Wedding Forum - Am i the only one that finds this rude...?...

Honestly i dont know if its because the wedding is looming nearer but people are really starting to get on my nerves lately lol

So finally have numbers for hen do then a woman i used to work with said oh my friend (who shes bringing) has 2 mates she wants to bring..... So i said id rather not as at this rate it will just be loads of random people i dont know and i wont enjoy myself.

So her friend turned around and said now shes not going as she had already asked her 2 mates and isnt fair if she comes! I mean really?? Plus my friend had already paid up for her too so shes £40 out of pocket

I said to my friend i would ask those who originally wanted to come but were to skint if theyd want to buy her place..

Anyway i just get a text from her saying oh this other woman (who i used to work with too and i only really invited her cus i felt like i had to at the time as i worked with her! as shes sooo loud and lary when drunk) well could her daughter have her friends space. I text back saying well i have asked my mates for you.. No reply... then this other woman texts me saying im with X at the moment Why doesnt my daughter come as X has paid out for her outfit and £80 now to come so this way it covers the costs unless you want to refund her £40 that is.....

Felt like i literally had no choice but to say yes even though I dont even know her daughter (plus shes excatly like her mum from what ive heard)
I just feel like im going to be completely over shadowed on the night by all these gobby people. :( (Plus shes stunning and slim, tanned, perfect hair and will be in some tiny skimpy costume making me feel like a hugeee blob too!!)

I know i may end up getting along with her but doesnt mean i really want her there and i dont know how to say anything either!!

Advice please ladies? :(

Thats the thing i said could bring A friend well that turned into 2 people then suddenly 4. I dont want tons of random people there as i really wont enjoy it!!

Just found it pretty rude aswell saying how shes £40 out of pocket which i should refund when im like a £100 odd out of pocket for all the people who had dropped out. I didnt make them all chip in and pay it.

if she dropped out id tell her to swing for her money. cheeky cow.

personally... i would have stood my ground from the very beginning and not invited her just because i felt i had to. Thats not a reason to invite someone to anything. If you dont want someone there.....

Dont invite them in the first place
Dont allow them to take the biscuit by inviting others
Dont agree to ANYTHING

Its your night! Not anyone elses, dont allow yourself to be walked on. Personally if I were in this situation, I would inform her plans had changed and we were going to somewhere further afeild, & everyone is meeting there at their own cost, then go to the original place & let her get stood up, but then I can be vindictive at times.

I dont only find it rude...but think its completely bizarre??!! why would anyone with any sort of social skills think this was acceptable??? You were nice enough to say an extra person at the start, but now all these people are coming?? Put it this way, your not losing any friends if you just say no and draw the line- because sounds to me as if they werent your friends in the first place!!!